I was on a walk and came upon a fallen motorcyclist. I helped him up. He was disoriented. I said let’s move your bike out of the road. He asked am I dead? I said you don’t appear to be. There was a lot of mist and we were under a streetlight so the light was diffused and really bright for like the distance of a block. I got turned around and didn’t know which way we were walking and didn’t see a street sign. He said help me retrace my steps for the keys. We went back toward the light and again as we approached the streetlamp we saw a fallen motorcyclist in the road next to the first bike. He was dazed. He left his bike where it fell. They did not appear to notice each other. He couldn’t find his phone to call her, she’s pregnant. My phone was gone. As the mist burned off I saw another fallen cyclist, who got up and walked over with a limp. 
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I posted a few versions of this MONEY MANTRA on Facebook since real life friends have been having success stories. I have them show me their evidence before I count their story as true: a copy of the refund check they received, the bonus, the deposit into their bank, the transmittal letter. Half of them were long time clients, so I knew their financial “before” situation. When I’m working with someone to increase their income, I initially have them send me their last few tax returns and then their monthly bank statements.  That’s how we track progress in real time, There’ve been 4 so far who’ve received out of the blue windfalls. They said the only thing they did differently was sing this mantra until it got stuck in their head.

The thing is, tho, by having the words running subconsciously, they’re entertaining the idea that it could be true for them. That heightens their expectation and belief and lowers their resistance as far as what is possible for them. It opens their eyes to opportunities they may have overlooked before. Something they previously thought they couldn’t obtain, now seemed attainable. Expecting money out of the blue now seemed possible. Coincidence? Maybe. Try it and you tell me.  Continue reading →

I’m neither autistic nor neuro divergent but I give attention to detail and try to give all info in one pass. I saw the importance of that working as a criminal defense paralegal for 22 years, watching testimony and reading interrogatories. A defendant would give minimal answers which necessitated more questions.  “The night of the murder I was at the Jiggly Babes club from 9pm-2am with my friends Joe, Bob and Sue, here are their last names and contact info“ is ALWAYS MORE EFFICIENT than “I was out with friends.” (Where? What times? Who with? How may I contact them?) Having to talk to so many people every day for so many years, I’m all about efficiency, especially with words.

VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE IS ESSENTIAL. Our automatic reactions show us what we really know, what we really think and believe. It’s hard when the mind’s default setting is focused on the woes of the world. You literally have to make it a daily discipline in order to “break” the habit of unhelpful thoughts. You’ll know you’re properly trained when you’ve practiced the situation so repeatedly that your intent overrides the muscle memory. Whether it’s worrisome thoughts, midnite snacking or knowing when to pull a gun, in the heat of the moment, are you disciplined enough to remain focused and clear headed to properly assess the situation and react appropriately?  TRAIN YOURSELF, make it a DAILY PRACTICE to remain focused and when the time comes, there will be no mistakes.

The prefrontal cortex, which controls thinking, logic, knowing what to do, responds to EXPERIENCE as it develops. The wider the variety of experience, the more development. Example: live in one town your whole life? Only talk to a handful of people? Not much variety of experience. Alcohol, nicotine, amphetamine, cocaine, morphine and psychoactive drugs diminish elasticity in the prefrontal cortex, which affects their thinking, logic, knowing what to do. Someone with little life experience, on a diet of alcohol and nicotine is gonna feel safe with people who feel familiar and end up agreeing with them and following their beliefs, often to their downfall.

Train yourself to be aware and observant. Train yourself to discipline your mind so you’re never so overtaken by emotion that you make fatal mistakes. Make it a point to READ a variety of viewpoints, EXPERIENCE new places and people, BE OPEN MINDED — for the sake of experiment — to what other people believe is the truth and why. Knowledge is power.

Ya gotta laugh. For the first time in a year+, Facebook this morning began showing me dozens of FB friends not typically on my newsfeed. So of course FB goes down right afterward LOL but for a few mins I saw you all!
UPDATE: Whatever they did began showing me many new FBF on my feed.

“My favorite reply to a parent scolding their child in public for “something they’ve been told not to do” is to remind them that their prefrontal cortex isn’t fully formed yet which means they don’t have the executive functioning for self control. Instead what they are doing is encoding a traumatic response pattern in their child’s limbic system and in their actual body. Which will not help them later in life at all.”  David Jacques

I did a reading last night for a friend with a lot of health problems.  ”I try to think positively” he said, “but it’s hard to think positively when I can hear my bones pop and crunch with every step. I am depressed because I’m in pain all the time.  All I can think about is how much it hurts and that I will have to deal with this the rest of my life. So don’t tell me to think positive.”  The problem  is that he’s not yet learned how to phrase a positive thought.  It’s like people who say that affirmations don’t work.  If your self talk isn’t working for you, you just need to know how to phrase  it the right way.  Repeating the wrong thing to yourself all the time won’t help.  Reminding yourself of the right things can help you begin to move out of your current situation.  And to remember the right things, you need to say the right words and they need to be true and they need to have meaning for you.   Continue reading →

In a session with a friend last nite I was asked a typical question: “Where will the money for a new house come from?” This question is always asked from the standpoint of a certain level of understanding. The good news is our understanding is always upgraded with every new bit of knowledge. FIRST, discard the idea of what you can and cannot make money doing and discard the idea that you need to know WHERE the money is going to come from. It’ll come from wherever it is right now. Don’t wrack your brain tryna figure out how or from where. 

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Many spam calls lately have been offering to collect my debts from clients who haven’t paid. I don’t do business like that. If they pay, they get service. If not, they don’t.  That way I don’t contribute to them going into debt.

BIG FAT BIZNESS SECRET:

If you make people pay, they will pay. Those who don’t will go elsewhere and make room for those who do pay. They really will.