Allowing is not about tolerating something that is vibrationally offensive. Allowing is about setting your tone so that only that which is in harmony with your tone is allowed to come to you.

I love that scene in the Steve Martin movie, The Man With Two Brains, where he’s speaking to a large wall portrait of his deceased mother, asking whether he should marry a rather unsuitable woman, and he asks the portrait, “Mom, give me a sign, should I or shouldn’t I?”  Suddenly a dark storm comes up, hurricane-like wind rushes through the house sending papers flying and the wall portrait begins spinning crazily on the wall, while a disembodied voice shrieks “Nooooo!!!!!!!”    Steve Martin looks again at the portrait and says, “Just a sign, Mom, any kind of sign.”   We laugh, but we’ve all experienced it, being blindly oblivious to messages and guidance, since in retrospect they loom so large.   Two weeks ago, my roommate and I decided to change our living arrangement before it affected our friendship.  We got out just in time.   Continue reading →

Over the years I’ve been to a number of energy therapists who’ve used methods ranging from their hands to acupuncture needles to tuning forks to cure whatever’s ailed me (and it usually did). But the last time, when an odd pain kept me from traveling to a practitioner’s office, the ache was vanquished over the phone.  That was more woo-woo than even I could handle (even though I’ve written about various forms of energy healing for years), which got me wondering, how is it that a therapist — using nothing more than thoughts and energy — can help someone improve their health? Continue reading →

This morning's view of the east garden from inside the main suite

It’s a beautiful cool morning out there, Weatherbug tells me it’s 69 degrees and only 90% humidity.  I got up about dawn and ran to Planet Fitness for a workout before I could change my mind.  Now I’ve got all the doors and windows open and am drinking black coffee for a morning buzz.  I’ve already rearranged my bedroom and put a different comforter on the bed, anticipating cooler nights.   I pulled down the dark-out curtains and opened the sliding glass door to the scenic view of the east woods.  There were several squirrels doing their morning dance on the branches of the oak canopy overhead, chattering and chasing each other.  Today I’ll deliver the October Horizons Magazine and go into the oriental market for black fungus and tiger lily buds, mushrooms and tofu for a hot and sour soup. Yes, I’ll check email, voice mail and Facebook but am otherwise taking the day off to enjoy it.

Were you ever in a relationship where, when you look back on it, all along you were just waiting for it to begin and it never even took off except in your own head?  Ya gotta laugh.

A while back, some friends were holding an evening of music and two buddies agreed to sit in and accompany my roommate Jeremy Bonner.  It was a night of good music, good friends and good fun.  I met one guy’s wife for the first time and she didn’t appear happy to be there.  She didn’t appear interested in talking with me either.  Several times she went out and sat in their car, but not once did she stand or sit with him.  Just stared with the not so happy face.  At one point as I was standing near her watching a group perform, she said “I thought they were only supposed to play 3 songs each, this is their 6th song.”  As the wife of a musician, I figure she has to expect that musicians seldom if ever go on at the appointed time.  They did go on a half hour later than expected but it was a fun hour with good people and she was the only one counting.  And pouting.  She didn’t even try to put on a happy face or act supportive of her mate.  I joked with her husband on the way out, ‘Oh you’re going to have a fun ride home,” to which he replied, “Nah. We’re each in charge of our own happiness and I’ve had a good time tonight.” I got the impression he really did.  I thought what a cool and enlightened view that is, and how wise to take responsibility for your own happiness that way.

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I found this note I’d written to a friend a year ago.  It’s always a good reminder:  “The fact is the universe delivers to you more of whatever you’re thinking about and it doesn’t care if you’re thinking about something you’re doing or something you’re daydreaming about.  If you’re thinking about something you like, you stay in that vibe longer and you attract stuff that becomes visible on that vibrational level. Good friends, happy times, job opportunities, baby mama being nice, finding a dollar in your pocket. Lucky stuff all around.  If you think about things going on in the world you DON’T like, you stay in THAT vibe and you attract stuff of that vibrational level: more fighting, more criticism, less $, everyone wanting a piece of you, can’t catch a break and get ahead, feeling trapped. Continue reading →