A mark of one’s character is how they leave past relationships.    Are they still friends with past partners, family and employers? Do they have job references? Do they have a good relationship with the other parent of their child, whether they are together or not? Never for a moment stay with someone you have outgrown, but honor them enough to have the talk right away. Don’t talk to everyone but them. Blessed are the ones with the integrity to honestly speak their heart and mind so everyone leaves as friends.  I’m friends with all of mine (possibly minus 1? too soon to take score).  Well, I’m friends with all the ones who lived, let’s say that.  Some have no role model for ending a relationship honorably. They don’t know what it looks like, so it’s simply “cause a fight and disconnect from anyone who’s seen behind the curtain, demystifying the persona.” As an adult, my “Dear John” is “Hey, I love you pal but I don’t wanna do the boy/girl thing any more, so if we can morph into buddies, I’d be cool with that.”  No lies, no hurt feelings, that’s always the reason.  The truth will set you free.  When I began to feel trapped (difficult to phathom because these were men I deeply loved and enjoyed being with),  I would want to be alone again, to decompress from the time we spent together.  This is over a span of 40 years I’m talking.  I live in a quiet, peaceful and serene setting. I’m glad for the shakeup and wakeup of 2012 because without the contrast I wouldn’t so fall in love with my solitary life again, as I have now, and embrace my own space, my own silence with such a silly grin. Everything old is new again.  Thank you, vibrational matching.

Here are my tips for success and a happy life, both of which I have:

1.  Be honest.
2.  Give something of value.
3.  Let people know they matter.
4.  Clear up the past.
5.  Pray.
6.  Be grateful.
7.  Love no matter what, no matter who.

Yes, I have wild dreams but I love them: Last night was a night of lots of vivid dreams. One I remember most is I was in an area of racial unrest and we, many peoples of different colors, entered this huge nondenominational church, all of us holding hands in many rows. We closed our eyes to pray for peace, this voice from outside the dream came into my head and told me to let the love and light in. So I did what I usually do in meditations to open up the energy and let it flow. Light started flooding into the entire building until there was nothing but pure white light everywhere and I had somehow floated upwards. It was a beautiful feeling. This is what we are supposed to be doing — bringing light and love into this world while we’re here, as best as we can. We have our dark moments and the paradox is without darkness, there is no light. So, in our struggles, we’re making our light stronger and brighter in the face of this darkness that envelopes us at times. Raymond Hines, Owner/Publisher at GatorCountry.com – The Insider Authority on Gator Sports!

Ok Caryn E Bishop, you began an avalanche. I saw your invite to connect on Linked-In and clicked on it and see I had 252 invitations waiting from last year.  I don’t know my way around Linked In, so I just selected all and accepted everyone. I figured I’d sort them out later, not realizing I’d get an email from every one of them.  You guys will hafta tell me how and why to use Linked-In. I am such a non-professional biz person. My tips to success are be honest, give something of value, let people know they matter, clear up the past, pray, be grateful and love no matter what, no matter who.

Make it easy for me.  Tell me in THE FIRST message what the cause is and open a Paypal account for it.  Give me at least 30 days advance notice if it’s an event or time deadline.  I will not give you a credit card number. I may not have time to go to a link you include. If you need a check, tell me in THE FIRST message who to make it payable to and where to mail it.  If I have to message back and forth about it because ALL the info is not in THE FIRST email, I lose interest and you may lose my donation.

