Well meaning friends who feel the need to tell me he’s already moved on to publicly seeking a new partner: He’s entitled to do that. We’re not together nor want to be, we have different dreams and goals. He’s entitled to seek happiness. We all are.  It’s no biggie. Change happens. I don’t rewind.  I don’t need anyone to replace him. I wasn’t looking for anyone when he came along. I have the coolest life on the planet, regardless of who is or isn’t in it.  Thank you for your concern 🙂 

“We should all do what, in the long run, gives us joy, even if it is only picking grapes or sorting laundry.”  – E.B. White

Don’t go through life afraid to speak what is on your mind for fear of hurting someone or having favors withdrawn; both parties are dishonored by leaving truths unspoken. If you  want out of a relationship, trust me, they probably do too. Stop wasting everyone’s time and find the courage to say it.  Whatever it is. Silence when there is something to say is as much a deception as a spoken lie. Let your uncoupling be as conscious as your coupling. It never has to be Armageddon.

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It makes it hard for the traveler to move on if well meaning friends keep pointing him back toward where he’s come from. Wounds heal best if left alone. To everyone meaning to help, we’re good, really.

This is how a human being can change: there’s a worm addicted to eating grape leaves.  Suddenly he wakes up, call it grace, whatever, something wakes him, and he’s no longer a worm.  He’s the entire vineyard, and the orchard too, the fruit, the trunks, a growing wisdom and joy that doesn’t need to devour.

A third party is causing an uproar on her Facebook wall in the name of protecting someone she thinks needs to be protected. He does not. He’s stronger than you give him credit for. All she is doing is making aggravating remarks that she thinks he’ll read, when he is having enough stress.  He comes to Facebook to relax and be inspired, not hear anyone fight about anything, especially not when he’s on a break at work.  If she thinks she’s doing him any favors, she doesn’t realize how this universe works.  Fighting against something just gives you more to fight about. Dragging others into your chain of pain does nothing to guide them to a brighter tomorrow.  Friends don’t get involved and stir up in situations they do not know the details of.  Telling that story isn’t helping you, even if it’s true. Continue reading →

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Your visions will become clear
only when you can look
into your own heart.

Who looks outside, dreams;
who looks inside, awakes.

Carl Jung