Monthly Archives: January 2015

Relationship Saving Tip: Let them love you in their own way

Just had a reading on a universal topic. Your partner can love you even if they have stopped participating and responding as they used to. Relationship Saving Tip: Let them love you in their own way. Do not expect your partner to be everything for you. Do not expect them to be your best friend and your lover and your advisor and your cheerleader and your rescuer and your income and your entertainment. Do not think you have to text them with every move you make and every thought you have. Put that energy into cultivating your own interests. Rather than pouting that your partner doesn’t go to the gym, find another workout partner. If you’re the night owl and they go to bed at sunset, find someone to hoot and howl the night away. If you find that is not enough for you, there’s always time to make a new decision. Most importantly, don’t risk losing your best friend.

It’s easy to eat healthy and fresh while travelling

fruit on white plateIt’s easy to eat healthy and fresh while traveling.  It just takes a little planning ahead.  I used to travel so much I learned to bring healthy snacks with me.  I was reminded of that when the man and I went to breakfast this morning. We wanted to stick close to home so we went to IHOP. I was reminded why I don’t go into just any restaurant. My spinach mushroom omelet was 900 calories and 90 grams of fat (although I got it without cheese), the hashed browns 300 calories and 20 grams of fat. I usually do a max of 60 grams of fat a day. Had I given it a thought, I’d have researched the nutrition facts ahead of time. I must say though that the omelet was really good and it was huge. Here are IHOP’s nutritional facts (calories, fat grams, carbs, sugars, etc) –>…/PDFs/nutritionalinformation.ashx  Continue reading

My new Stamina R360s exercise bike, a $25 Craigslist find

exercise bike Stamina R360sHere’s my new Stamina R360s exercise bike, a $25 Craigslist find, six blocks from home.  Score!  I found a user’s guide online but not for my model, so don’t know how to adjust the tension on the front wheel. Reviews of this machine say that’s a popular problem no one seems to know how to fix but while it IS high resistance, it IS do able as is.  I was able to remove a screw behind that black knob (shown in the photo bottom center) to adjust the length for my long legs.  I couldn’t budge the knob by hand so I used a strap wrench.  It’s fun!  So far…

Plumbers friends have recommended to me for Palm Bay, FL

plumber wrench plungerThis morning I wrote on Facebook, “Who can recommend a plumber in Palm Bay, FL? I’m on a septic system. One slow flushing toilet yesterday, today the other one also a slow flush. Heard a sucking sound in toilet #2 a minute after toilet #1 was flushed, opened it and saw the water had drained out of the bowl. I’ll plunge but want a referral to a plumber.” An hour later I went to Home Depot for a new plunger and Carl in the plumbing dept said from what I told him — and he asked several questions for details — I don’t have a clog but may want to check the filter. I had the grey tank rejuvenated in 2011 and the black tank pumped out about the same time. I came home from Home Depot and both are working fine. I got lots of referrals to plumbers, however, and here they are with contact info if I have it:   Continue reading

An effective process for releasing hurt and overcoming grief

dove-with-handMy friend Celeste is having a problem with constipation and hemorhoids.  I looked up the metaphysical cause, which said “holding onto past angers and being afraid to let go of them.”  Celeste told me, “I don’t know how to release the past hurt and anger. My dad passed when I was 15. Two years later, I got a blood clot in my brain. I was the youngest and the only child left at home. My mom never liked me. At an early age, I just didn’t like her either. I had just run away from home and within a month I got the blood clot. Since I was on mom’s insurance, she was called. I’m glad for that insurance in retrospect, since, I felt strongly about only getting on board with over 80 life insurance, I thought, I would never need it in my youth, silly me. She came and was beyond livid. She felt somehow I purposely developed that blood clot just for the attention. She really never spoke to me again. Not that she spoke to me much, or kindly before that. I honestly don’t know how to get over it all. I have tried several ways. And I seem to keep reliving my childhood…I am in situations I perceive I am “stuck in and unloved.  I wish I knew how to release the past hurt and anger.”  I shared with Celeste a process that works for me for releasing hurt and overcoming grief. I felt great relief after I did the process for the first time.  As time went on and the hurt and grief arose again, I would repeat the process.  Here it is for you:    Continue reading

When someone feels familiar, it’s because you’re vibing in the same place. It doesn’t mean they are healthy and right for you

We are attracted to people that feel familiar on an energetic level – which means (until we start clearing our emotional process) people that emotionally / vibrationally feel like our parents did when we were very little kids.  At a certain point in my process I realized that if I met a woman who felt like my soul mate, that the chances were pretty huge that she was one more unavailable woman that fit my pattern of being attracted to someone who would reinforce the message that I wasn’t good enough, that I was unlovable.   The way to stop reacting out of our inner children is to release the stored emotional energy from our childhoods by doing the grief work that will heal our wounds.  The only effective, long term way to clear our emotional process is to grieve the wounds which we suffered as children.  Until we start releasing the hurt, sadness, rage, shame, terror – the emotional grief energy – from our childhoods we will keep having dysfunctional relationships.   Robert Burney, M.A.

I’m always grateful for the mirror

2 people picture frame copyWhen I come across a mirror, I look into it long enough to see myself, fix what needs fixing and move on.  Everyone I meet is a mirror.   I like to take a look at those around me and find what it is about me they are mirroring. Sometimes I’m surprised and delighted. Sometimes I’m horrified and humbled. I’m always grateful for the mirror.

How Do Psychedelics Treat Mental Health Conditions and Prevent Suicide?

entheogen meditation I first experienced psychedelics in my late teens and now, 40+ years later, I am still one of the most mentally healthy people I know.  In Could Psychedelics Be An Effective Suicide Prevention Measure? Carolyn Gregoire writes: “The new wave of research on the medical applications of psychedelic drugs has suggested these substances hold considerable promise as therapeutic interventions for a number of mental health conditions. Psilocybin (magic mushrooms), LSD and mescaline may also be an effective suicide prevention measure.”  Psychedelics have long been used for healing, bonding and ritual by experienced and spiritually connected elders who guide the journey.  Psychedelics modify neural pathways that move you to a different plane of comprehension. Once you transcend your ordinary state of comprehension and experience there is more to life than repetition of everyday tasks, an entire new world opens to you and life takes on new meaning. Connection to the natural world is a big part of it.   Entheogen is a term used in reverence of substances that act as divine sacraments and facilitate transcendent experiences in a religious, shamanic, or spiritual contex.    I first experienced psychedelics in my late teens:    Continue reading

Taoist circular breathing

Taoist circular breathing is the smooth, seamless flow of chi through your nervous system during your inhales and exhales and most importantly during the change between them. It is an important quality of more advanced Taoist methods to link your breathing to physical movement and energy flow. Your breathing (inhales and exhales) should have no distinct starting or stopping points.  Taoist Circular breathing requires you to learn to mesh your breathing with your chi and nervous system so that they work together seamlessly. Successful circular breathing requires that you accomplish five tasks:   Continue reading