I wrote yesterday that YinYang brought home a playmate as a young calico manx came to visit, lying on the driveway and following Yinny in the cat door to the kitchen.  I know better, so I put her back outside.  This morning, I dreamed I found her playing under my bed, so I picked her up and began petting her.  Yesterday when I first saw her, she seemed clean and fluffy and about 8 months old.  In the dream however, upon closer inspection she seemed about 3 months old, thin with ragged fur and fleas. Fleas! I quickly fed her and ran for the flea shampoo.  In the dream, I felt horrified I’d not noticed yesterday that she was so young, so thin, so ragged and flea bitten.  I felt pain for her suffering, thinking I had the chance to feed and attend to her yesterday and I sent her on her way. As I carried her into the bath, I felt overwhelming sorrow and shame for not noticing her condition right away. All I saw was a cute new kitten demanding attention and being all lovey.  In the dream, I bathed her and flea combed her, I fed her and cuddled her.  As her fur dried, she fluffed out before my eyes, the worn patches filled in and she fattened a little.  Purring, she slept cuddled next to my neck as I wondered, should I keep her? Should I give her away? I was angsting over whether I wanted to take on the responsibility for another being in the household, but if I was meant to do it, I’d do it. She decided for me. She woke up, yawned, and walked out the cat door on her own.  Satisfied the decision had been made for me, I fell sound asleep. I woke up smiling at the play of the Universe.

A Sword is a weapon – a finely crafted tool to cut through any obstacle or confusion. The gift of the Ace of Swords is mental clarity, truth, justice and fortitude.  The Ace of Swords is a symbol of possibility in the area of intelligence, reason, justice, truth, clarity and fortitude. In readings, it shows that a seed of clear understanding has been planted in your life although you may not yet recognize it. When the seed sprouts, it could take almost any form. It might be a compelling idea, desire for the truth, call to justice, or a need to be honest. On the outside, it could be an offer, gift, opportunity, encounter or synchronistic event.  Sometimes this Ace stands for a challenge that will test you in some way. Life never goes smoothly for long. Sooner or later a hurdle shows up, and the Ace of Swords can tell you when one is coming. This card is also a reminder to you to face your challenge, whatever it is, with courage, honesty and a firm resolve. In every challenge, there is opportunity.  When you see the Ace of Swords, examine your life to see how its clean, sharp energy could work for you. Think about your problem objectively. Look for situations that are unjust or confusing and resolve to set them right. Above all else, commit to being honest and ethical. This card tells you that you do have the inner resources to overcome all obstacles and find the truth of your situation. That is the promise of the Ace of Swords.

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When angered words are sent to you, don’t accept it.  Send it back with love. Treat the messenger as a delivery person at the wrong address.  Angry people do not understand peaceful communication.  What do you do with someone who doesn’t understand that? You allow them to express themselves alone. Eda Pugliese-fey

Boy, timing is everything! I never do anything until time feels right.  Since January I’ve needed new tires, so I researched prices and tossed the info in the car for when I felt ready to buy.  Today I asked my friend Mike Kremer (he’s also my pest control guy!) to check my tires for me while he was here, and I’m reminded he works for Walmart in the Tire Dept on Palm Bay Road. On his advice, I headed down there and, bottom line price after discounts for 4 tires for my Toyota Prius installed was $379.68!  I also have a store rebate of $40 for signing up for a Walmart credit card, and I have 12 months same as cash to pay for the tires.  I’m glad I waited!  I walked through the garden center while they were doing my tires.  An associate was watering the plants, I offered to help but she laughed and said that wasn’t permitted.  Then I did a few walking laps around the store. I love looking at all sorts of cool merchandise and not feeling the need to own any of it.  I stepped into the waiting room and did a few sets of chair dips. Having a desk job, I like to sneak in a little exercise whenever I can.  They had just finished ringing me up when Mike came in and walked me out.  I kept my best tire as a spare. The tires felt great on the highway!  I’d cleaned out the car before I took it in and now I’ll chose carefully what goes back in: the ever present beach gear and change of clothes, the Tao of Pooh, Coleman Barks’ cd of Rumi’s I Want Burning, the necessities. Now I’m ready for that road trip.

I woke up this morning to find Yinnie my mini cow hanging in the driveway with a little calico bobtail cat that looked about 8 months old.  When I walked out, she ran over and stood on her hind legs so I reached down and scratched her head.  She began climbing up my jeans, so I picked her up for a cuddle.  YinYang got up and walked toward the cat door, and the calico bobtail scrambled to get down and ran in it before Yinnie.  “Oh no, you don’t,” I thought, as I ran into the house to see them emerge from the cat door one after another into the hallway and casually stroll into the kitchen for breakfast.  Since she seemed well fed, I put her back outside. One kitty is enough.