Monthly Archives: February 2013

We all get what we deserve because we all attract what we activate in those around us

On a Facebook thread, someone wrote that she hoped someone got what they deserved.  I replied, “I believe we all get what we deserve, by our choice of where we focus our attention. If I focus on someone being a lazy bum, that’s what I’ll see. If I focus on someone taking time out to incubate a dream and get a life plan together, that’s what I’ll see and how I’ll react to them.  How I act with them determines how they react to me and how they see themselves.  We can activate either side of their personality by our attention to one aspect or another.”  What are you activating?

When you become aware of any kind of negative reaction to anyone, present or not, tell him silently: “God is the Love in which I forgive you.”  ACIM W-pI.46.7:3-5

I thought this was over, let it go. Life is so much bigger than this silly blip in time

Don’t tell me something didn’t happen when I watched it unfold before my very eyes.  Literally.  On the monitor in front of me.  Earlier this week I’d posted at Jeremy and Misty, I wish you well but please block me that I came home exhausted from a family emergency to messages and calls telling me my ex has been spending time with someone. We’re not together, they’ve been interested in each other since last year, I have real things on my mind and I don’t care.  My issue is he kept up several very contrived lies to keep getting personal favors (transportation) from me. Then I came across him telling her that I hold him back and I don’t walk my talk. This from a man who told me I saved his life, was his stepping stone to freedom. That to me was the ultimate betrayal.  Days after I make the post and the drama has died down, she writes:  Continue reading

Happy Valentine’s Day 2013

For Valentine’s Day, as I reflect on my love life the last year, I am reminded that I attract everything that comes into my experience.  As long as I love being a lifeguard, I’ll attract the swimmer in distress.  Because of the private consultation work I do, I am several times a day vibrating in the space of someone in the midst of conflict resolution.  The purpose of the consult is to raise the vibe, so by the end of the session, I’m usually back in a good place, or I take some time to myself to get myself back in a good emotional vibe.  My work is one reason I go for years between relationships.  My distorted belief based on history (which was only my history because it was where I vibed in the past) is that I can either pour all my energy and attention into my work or I can pour it into one person. My distorted belief is that I can’t successfully do both.  Hence, I attracted someone in whose vibe I didn’t allow myself to successfully work my practice.  I attracted a vibrational match to my belief, even tho my belief was false.  Since it was MY belief, it became MY reality.  I attracted it. Continue reading