Domino writes: “Impasse: my husband & I have slowly drifted far apart as I’ve embraced world views beyond fundamentalist Christianity. I’ve walled off part of myself from him as a result, because even things like non Christian music and yoga are sinful and not even open for discussion, so my exploration of other religions and views I do entirely hidden from him.  About 10 years ago after much thought and prayer, I thought my life’s purpose was to become a Unity minister.  I wanted to leave advertising and go to seminary. This totally freaked my husband out, and he very bluntly stated that he would never be married to a minister. That destroyed my world, I struggled with depression and coming out of it forced me to reexamine all my views about God and the Bible.   He has no idea who I am anymore, and I know he would never accept it.  That leaves me basically without a life partner on a soul level, for the rest of my life unless I would leave him. But leaving him would be devastating for him– emotionally, financially (I’ve been the breadwinner the last 22 years), and since divorce and remarriage is a sin to him,  he would live the rest of his life without a partner. So I see my choice as either to remain in a dead relationship or cause much suffering to someone I vowed to love. Neither choice feels good to me.  I’m not looking for “the answer”– just curious about your perspective.”  I posed the question on Facebook and got interesting responses:

Beverly Marie Gelb-Ceroy writes:  I believe that when we set foot on the PATH, people, thoughts and things drop away from us as they no longer FIT who we are becoming. Like losing a great deal of weight, you have to release your old wardrope, some of which you may still love but it just doesn’t fit any longer. I also believe that allowing ourself to be Guided is part of the process and this is where it gets tricky.  We’ve never really Allowed this fully before.  When I don’t know what to do, I say this prayer from Neale Donald Walsch:  “Dear God, something beyond my current understanding is before me, the understanding of which would change EVERYTHING.  Please Show me the Way.” Then I go about my days…..until I AM shown my next step. The Buddah says: ” when in doubt do nothing.” Allow the next step REVEAL itself to you.