Monthly Archives: August 2012

The Enneagram – I’m a 7, he’s a 4

What type are you?  The Enneagram is a personality typing system that helps us discover our habitual ways of being. Learning what “type” I was brought to light many underlying fixations I was ready to be free of and helped me understand how to get along with friends better.  

The Enneagram is mainly a diagnostic tool of one’s emotional outlook on life. It is also useful as a guide to how other people see the world differently.  There are a number of tests, including these 2 eclectic enneagram tests, the Enneagram Institute test, the Helen Palmer work, and the 9 Types.  The best way to determine your location on the Enneagram spectrum is to understand the system, and understand yourself. The tests will take you only a small part of the way toward that goal.  

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Stop placing labels on it: For unions to work, both parties must be nurtured by it.

I believe people can stay friends after breakups.  Just because you love each other doesn’t mean you have to be together.  Just because you’ve lost the lust for a mate, doesn’t mean you can’t stay happily together.  Just because you argue doesn’t mean you have to split up.  Just because you split up and separate doesn’t mean you have to divorce.  Just because you divorce doesn’t mean you can’t still hang out together for mutual interests.  If each one follows their heart, they may indeed part ways but still everyone wins and you can have the best of all worlds when you understand that.  The person I care the most about in the world is an ex boyfriend who’s married to a friend of mine.  She’s is the perfect mate for him and he adores her and goes out of his way to do for her.  He’s a do-er, constantly coming up with something to delight her.  He and I talk on the phone every few weeks and that fulfills something deep within me that no one else fills.  Do we want to be together now?  I believe his response to that jokingly posed query years ago was “There’s not enough therapy in the world for that to happen.” Which proves my point. Continue reading

Dear God, something beyond my current understanding is before me, the understanding of which would change EVERYTHING. Please Show me the Way

Beverly Marie Gelb-Ceroy

“I believe that when we set foot on the PATH, people, thoughts and things drop away from us as they no longer FIT who we are becoming. Like losing a great deal of weight, you have to release your old wardrope, some of which you may still love but it just doesn’t fit any longer. I also believe that allowing ourself to be Guided is part of the process and this is where it gets tricky.  We’ve never really Allowed this fully before.  When I don’t know what to do, I say this prayer from Neale Donald Walsch:  “Dear God, something beyond my current understanding is before me, the understanding of which would change EVERYTHING.  Please Show me the Way.” Then I go about my days…..until I AM shown my next step. The Buddah says: ” when in doubt do nothing.” Allow the next step REVEAL itself to you.” Beverly Marie Gelb-Ceroy

The above was in response to:  What about vows when life choices and intentions change?

You don’t know how wonderful I am, because you accept applications online only. What I cannot do is pass your background check

On Facebook tonight, my roommate wrote:  “If your assistant doesn’t assist you, hire me: I will make you laugh and feel light-hearted all day, I can answer your phone with a smile and treat your customers and your business with the upmost respect and care, I’m completely computer literate and genuinely a really nice guy, I can make your life so much easier, but you don’t know how wonderful I am, because you accept applications online only, so we have never had this discussion, or the one about what I cannot do. What I cannot do is pass your background check or the judgements you make as a result of it. ”  I responded, “What might help is if you had not checked you had a felony conviction on the application when you do not have a felony conviction, you ditzoid.”  Just sayin…

What about vows when life choices and intentions change?

Domino writes: “Impasse: my husband & I have slowly drifted far apart as I’ve embraced world views beyond fundamentalist Christianity. I’ve walled off part of myself from him as a result, because even things like non Christian music and yoga are sinful and not even open for discussion, so my exploration of other religions and views I do entirely hidden from him.  About 10 years ago after much thought and prayer, I thought my life’s purpose was to become a Unity minister.  I wanted to leave advertising and go to seminary. This totally freaked my husband out, and he very bluntly stated that he would never be married to a minister. That destroyed my world, I struggled with depression and coming out of it forced me to reexamine all my views about God and the Bible.   He has no idea who I am anymore, and I know he would never accept it.  That leaves me basically without a life partner on a soul level, for the rest of my life unless I would leave him. But leaving him would be devastating for him– emotionally, financially (I’ve been the breadwinner the last 22 years), and since divorce and remarriage is a sin to him,  he would live the rest of his life without a partner. So I see my choice as either to remain in a dead relationship or cause much suffering to someone I vowed to love. Neither choice feels good to me.  I’m not looking for “the answer”– just curious about your perspective.”  I posed the question on Facebook and got interesting responses:

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A return to breathing and sleeping

The past couple of weeks, my roommate has been hacking, choking and wheezing his way through a respiratory thang and yesterday he finally got medical attention. He received a breath treatment in the office, a sample inhaler and prescription for another, and a prescription for antibiotics.  Yay for Publix having free antibiotics!  He got immediate relief, and slept through the night for the first time in weeks.  That meant I also slept through the night, because he wasn’t out there with the tv on, and in and out the doors all night.  While he had the cough, he breathed better when he stood and walked, which he did… all night long.  Last night for the first time in a long time I was able to close my eyes at 11pm and didn’t open them until 7:45am.  Wow.  Awesome experience!  It’s interesting to note that it’s not the volume of the tv that keeps me awake at night, it’s the fact of it being on and whatever signal comes from that.  It keeps me on high alert and wakes me up every hour or two.  It’s an occupational blessing and hazard, this sensitivity. Right now I’m just sitting and breathing and loving life.

More evidence that it’s all related

I was working in the Horizons Magazine website today and got another lesson in the   It’s all related department.  I split the one large file for Past Issues into four smaller files, and that meant all the links had to the revised.  That meant all the old links as well as the current links.  In my obsession to cross link everything, I’ve created quite a job for myself.  I do the same thing in life too.  I would do well to always remember that it’s all related – everything.

Disconnecting as the magic fades into mundanity

Domino complains that his mate no longer shares his interests.  She actually never did, she  just used to be so in love with him that she’d sit and smile stupidly at him for hours on end.  When he stopped giving her attention, she stopped giving him attention.  We always think it’s about anything other than that, don’t we?  We settle into a routine with each other and disconnect as the magic fades into mundanity.  She turns into the Maxwell housewife as he stops being the knight in shining armor.  Both have dashed dreams because they were in love with the idea of each other more so than who each of them really turned out to be.  But it’s comfortable enough and they like each other enough so they’ll figure something out.  In the meantime, leave each to their own interests, give plenty of privacy and don’t be a space invader.  This, too, shall pass.

How to lay out the Feng Shui bagua in your home

The 9 feng shui areas, to learn your rooms and areas, place your home’s floor plan over this template, with your front door or entranceway in line with the bottom of the map.

Read through the descriptions and decide which area to focus on first.  The nine Feng Shui ba gua areas explained: Let’s take a look at the nine Feng Shui ba gua areas to see how they relate to your life. First, position the grid over a room or the layout of a whole space.

1. Career… The career area of the Feng Shui ba gua not only relates to how you earn a living it also indicates your life path or soul purpose. The idea is that if you are truly on the correct path things will seem easy or just click into place. You’ll feel enthusiastic and confident about what you do and where you are going. Focus on this Feng Shui ba gua area if you are having problems at work or can’t decide what your next career move is. Continue reading