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Flag seller riled up community instead of following protocol

The tenant simply needed prior approval for signage under the lease terms, which he didn't apply for. But he got lots of attention, he sold lots of flags and everyone still gets to hate the landlord. Absolutely hilarious.

The tenant simply needed prior approval for signage under the lease terms, which he didn’t apply for. But he got lots of attention, he sold lots of flags and everyone still gets to hate the landlord. Absolutely hilarious.

I noticed two days ago a local business owner was making his landlord a target for hate.  The Tenant Liberty Firearms sells firearms and flags and he put up on Landlord’s property several large black/blue flags with his business name that he  said were to support law enforcement. Tenant went to social media and the press, saying the Landlord asked that flags be removed. He said the Landlord doesn’t support law enforcement and that his constitutional rights were violated. Not knowing the lease terms nor the other side of the story, I didn’t speculate, but he got the local gun crowd all up in arms against the landlord for two days. Today the real story comes out — the problem was simply that the lease stated a protocol for presenting signage for approval and the tenant failed to do that. As soon as he did that, he got approval.  But he got to milk it in the media for days, give misleading info on video and sell lots of flags. Watching the comments unfold on the community Facebook pages gave me real insight into the mindset of neighbors ready to jump to conclusions, take one person’s story as true, gang up on the (perceived) opponent and incite action against the (in this case innocent) landlord.   They’d post inflammatory remarks and then delete them when challenged by the truth or the law. Sheesh, the extent someone will cast shade on another just to make a few bucks. Continue reading

Start being kind and see how your life improves

dog with roseWhat if you knew that all the mean things you say to people you feel have offended you come right back to you and your loved ones in the form of life problems and (what looks like) bad luck? Karma is simply bringing back around what you put in motion. And what if all you had to do to stop the momentum was to start being kind, begin giving everyone the benefit of the doubt, stop being so quick to judge a situation, and inform yourself about it first? What if instead of inciting friends to riot saying “Let’s put that mofo out of business,” upon hearing one (pissed off) side of a story, how about asking yourself, “What is it in me that is so offended and why? Is it possible I’m misunderstanding something?” How can I help diffuse this situation? How can I bring peace to this situation? How can I be of help?
Begin and see your problems fade away like smoke on wind.    
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Break The Cycle: Racists only know what they were taught

If you'd been told all your life that little bunnies would attack you and rip your heart out, you'd grow up afraid of them, too

If you’d been told all your life that bunnies would hunt you down to attack and kill you and rape your mother and children, you’d grow up afraid of them, and wanting to get them before they got you, right?

We’re evolving, slowly but steadily. People who are afraid of other cultures, races and genders have been taught fear. They have lived a life of extremely limited real world experience, often in a small town with little cosmopolitan influence.  They only know what the fearful ones around them have told them is true.  The following question helped me understand how fear is birthed and how racism comes to be. If a person spent the entirety of their life inside of a pitch dark cave being told every day that the sun was a source of evil, how would they feel after being dragged into daylight? The racist south wasn’t something that appeared overnight...” It’s not easy to change your mind about what your folks told you to discriminate against. They believed they were keeping you from harm by keeping “them” out.    Continue reading

When we hate, we give someone else the power

When we hate someone, we give them power to disturb our peace. Why give someone so much power? I’ve got a few folks griping at me right now but I understand where they’re coming from. They don’t know what I know. It’s not my job to school them. When I turn my attention to the butterfly in flight, I stop feeling the pain of the caterpillar as he labors in the cocoon.   Continue reading

To everyone who’s unhappy with the endorsement

snake gift box

“Sanders hasn’t officially conceded – something the mainstream papers and TV news pundits have still not bothered to mention. While Sanders had endorsed Clinton and relinquished his Secret Service protections – he has not dropped out of the race or freed his delegates. He will still be going to the Philadelphia convention. It’s still not too late.”  The Sanders Endorsement Backfires on Hillary Clinton 

 

Practice ignoring it to bring peace of mind

hair in faceMy life is a constant lesson. I can be slow putting 2+2 together. I don’t always consider consequences to my actions. My hair has been in my face for days driving me crazy. Then I remembered I cut a chin length layer into it last week. It looks great but I keep flipping it off my face like a 13 year old. It’s good practice for seeing what I can ignore in order to give myself peace of mind. Hard to ignore something that keeps smacking you in the face, huh, even if it’s something you brought on yourself.

Computer games can motivate and boost your mood

I can no longer knock computer games as idle and unproductive. Studying the limbic system (our emotional brain,) I now know why people play computer games. Playing the game stimulates dopamine production. You get points by activating the “seek and find” mechanism and your dopamine surges each time you get the points. That’s what happens when Benny the Cat hunts as well, that’s what happens when we strive to meet quotas (or nail new chicks).
meet-your-happy-chemicals-dopamine-serotonin-endorphin-oxytocin-2-638That happens with our FitBits and To Do Lists, too. We set a goal of steps then keep checking to see how close we are to it. That little delighted Ummph we feel is as a result of our dopamine surging.

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