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Joe Rogan & Bryan Callen on Haters and Inspiration

Great inspiration!  Partial transcript of Joe Rogan & Bryan Callen on Haters and Inspiration at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7o4O3U220GE&feature=share

“The beautiful thing about technology is you can spend your time listening to music and reading about what Lady Gaga wore to the gym, or you can open your mind to a whole world out there.  See someone doing something well and be inspired by them. It’s supposed to inspire you. If you open yourself up to something beautiful and great and let that really be effective, be astonished by it, be scared by it, whatever it takes, you will find way more strength in that surrender to The Beautiful than you will when you close yourself off.  All of us, all of us  have this notion to go “F**k this, I’m closing myself off from this…  In order to be a real man or a real woman, you have to earn the whole thing.  And the crazy thing is that, to be The Man, to get to that point, to BE The Man, you have to literally never NOT EVEN POSSIBLY be the man because you have to get to the zen state of “there is no The Man,” it’s all about the work, what genius you’re putting out, whether it’s music, whether it’s writing, whatever it is, it’s about finding that Real, Pure Place so there is NEVER The Man.  That’s when the muse kicks in, the idea of this all comes from Somewhere else, it’s like maybe it is just an attitude that allows you to bypass the ego. “

Does Domino have enough plywood?

HELP ME FIGURE. DOES SHE HAVE ENOUGH?

Domino says to me, “I wonder if I have enough plywood to board up the windows if we get a hurricane this year.”  I love tasks like this: helping someone make use of what they have.  You can help me figure it out.

The windows measure:
48 x 48 front bedroom
48 x 48 back bedroom
36 x 36 kitchen window
24 x 60 east of chimney
24 x 60 west of chimney
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The Enneagram – I’m a 7, he’s a 4

What type are you?  The Enneagram is a personality typing system that helps us discover our habitual ways of being. Learning what “type” I was brought to light many underlying fixations I was ready to be free of and helped me understand how to get along with friends better.  

The Enneagram is mainly a diagnostic tool of one’s emotional outlook on life. It is also useful as a guide to how other people see the world differently.  There are a number of tests, including these 2 eclectic enneagram tests, the Enneagram Institute test, the Helen Palmer work, and the 9 Types.  The best way to determine your location on the Enneagram spectrum is to understand the system, and understand yourself. The tests will take you only a small part of the way toward that goal.  

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Stop placing labels on it: For unions to work, both parties must be nurtured by it.

I believe people can stay friends after breakups.  Just because you love each other doesn’t mean you have to be together.  Just because you’ve lost the lust for a mate, doesn’t mean you can’t stay happily together.  Just because you argue doesn’t mean you have to split up.  Just because you split up and separate doesn’t mean you have to divorce.  Just because you divorce doesn’t mean you can’t still hang out together for mutual interests.  If each one follows their heart, they may indeed part ways but still everyone wins and you can have the best of all worlds when you understand that.  The person I care the most about in the world is an ex boyfriend who’s married to a friend of mine.  She’s is the perfect mate for him and he adores her and goes out of his way to do for her.  He’s a do-er, constantly coming up with something to delight her.  He and I talk on the phone every few weeks and that fulfills something deep within me that no one else fills.  Do we want to be together now?  I believe his response to that jokingly posed query years ago was “There’s not enough therapy in the world for that to happen.” Which proves my point. Continue reading →

Dear God, something beyond my current understanding is before me, the understanding of which would change EVERYTHING. Please Show me the Way

Beverly Marie Gelb-Ceroy

“I believe that when we set foot on the PATH, people, thoughts and things drop away from us as they no longer FIT who we are becoming. Like losing a great deal of weight, you have to release your old wardrope, some of which you may still love but it just doesn’t fit any longer. I also believe that allowing ourself to be Guided is part of the process and this is where it gets tricky.  We’ve never really Allowed this fully before.  When I don’t know what to do, I say this prayer from Neale Donald Walsch:  “Dear God, something beyond my current understanding is before me, the understanding of which would change EVERYTHING.  Please Show me the Way.” Then I go about my days…..until I AM shown my next step. The Buddah says: ” when in doubt do nothing.” Allow the next step REVEAL itself to you.” Beverly Marie Gelb-Ceroy

The above was in response to:  What about vows when life choices and intentions change?

You don’t know how wonderful I am, because you accept applications online only. What I cannot do is pass your background check

On Facebook tonight, my roommate wrote:  “If your assistant doesn’t assist you, hire me: I will make you laugh and feel light-hearted all day, I can answer your phone with a smile and treat your customers and your business with the upmost respect and care, I’m completely computer literate and genuinely a really nice guy, I can make your life so much easier, but you don’t know how wonderful I am, because you accept applications online only, so we have never had this discussion, or the one about what I cannot do. What I cannot do is pass your background check or the judgements you make as a result of it. ”  I responded, “What might help is if you had not checked you had a felony conviction on the application when you do not have a felony conviction, you ditzoid.”  Just sayin…

What about vows when life choices and intentions change?

Domino writes: “Impasse: my husband & I have slowly drifted far apart as I’ve embraced world views beyond fundamentalist Christianity. I’ve walled off part of myself from him as a result, because even things like non Christian music and yoga are sinful and not even open for discussion, so my exploration of other religions and views I do entirely hidden from him.  About 10 years ago after much thought and prayer, I thought my life’s purpose was to become a Unity minister.  I wanted to leave advertising and go to seminary. This totally freaked my husband out, and he very bluntly stated that he would never be married to a minister. That destroyed my world, I struggled with depression and coming out of it forced me to reexamine all my views about God and the Bible.   He has no idea who I am anymore, and I know he would never accept it.  That leaves me basically without a life partner on a soul level, for the rest of my life unless I would leave him. But leaving him would be devastating for him– emotionally, financially (I’ve been the breadwinner the last 22 years), and since divorce and remarriage is a sin to him,  he would live the rest of his life without a partner. So I see my choice as either to remain in a dead relationship or cause much suffering to someone I vowed to love. Neither choice feels good to me.  I’m not looking for “the answer”– just curious about your perspective.”  I posed the question on Facebook and got interesting responses:

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A return to breathing and sleeping

The past couple of weeks, my roommate has been hacking, choking and wheezing his way through a respiratory thang and yesterday he finally got medical attention. He received a breath treatment in the office, a sample inhaler and prescription for another, and a prescription for antibiotics.  Yay for Publix having free antibiotics!  He got immediate relief, and slept through the night for the first time in weeks.  That meant I also slept through the night, because he wasn’t out there with the tv on, and in and out the doors all night.  While he had the cough, he breathed better when he stood and walked, which he did… all night long.  Last night for the first time in a long time I was able to close my eyes at 11pm and didn’t open them until 7:45am.  Wow.  Awesome experience!  It’s interesting to note that it’s not the volume of the tv that keeps me awake at night, it’s the fact of it being on and whatever signal comes from that.  It keeps me on high alert and wakes me up every hour or two.  It’s an occupational blessing and hazard, this sensitivity. Right now I’m just sitting and breathing and loving life.

More evidence that it’s all related

I was working in the Horizons Magazine website today and got another lesson in the   It’s all related department.  I split the one large file for Past Issues into four smaller files, and that meant all the links had to the revised.  That meant all the old links as well as the current links.  In my obsession to cross link everything, I’ve created quite a job for myself.  I do the same thing in life too.  I would do well to always remember that it’s all related – everything.