Andrea de Michaelis

A friend of a friend keeps trying to intervene in a situation neither party wants her involvement in.  She won’t drop it. It’s none of her affair.  If ever the parties want to discuss it, they will do so directly.  I was asked why I don’t report it to law enforcement. That’s because  (1) I know the law and people are allowed to have their say and (2) I don’t need “the law” when karma is doing its work. While her tactics may have worked in high school, it’s now affecting the lives of people around her who don’t deserve it. If I got a restraining order against her, she would not be permitted at his home.  That’s not how I roll.  I purposely stay away from several venues so she can integrate into the spiritual families there.  I bless her and forgive her for doing whatever she feels compelled to do.  If she has questions for me concerning she and I, she can email them and I’ll gladly answer them.  So can you, so can anyone. I am not a believer of involving authorities when it’s unnecessary. And especially if it’s going to put someone on the map who doesn’t need to have attention drawn to them as it’s not their doing.

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I have to give a shout out to Debi Buck of Beyond The Box Photography for my new headshots.  Her sessions are fun and affordable, and her portraits rock!  Here’s her Facebook page.

The difference is that I write about what I personally experience, and I share my impressions about what I personally experience. A third party is writing criticism about me based on what someone else told her was true. I could have said, “what someone else in anger told her was true,” because, personally knowing each person, to me that is what it appears. But I do not know that as a fact since I was not there to witness it firsthand. So I can’t say that. Unless I was there, it’s none of my affair. I spend the last year standing up for someone she’s just discovering. It’s a new crusade to her but for us, it’s deja vu all over again. If and when he ever wants to reach out to me, he will.  He’s his own man.  If and when I want to reach out to him, I will.  The idea that a third person, who wasn’t there, who has already sought out mutual friends to spread mis-info about me and talks about suing me, would be the appropriate one to mediate, is unconscionable. To those who know either of us for the last 20 years, no more needs to be said. Never stifle your voice.  Always write your impressions, on everything.  Just don’t, however well meaning, write as “truth” what you yourself did not experience firsthand.  That’s keeping it real. That’s also keeping it legal.

“Do you know the feeling that comes with being in alignment. alignment with purpose, passion and just life.  It feels like when you are walking side by side with someone and your stride matches theirs! Or how cool it is when the marching band all have the same moves at the same time! I JUST FEEL THAT WAY ABOUT MY BUSINESS… I AM IN ALIGNMENT.”  Veronica Drake
The whole last week has been one synchronicity and stroke of luck after another. I love the feeling of being in the slot, in the right place at the right time. I can tell I’m there when everything flows smoothly. And I just once more rearranged the living room. The chi is flowing!

Since it’s being brought up YET AGAIN when it was long over,  I write this. In 2012 a friend and I argued and GOT OVER IT.  Afterwards, a mutual Facebook friend decided instead of amicably resolving through understanding and taking of personal responsibility (which he did) Someone needed to instead be ticked off and sue me.  Someone and I soon defriended Third Party.  Although WE had moved past it, the argument caused a lot of behind the scenes activity with FB “friends.”  I played down the fact of being harassed almost daily for months by people with phony profiles for accounts deactivated, because they thrived on the attention. It became clear who the source of the harassment was but I reported no one. I simply responded to their concerns in my blog.  I was accused of things they later found others had done, yet did not amend the blog accusing me. Third Party now, months later, is again actively making accusations about things she wasn’t in the picture to witness. Anyone going to her links can read that I did not say what she claims. I don’t need to defend anything.  Under the guise of “seeking advice on reconciliation,” she’s mentioning her story to many we mutually know.  Bless everyone she feels she needs to involve in this situation for whatever her agenda is.  Count me out. I delete her emails as they come in. Bless her. I moved on months ago.  It’s between he and I, period. If my friend and I have something to say to each other, one of us will reach out.  It’s not for anyone else to decide when or even if that ever needs to happen. 

