Just had an interesting reading on a universal topic. Your partner can love you even if they have stopped participating and responding as they used to. Do not expect them to be your best friend and your lover and your advisor and your cheerleader and your rescuer and your income and your entertainment. Do not think you have to text them with every move you make and every thought you have. Put that energy into cultivating your own interests. Rather than pouting that your partner doesn’t go to the gym, find a workout partner. If you’re the night owl and they go to bed at sunset, find someone to hoot and howl the night away. Let them love you in their own way. If you find that is not enough for you, there’s always time to make a new decision. Most importantly, don’t risk losing your best friend just because they’ve stopped being your lover.
Yearly Archives: 2014
Would you marry your married lover?
A friend is marrying the latest love of her life. They’re having a commitment ceremony without the legal confines – the best of both worlds – since her latest is still married. The heart connection is what matters, though, not the legal status. She doesn’t care to legally share in his marital debt anyway. A piece of paper doesn’t keep someone with you; love does, and trust. She doesn’t know his past history in honoring commitments, but knows it must be a vibrational match to her own. The questions she is starting to wonder about now are: How did his past relationships end? What is his relationship with his family, with his wife, his children, his parents, his brothers and sisters? What is his relationship with his employer? His past employers? With his friends? If it’s a commitment ceremony, she’d like to know he has a history of doing what he says he’ll do. Continue reading
Answer a simple yes or no question with yes, no or I don’t know
To everyone who thinks I seem abrupt when I ask a yes or no question and you pussyfoot around instead of answering it; When I talk to a dozen people a day gathering info in order to get goals accomplished and you’re not answering me so I may do that, nothing personal but I’m moving on to someone who can give me an answer and get it done. A personal pet peeve of mine: When it comes to business and it can be accomplished with a simple yes or no, it is a waste of everyone’s time to have 3, 4, 5 conversations about it. Maybe you’re enjoying the journey of the topic but I talk to so many people a day that — for me — it’s about getting things done.
Your astral body gets addicted to the emotional charge of telling a painful story. Only you can take yourself out of that trance.
It’s not easy to turn your attention away from what is bringing you down, but you have to do it if you want peace. No matter what it is, it is only a thought you are dealing with, and you are the one in charge of those. Sure, troublesome thoughts arise, but we can train ourselves to change our focus to a better feeling thought and bring ourselves out of a funk. A friend wrote he can’t get out of his mind that he somehow caused a loved one to die tragically. It’s not easy when the troublesome thought is about someone you love, especially if you feel responsible. I lovingly reminded him: “One way to stop triggering the pain is to stop repeating the story on a weekly basis. I know it’s not easy to break the habit, since talking about it keeps her alive in your consciousness. But telling the story keeps you in the pain. By repeating the story, you put yourself into a trance and the pain body is addicted to the emotional charge of telling the story. There are new stories to be told, new things every day to appreciate. It’s crucial for mental health to seek out and focus on good things in the now. They are there waiting for you to notice them.“
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We clear Domino’s house of a playful spirit
What is the value of contacting ghosts or loved ones in spirit?
The haunted chair, journeys out of the body
What Andrea believes
A friend doesn’t understand her folks’ objection over her new man: like it’s any of their business he has money for cigarettes and beer and new tattooes and won’t get a divorce because he doesn’t want to pay child support. It’s easy to judge and shame someone who makes choices you wouldn’t choose, isn’t it? But does it uplift and improve your life when you do it?
A writing gig out of the blue — but it’s never out of the blue
Happy dance, I just got a gig with a favorite writer! I work with several author friends the past twenty years, and the jobs are often unexpected. I’ve never queried for a writing contract, it’s always been word of mouth or someone coming across something I’ve written and wanting to include it in their own project. Friends ask how to get into free lance writing and I honestly tell them I have no idea. It’s the same with publishing: I had zero experience when I began. All I did was focus on doing something I enjoyed doing, and I woke up every day and did it. And I may think I’m writing on one topic, for one purpose, and it may end up being morphed into something completely different years down the road. I never cared to be an author. Authors under contract become booksellers. I want to write, not sell books. So I write for me and it doesn’t matter if anyone else reads it or wants to buy it. But if they do, who am I to say no? Once again, it’s true: built it and they will come. Do it for YOU and then watch the offers pour in.
Casper asks about ghostwriting
My ghostwriting – build it and they will come
I envisioned it and they built it around me
No astral entity can survive without your attention to it
Important to remember that no astral being can survive and hold place in your consciousness without your attention to it. If you have no emotional attachment to it, it will leave your experience. That is because the astral plane is where our emotions live. If we let unwelcome astral thoughtforms hold center stage in our awareness, it puts us on a hamster wheel of nonproductive discontent. Being unfulfilled and dissatisfied is one of the hardest nightmares to awaken from. Nothing has taken over your mind and your thoughts. It’s simply that you’ve chosen to allow yourself to keep thinking every thought that comes in your head. Steer your thoughts in another direction. Make the choice to change your focus to a better feeling thought and do it every time the unpleasant thoughts come up. Soon enough they will stop coming up and you’ll be living a different life.
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We clear Domino’s house of a playful spirit
What is the value of contacting ghosts or loved ones in spirit?
The haunted chair, journeys out of the body
What Andrea believes
I took the weekend off!
I actually took the weekend off. Saturday we took a spontaneous day long road trip. We drove along the Indian River heading north and then down AIA along the Atlantic Ocean on the way back home. It felt good to get out of town and act like tourists. This morning, my first job was to sleep late, then go to the gym. Afterward, I ran by the man’s house and put several bags of mulch down around the transplanted turk’s cap and arbicola bushes out front. His yard has great sunshine all day long and with the rain, everything is growing like crazy. Continue reading
Today my only goal is to take a stroll down Feel Good Lane
Today my only goal is to take a stroll down Feel Good Lane. Nothing feels as good as having my thoughts focused intently on something enjoyable. Nothing. It’s empowering to know I am in control of where to focus my thoughts. And I can change the direction of my focus in this very moment if I choose to.
Getting in the right state of mind is like foreplay; it begins way in advance. I envisioned it and they built it around me.
I sleep in stages. I’ll go months with erratic sleep and then spend many hours a day for weeks sleeping at odd hours, catching up on my REM. It’s heaven when that happens, but it plays havoc with my social life. My personal life revolves around my sleep/work schedule. Sleep comes first, since when it comes, I surrender to it. Work comes second and I do more work than any two people I know. I have many irons in the fire, and each is maintained by a little attention on a regular basis. My work is not hard, it just requires sustained focus while in the right state of consciousness. Getting in the right state of mind is like foreplay. It begins waaaaay in advance. To entrain myself into that state of consciousness, there are several things I do. Continue reading