What am I not? I am not this body, I am not this personality, I am not my job nor my labels, nor my income, nor my credentials nor my history, nor my thoughts. So who am I without all that? in lucid moments, I know and that sustains me until the next lucid moment.
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Car Seat Party Roadtrip to Cassadaga
We went on a fun road trip yesterday morning. It was rainy and overcast as we left Melbourne but it was clear by the time we crossed the county line. It was beautifully sunny in Cassadaga. Seeing the 32909 weather, I almost postponed the trip for a few days. I went out to the garage and cleaned out the car, then thought to check the weather for the destination. I’m glad I did, I saw it was clear today but would be rainy the next two days. That convinced me! I grabbed the man and off we went. He’s the best road trip partner, we always have a blast. First, a stop at Starbucks for Venti Americano decaf topped with a splash of soy milk. I always ask them to shake the carton before they pour it. Correction, we ordered half caf, not decaf, so I knew we were in for a lively morning. Continue reading
There is always a way to leave a situation with integrity and kindness
A friend has left town owing money to an overly kind landlord and others. You want a new start in a new place where no one knows you? That’s not how you leave negativity behind because where ever you go, there you are. Remember your karma follows you everywhere and your point of attraction remains the same until you change it. You always know what your vibrational point of attraction is because the evidence is showing up in front of you every minute of every day. You can change your point of attraction on any topic using these –> 13 Steps Back To Balance. And there is always a way to leave a situation with integrity and kindness
I consider it an honor when someone uses me as a scapegoat
A pal was being maligned on Facebook by someone caught in their own lies and she apologized to anyone getting private messages about it. I told her I consider it an honor when someone publicly uses me as the scapegoat to work out their own reflection. That tells me I’m in their life for soul growth. Knowing that, I deeply bow and appreciate the honor. Plus karma is only a bitch if you are.
Who Decides Who’s the Black Sheep of the Family? The Family Scapegoat Serves a Very Important Purpose
My big brother Jerry was early on dubbed the black sheep, simply because he rebelled. He saw injustice and he stood up for us kids but the patriarch had the power to banish him from the kingdom and no one dare speak his name foreverafter. I’m sure this placed our father in his own particular hell for many years later, although I have long forgiven him. So who gets to decide who’s the black sheep? I’m known as the sweet but misguided one who’s going to hell because of what I believe, and believe so publicly in Horizons Magazine. Wise words from galpal Barbara Nowak: “The family scapegoat serves an important purpose in a hurting family: it takes the spotlight off of the real issues and projects it all on to one individual who will do “bad” for them. If children can’t get attention for being positive, they will get it anyway they can, including being “bad.” Some get “locked into” the bad drama . . courts, drugs… violence, victimization, etc. But if the person steps out of the “bad” role, it’s amazing to watch the entire family try to squeeze him/her back into it so they don’t have to look within. Any family therapist will tell you that the scapegoat is often the “healthiest” member cuz they will tell the truth (actually, scream the truth) while others play games. Long live the Black Sheep!!”
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Real Housewives of Atlanta: Apollo admits he lied about Kenya and kept it up for two years
I’ve watched the Real Housewives shows off and on the past couple of years and have had a couple of the housewives as clients. I like reality shows because I like to see how people act, react and relate during all kinds of conditions. Under stress is when we learn who someone really is, and under stress we learn who we are, too. RHOA cast member Kenya Moore is an easy villain to target. She knows she’s hot, she’s narcissistic, she openly flirts with friends’ husbands, she’s an instigator, she’s unapologetically arrogant and has a history of fabrication and exaggeration. She’s like a female version of Phaedra’s husband Apollo, and they both love the attention. A vibrational match. In last night’s show, Apollo admits he lied to his wife and everyone else about Kenya coming on to him. He literally dragged Kenya thru the mud all season and, well, we all believed it because, after all, look at her past actions. When he told his cast mates that it was all a lie he made up, they lit into him for letting them side with him for two years while they talked sh*t about Kenya in Apollo’s defense. But who’s the real villain here? Kenya for baiting the hook, then being taken aback when she attracts a bigger fish than she bargained for? Or Apollo for getting caught in Kenya’s web and reacting as he did? Clearly neither of them were thinking about the consequences of their actions. Continue reading
The answer to my bangs dilemma
It all balances out in the end, if you believe it will
The day began with a surprise doubling in price of an essential item, a $159 increase, but I didn’t fret because it was worth it and that’s life. Then I was looking through all my jacket pockets gathering gloves for washing and found two $100 dollar bills I didn’t know were there. At the end of the day, it’s all about balance.
It’s all about perception
What I learned about myself on the beach yesterday
I love it when friends give me big realizations about myself. Yesterday I took an early drive to the beach. Temps were dropping and the daybreak sky looked stormy. On the beach, it was windy and the surf was rough. My hair was in a million strings within minutes. On the boardwalk, I saw a friend I hadn’t seen in a couple of years and it was fun to reconnect. Some people are invigorating to be around, they seem to make everyone come alive around them. It’s not so much that they’re the life of the party, more that they have such intense passion for life that it’s engaging to hear them talk about it. I especially enjoy conversations with friends who talk about their spiritual journey and what tools they use to help them work through issues as they arise. We’ve both studied EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and A Course in Miracles, so we discussed what we did to practice in our daily lives what we’ve learned in our studies. Continue reading