As the year ends, think of making it right with anyone you wronged this year. Even small slights. This time last year, a friend and I were having friendly closure after disagreement. There’s such a release and relief with closure. Bless those strong enough to offer and accept it. To judge those unable to do it would only toss you outa your happy vortex. Start 2014 with nothing unresolved. Your world will change for the better.

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Come clean and see what the Universe rewards you with
Put only kindness in motion from this point forward
Her effort to clear up the past gave her a clean slate
Deal with the monster under the bed

I love having my privacy but I also love having space between my molecules. I just pruned back a few miles of coleus, ligustrum and arbicola from the front yard. I cut everything down low so I can see the street from my room for the first time in years. It makes it feel as though I have so much more space! I still have privacy from the street but can see everything. I even took down the drapes, blinds and blackout curtains.  Right now I see the neighbors on their sundown walk and the raccoon family wobbling out of the east woods. I positioned the outdoor lights so they fall on the critter path, so we can watch the nightly procession.  Across the street is a privacy fence, so no one else is in view. I love living in the midst of a neighborhood yet apart in my own little jungle of gardens and trails. Only in Paradise is Christmas week a sunny 80 degrees, lows of 55.

Jeff Brown

I used to judge people who didn’t want to work on their ‘issues’ and patterns. I questioned their emotional courage, their fortitude, their depth. To be sure, many of us – myself included – could do a better job of dealing with our stuff head on. But, at the same time, I now recognize that we cannot know how courageous someone else is by looking at their lives from the outside. Perhaps they are carrying around so much unresolved emotional material – their own, even that of the collective – that they do not have any energy left over for processing. Or perhaps they are working in the deep within in ways that we cannot begin to imagine – healing their unresolveds, quietly building the egoic foundation necessary to take on the next level of inner work. It’s so hard to know where courage lives.  Jeff Brown

When we see behind the mask

”People whose happiness comes primarily from doing good for others, rather than from hedonistic self-satisfaction, show a much more favorable gene profile, with less inflammation and better antibody and antiviral activity,” says lead researcher Steven W. Cole, Ph.D., professor of medicine at UCLA. No need to get lofty. “It can be a simple as investing more time with your grandchildren – whatever you care about.”
Janice Scott-Reeder agrees, “Now I understand why in the psychiatric office I would see people totally destroyed by a small injury and other people almost destroyed by a major injury, up and helping the others. If your focus is yourself, you will eventually destroy yourself with the bombardment of energy. If your focus is others, your body will follow the energy of your focus and get you up and out to help them. It’s simple physics. Focus a laser on itself and it will burn itself out. Focus it on something else and it will burn it and survive.”

I spent an early morning playing Santa, delivering djembes to good little girls.  I’m stoked when I can pass on my sacred tools to people I know will use them with the spirit I’ve imbued into them. We are indeed all connected!  Yesterday morning I decided I should really pass along my djembe drums to someone who can get use out of them. A car accident in 2000 put both paws on the path to healing for a few years and now a frame drum is much easier for me to handle. I love my Cooperman dayereh (shown left.) Continue reading →

That tender moment, warmly snuggled under the wing of the beloved, when I awaken as the atmosphere changes predawn and the right nostril begins to drip. Lying wide awake, afraid to move and break the spell, unsuccessfully holding in laughter as I realize the futility of trying to hang on to a moment. If I was fully Present, I would find as much joy in the getting up to blow my nose as I do lying in my partner’s arms.

If you’re going home to an unsupportive family this holiday, remember that your worth is not defined by what they say or how they treat you. You’re being guided there to shine your light. This is the work you came to do, in a place you don’t want to be, with people you don’t want to be with. This is the work of a Lighthouse. What if you’re the only light they ever see?

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There’s always growth in the process

When people lie about you and pass along entire conversations that never took place, it helps to look at it from their point of view: Whatever the actual issue, it was not enough to make their case. The evidence would not stand on its own. Part of them cannot accept that. Part of them cannot see cause and effect. And it’s not up to you or me to judge when they need to do that.  We don’t know what brought them to this place. If you’ve been chosen as the most convenient mirror for them to work their own stuff out, quietly recognize that for the holy honor it is. Rather than soul search why the inability to control impulse to fabricate, word twist, name drop and exaggerate, their way of working out their stuff requires they do these things. Continue reading →

I’m asking for prayers to help me make a decision. Someone who has spoken untruths against me all year now wants to make peace. They have been forgiven however I’m hesitant to re-engage them. I’m asking friends to hold this in their prayers. She is someone I have known for 20 years through many situations with many different people. It is only because a close mutual friend asked that I am taking a long look at this. ASIDE:  It’s interesting to note who’s written me thinking this was about them. To them I say: if it seems to fit, then contemplate the mirror, your judgment of it and your issue with it. That’s the first thing I do if I think something is about me.  It’s seldom about me. So all I’m asking for is prayers to help me make a decision.