The Magical Healing Shower came to me years ago as I stood exhausted at the end of a very long and challenging day. I stepped into the shower and sighed loudly as I lifted my face into the flowing water. I asked that the water remove the stress of the day, and I was immediately transported into a standing meditation that felt transformative on all levels. In the shower, you visualize all the stress, any pain or sadness or confusion and pain being washed off you as if it were mud. Standing in a flow of water affects the body and the energy field. Here’s the process: Continue reading
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You want to heal and teach? Tell the story as it really happened
I already know what the spin will be. The spin will be the house was in foreclosure, the court date was coming up and everyone was moving out anyway. That doesn’t negate a year of unnecessary blowups, refusal to help when asked, not paying rent, habitually lying, disrespecting your parent in their own home, letting your girlfriend do the same and causing a massive scene of hateful words upon departure. Living across the street, I hear more than I want to hear. He has never left a relationship honorably, not even with family. Both of them spin tales in their blogs about their journey of enlightenment, not writing about what actually goes on day by day, the real life lessons. Yes, he acted dishonorably and won’t admit it, but she takes it to a whole new level of continued outright fabrication. If it was me? If I had done that? I’d be sorry for the hurt I’d caused. I’d own up to what I did and recognize I did it out of a place of imbalance. I’d apologize for being unconscious and acting selfishly. Now that’s a hot topic for a blog post – the truth about a difficult situation and how you really handled it. That is what teaches, that is what heals. But, since it’s not me, I don’t expect that to happen. Continue reading
A walk through the hours of the day in a Benedictine monastery
Elizabeth Griffin writes :”I have often had an image of myself as a monk in housewife garb. It’s a portrait that does not present any sense of struggle as much as reminding me of who I am within. I know my path is not a cloistered one. Still, I have always been interested in a hermit’s ethic. To my delight, I recently discovered the books of David Steindl-Rast. He is a Benedictine Monk, originally from Austria, who resettled in the States and lives in a Monastery in Big Sur, CA. He wrote a book called Music of Silence, in which he walks the reader from morning until night from the point of view of his religious order. The day is broken into parts that are accompanied by chants and prayer. So each segment of the day has characteristics on which reflection can take place.
As a parent, do you enable or disable your children? Do the tv shows they watch enable them or disable them?
I didn’t raise kids, although we had custody of a stepdaughter for 3 years. She was independent, she was smart, she was street savvy. That was all good since her mother left her on her own so much from age 4 until we got her at age 10. I had insights this year about why the new generation is like they are. Many of them have had to raise themselves. Many of them are under-educated and emotionally over-charged. A friend has two children she’s left unattended overnight all year long as she spends nights at her boyfriend’s. They are used to raising themselves. Their home schooling leaves them unprepared and under-socialized, their peers and role models are on tv. Each is emotionally halted at about age 10. Continue reading
A peaceful end to a roller coaster ride
A friend has burned another bridge, this time his mother as he leaves her in the lurch after having housed him and his girlfriend since February, with no help from them. I’ve seen the violent outbursts firsthand and am glad she’s free of the financial drain and psychological abuse from them both. Being across the street I hear more than I want to hear. There is never an excuse to disrespect anyone as they’ve both done. Never. I’m sure there will be an interesting spin on this story in their blogs, but I won’t be reading them. I wasn’t even asking for the info last week when my spidey sense told me that I should out of the blue call his father, whom I’ve known 20 years. Unknown to me at the time, he’d just had the blow up at home and stormed out to move in with his dad. My spidey sense “warned me” but I didn’t know of what. I just knew he was no longer at his mom’s, who lives across the street from me.
Turn your attention elsewhere and stop creating more karma
A friend complained to me about a “self described healer and teacher and student of zen” who is a sociopath, a habitual liar, has unethical business practices and doesn’t pay their bills. I asked what his problem with it was. “Well, they shouldn’t be allowed to get away with it.”
Me: “Why make it your business? Can you turn your attention to something else?”
Him: “But it will still be happening, it won’t stop because I stopped paying attention to it.”
Me: “But it will stop bothering YOU if you stop paying attention to it.”
Him: “But that doesn’t stop them.”
Me: “You don’t have to stop them. It’s not your job to stop them.”
Him: “So what’s my job? How do I fix the situation?”
Me: “You fix the situation by turning your attention to something else. You leave them up to the Universe to handle. You find fun and interesting things to focus on. You release them to their own karma. That way you stop creating more karma in your own world.” Continue reading
Ah, the day after Halloween
The candy that was the big goal and focus all month now lies strewn on the table and everyone is sick from it. I’ve done that with so many things in my life, strived for a particular goal because everyone else did, then got sick of it because I wanted it to make me happy and it didn’t. But it’s a process of elimination and every year I learn more.
Let everything happen to you
Let everything happen to you. Beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final. ~Rainer Maria Rilke
I know the power of my attention, do you?
Most of us have no idea of the power of our attention. Whether an object, a person or a situation, my attention to it breathes life into it, it activates it, it expands it, it amplifies it. When I gain power over my attention, I can be very powerful indeed. Life improves the more connected and allowing I can be. As I attune myself to the finer frequencies, and train my senses to be more acute, more aware, able to pick up the subtle nuances of energetic flow, my life gets easier and I am more in the flow with many good things. It’s all a matter of focus and attention. And I’m the one who is in charge of where I maintain my focus, how intensely and for how long. You know that friend you have who always is so happy to see you, who gushes over you and makes you feel like the most loved person on the planet? The power of their attention causes you to expand into more of who you really are. Their attention causes your beliefs to stretch and become flexible, to allow in other possibilities, to access greater potential. Or that furry friend that greets you morning and night, always thrilled to see you, delighted by your attention! Seek out the people who activate and expand you and test it for yourself. Let the ones who contract you fade into the background. Then turn your attention back to the people around you, and know the power you have when you turn your positive attention on them.
Beware the narcissistic sociopath disguised as your “Soul Mate”
Paula Renee writes: Will You Be My Next Soul Mate? The idea of a soul mate is very romantic. To meet someone else in this world of billions who shares your same values, interests, desires, and goals is an exhilarating notion, don’t you think? It’s possible to meet someone who, at any given moment in time, is at the same place you are geographically and spiritually. But to think two people can remain on a joint wavelength over many, many years is, in my mind, a set up for failure. Yet, we continue to watch those silly movies that end in “happily ever after” and fool ourselves into thinking it’s real. Enter the narcissistic sociopath. A master at making the magic SEEM real just long enough to send you spiraling into a fog. The narcissist as our “SOUL MATE” is cunning and knows who to select and who to avoid. He will come on strong, sweep us off our feet. He seems to have the same values, interests, goals, philosophies, tastes, habits. He admires our intellect, ambition, honesty and sincerity. He wants to marry us quickly. He fakes integrity, appears helpful, comforting, generous in his ‘idealization’ of us phase. It never lasts. Eventually Jekyll turns into Hyde. Continue reading