I look at friends around me who are living lives of less than stellar integrity, who haven’t yet learned the lessons I’ve learned. All too often I think I need to fix them. Now I have come to recognize that by identifying their ignorance, this automatically places me in service to them. You, too.  I know it’s not my place to judge what God allows another person to do or even to get away with.

Anyone you are smarter than, or you have more knowledge than, that places you in service to them.  That does not enslave them to you.

I see it as my honor to have the chance to practice patience, humility and generosity of spirit.   To do otherwise simply means I’ve forgotten.  Sometimes I forget. Then I remember again. It’s a process.

The spin will make ya dizzy

Some friends are hurting.  They are threatening to sue someone and weave stories to convince themselves it’s okay. They don’t get that whatever it is, it’s okay. Their story is valid, no reason to spin tales. The magic balm is in the truth.  I saw it happen. I said, “You can reframe it all you want but you purposely lied and got caught. If you’d stop bringing it up and trying to prove you weren’t lying, the matter would be closed by now. Drop it. Stop creating more karma for yourself.”  They remind me of a personal situation where someone keeps forgetting my ex and I were apart four months before she came on the scene. She likes her version so she can keep mentioning me. It’s okay, let her have poetic license, but the truth is the better story.   Continue reading →

You know what?  If you think you can’t make money doing what you know now how to do, and with the people you now know, you have, in the words of Don Juan DeMarco  a limited and uncreative way of looking at the situation. If you really grokked how much power you have right now, you’d flip. And yes, this applies even if you’re “just” a stay at home mom raising her kids.

Every true lover knows that the moment of greatest satisfaction comes when ecstasy is long over and he beholds before him the flower which has blossomed beneath his touch.
Don Juan DeMarco

The gardener knows his job is to tend to the toil and dirty work and help the seedlings grow into flower and fruit. No matter that the fruit will grace the table of another and he gets not one sweet bite.  The gardener’s job is to prepare and maintain the space to grow and bloom. His satisfaction comes in knowing others have been fed by what he’s made it a daily spiritual practice to provide and tend, and it is his supreme honor to do so.

I’ve been talking to two “sisters-in-law” as we resolve legal matters involving all of us.  I call them sisters-in-law but they are really current wives of former husbands. I learned early on that when my ex has a new wife, she’s not my competition, she’s my sister.  Staying conscious keeps us all one big happy family.  After a particularly long day, we laughed at supper over our situation, knowing that for 3 others, untangling real estate and dollars might be a nightmare, but for us it’s business as usual: “She” is “me.” Have respect. Do what I’d want done to me.   Do what I want returned to me. Period. It’s how we’ve done it for 28 years. Our husbands would be proud. Continue reading →

“The next time the unconscious voice in your head notices an abusive, tragic or heartbreaking behavior and says…”who would do this?”, consciously say “God would.” This will help free you from the illusion of separateness.”….yogi armandananda — feeling God everywhere. Spiritual brother Armand Della Volpe wrote this on Facebook and I loved the thread. One friend wrote, “The whole reason this came up was because I was sharing some deep pain with Armand and Angel regarding someone who has hurt me deeply and for a long time. I was judging when I said “who does that?” (With tears rolling down my face). And Armand said “God does!” I immediately went from judgement to compassion. I saw this person as the beautiful expression of the Divine instead of judging the behavior that was causing me pain. I still choose not to be close relationally to this person because of the patterned behavior… but in that moment… seeing her as God released my pain. Period. It doesn’t have to work for anyone else. It worked for me. I think I’ll continue to play with it and I’m sure new understanding and insight will continue to come.”  I commented: What an absolute truth. When I’m stuck in my ego, I’m in the illusion and think “they” are doing something to “me.” In reality, I am showing myself to myself so I can hone myself back to who I really Am. It can take hours or it can take years, it depends on how much I truly recognize my part in attracting it and how much I want peace.
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I’ve really been in the flow with good business this year, and friends and clients tell me they’ve noticed the same thing. If you’re not in the vibe right now, you reading this means you’re close to the vibe! You might even come up with an unexpected, new source of income this year. This might be the year you find your niche, your passion, something to really set your cork afloat. Hang on for the ride.  We’re in the flow!

Conscious partners seek to make relationship transitions harmonious, and use honest words to convey the truth they want to convey, with no mistake and no wrong impression. Your uncoupling should be as conscious as your coupling. “My partner doesn’t hear what I say!” This is a typical complaint. When callers ask for guidance, I have them tell me their situation and then together we find the words that convey what they mean yet are respectful and not accusatory.  I got a lot of response to Staying Conscious When Intentions Change: How to survive changes when lovers morph into platonic friends and asked for help with break up language.  I tend to think it can be as easy as “I wanted it to last, I wanted you to be the One. Now my mind is focusing on things other than relationship and I don’t want to do the boy/girl thing anymore.  Can you let me know how we might do this so we can stay friends?”    Continue reading →

At age 72, Stephen Jepson is living proof of his philosophy of lifetime fitness called Never Leave the Playground.  Become smarter & sharper now.   He rides a unicycle, juggles while balancing on a bongo board, throws knives and plays jacks with both hands, walks a tightrope and more. He knows the secret is to “just keep moving” through constant play, not exercise. He’s developed toys for all ages and degrees of physical fitness to use throughout our daily lives so we never have to leave the playground no matter where we are or what we’re doing.  Playing in physical ways like this not only keeps muscles and bones strong, it grows brain cells, paves neural pathways, increases balance and coordination, cause you to be more creative, cause you to be more excited about life, improves your memory.  Here –> is an interesting, fun video of him at his home. No matter how impaired the body has become through neglect or disease or aging, consistent movement is imperative to regain and maintain balance, stability, coordination and growth. He calls it “age proofing the brain and body,” and it can begin at any age or any condition of the body.