When someone is healing, don’t add the burden of dealing with your reckless — albeit well meaning — advice

arguing groupA friend had a stroke a couple of months ago and adamantly refuses to follow any medical or holistic or dietary protocol for healing.  After a stroke, emotional responses are skewed until the brain has time to rewire itself.  He’s not in his right mind, yet he is being allowed to make poor choices. He has a large following of Facebook friends who argue with him daily on controversial topics of government conspiracies and such, and who now give him a lot of well meaning, but reckless advice.   

Some suggest he try expensive alternative herbs and supplements, yet they know he has no funds. If you suggest it, first of all make sure you know from personal experience it is something that works, not just a link you found online. This is a man’s life. You are telling him to ignore the doctors and do what YOU suggest, so the least you can do is provide the product to him along with a plan of exactly how he is to use it and why. Otherwise, don’t waste his time and energy, don’t expect him to take anything blindly and don’t make him research dosage and benefits and cautions and feasibility. I know this isn’t my battle to get into. He and I have not always gotten along. I gave him advice several years ago that could have solved a large problem of his, and he chose to ignore it. That’s ok. My words were a gift to him. We cannot take it personally if someone chooses to not accept a gift we’ve given. But I felt compelled to write to him, “My friend, you know I don’t mince words. These people mean well but they are not doing you any good with their input. They are sapping your energy. Just keeping your eyes open takes up a huge amount of energy. Take a break from the computer, even tho it’s your life blood. Begin chronicling all the things that are going right each day, all the things that improve each day, so you can publish that online to help others going through your situation. I love you friend. You know where to find me. Take a break right now from everyone who doesn’t fill you with joy and hope and faith that it’s all under control and it will turn out better than you think right now.

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After a stroke, emotional actions and reactions may be skewed until the brain has time to rewire itself

 

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