I know you’re acting like you’re trying to help.  This is a matter between two people and you’re not one of them. You look at it as a confrontation needing mediation in a public place?? All it takes is a few simple emails between the parties involved, when either wants it.  There is no hurry. You are not one of those parties.  No drama required.  I no longer read your emails.
RELATED: It’s all related.

Me: “You should do this for money.”
He: “If I was good at it, I would.”
Me: “Hold my hand.  Give me whatever impressions come to mind.”
He: “The first thing is a man in a sailor suit, he came right away.” Next, “elephants with their trunks going wild.”
Me: “I rest my case.”  
Earlier in the day I did a reading, and the client sent me a photo of her father in a sailor suit.  I laundered all the wall hangings today and also included the footstool cover, which depicts dozens of elephants with upraised trunks.   I count that as two direct hits.  If you want to keep your skills up, all it takes is practice.

Bless you, but you’re just causing damage with your misunderstood intervention.  If there’s anything to be resolved, it would be between the two parties.  They can email each other directly when either wants contact.  Thanks for your concern, helpful person. And to anyone who has any questions for me personally, between you and I, feel free to email me a list of your concerns and I will be happy to address them.  I welcome input; it helps me consider course correction.  Everyone is my teacher.

It’s nice to be wanted! I just got my third offer in 30 days to be included in projects getting national exposure, all requiring very little input on my part… Call me crazy but more exposure just feels like more work. I’m looking to slow down and chill out. I feel I’ve had my 15 minutes many times over. As a 12th house Aries, I’m comfortable behind the scenes.

In trying to help, she talked so long and loud about what her new friend had already moved past, what had died down months earlier, that she moved him up in the search engine rankings, and not for his best work.  That’s what happens when you make choices from a place of disconnection, for personal inclusion.  This is why you never speak for someone else.  If you don’t know enough to help them, at least stop hurting them in the name of standing up for an underdog.  He’s not an underdog. He’s a man doing his best to get his life together the only way he knows how, and he’s making progress.  Stop seeing him as someone who needs to be fixed.

If you’re spending time with another human, you’re going to have disagreement. How you feel about each other will waver back and forth.  It’s not easy having a mirror right in front of you.  Only when you don’t recognize it as a mirror does it become uncomfortable. That’s when moods begin swinging. That’s when doors begin swinging.  Until you work it out with one of them, you’re going to keep getting that lesson in the form of others just like them. Different face. Different name. Mates, employers, children. Same lesson. Make it easy on yourself. Pick just one of those people to work it out with and get on with your happy life. Oh and yes, of course, make amends with the past, owning up to yourself where you’ve been untruthful, then forgiving everyone and everything in it, including yourself.
Hawaiian Forgiveness Ho’oponopono Process 

I’ve been working on final layout of the July Horizons this week and not much else. This afternoon I got to have a quick sushi with a pal before getting into the evening work. It’s cool when a pal lives within walking distance, works from home as I do, and we have similar habits, lifestyle, interests and language. It gives us that automatic shorthand that makes conversation so effortless, revelatory and satisfying. For someone with as little free time for socializing as I, that’s a big plus.  My ideal relationship with a man is that of a brother on the Path, someone interested in connection to Source – whatever that looks like to them, personal growth, yoga, fitness, meditation. Someone who likes their quiet, contemplative time, someone aware of their own psychic connection and the power of each holy instant.   Continue reading →

The deep, dark places are only terrifying if you forget to let your own light shine. Charlie Scheidecker

Anytime down the road you want to talk about something and put it to rest without a rehash, I’m game.  Life’s too short not to. An email is all it takes. And to anyone who has any questions for me personally, between you and I, feel free to email me a list of your concerns and I will be happy to address them.  I welcome input; it helps me consider course correction.  Everyone is my teacher. In the interest of time and clarity, tell me specifically what you wish in your first email so we do not have to go back and forth unnecessarily. If I’ve said something you want clarity on, copy and paste it for me and ask your question. If you want a blog post revised, tell me what you want it to say instead.  Write the first email to me as if it’s your only chance to say whatever you want to say, because it might be the only one I have time to read. Make it easy for me to address your concerns, by telling me in detail what they are.  Thank you.