Author Archives: Andrea

Reviewing the year for what you want to continue doing

The 3 people you’ve spent the most time with the past 12 months, do they inspire you and encourage you and make your life easier? Are they just as supportive of your projects as you are of theirs?  Do they do what they say they’ll do? Or do they waste your time and upset your schedule and give little if anything back in return? I sat out at the chimenea last night and did a burning bowl ceremony with a friend.  Domino has  had an active year and needed time away from home and family to unwind and alpha out in front of a soft flame.  To forget about everything else for a moment and focus only inwardly on what does he need and what would bring him joy.  These are tough questions to ask someone who feels they have a responsibility to support people they’ve allowed to become dependent upon them.  He and his wife went through a messy divorce and earlier this year, she moved back in.  Now, however, she has unknown health problems, so he’s always driving her around to doctors.  If he’s not giving her attention, she complains. His business has taken a nose dive since he’s a sole proprietor and now has to make all his business appointments around her schedule.  He quit smoking and drinking last year after the divorce and now, because she’s the same abusive person but now supposedly sick as well, he’s back to smoking and drinking again to handle it.  He’s having serious health issues because of it.  Her elder sister moved in with them a few months ago, but instead of helping, he’s now catering to two people who are sucking the life out of him.  Literally.  You are the only one who knows whether you feel nurtured.  In general.  By anyone.  You are the only one who perceives whether those you nurture owe you something in return.  Continue reading →

Every road trip is an adventure, a blind tarot reading in the car

I had a productive yet relaxing day yesterday.  I worked in the morning, then spent the afternoon running errands with a friend, having lunch, napping.   I asked if he wanted to go to a solstice celebration or drumming circle tomorrow evening 12-21-12, so we may. We’re on the same page, we wait to see how we feel as time approaches rather than carving in stone where we might want to be later.  Often sleep wins out over evening events for me.  I’ve not gone to the gatherings since he returned in Spring, so I am just now getting back into the flow.  I enjoy my solitary celebrations and practices here but also miss the community of shared interest.  I’m also getting my sleep schedule back under control!

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To Ms. Jump To Conclusions: I am not out to get your man

If you’ve seen emails or messages from me to your man, instead of getting riled up for nothing and sending me confrontational emails, please have him open them in front of you.  I’d rather you be ticked at him for secretly undertaking meditation instruction than whatever else you think we’re doing.  Fer realz.  No hard feelingz.  As you were.

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When you feel you’ve been broken, take care what comfort you attract

The heart heals as quickly as we allow it to

The heart heals as quickly as we allow it to

Sometimes your heart opens wide for one person and another falls into it.  Sometimes your heart has been broken and the cracks allow in more grief and pain before the healing begins.  Rather than heal our wounds from the inside, we seek an outside balm.  Those in pain attract the wounded. Under the guise of the healer, the wounded offer guidance about what they do not fully understand yet themselves, because that is how they unconsciously work it out with themselves.  Domino spends hours each week offering compassionate relationship advice to potential suitors. In his own life he is in two relationships with women who do not know of each other. Both think they are the primary partner, both complain of his lack of personal communication skills.  Yet they hear him on the phone telling others how to fix the same problem in their life and establishing emotional intimacy with them, while those he professes to love are starving for it. He does not make closure with past mates, who continue to contact him. WTF?  Continue reading →

If you liked What The Bleep Do We Know then you’ll enjoy this explanation of the solar alignment on 12-21-12

If you liked What The Bleep Do We Know then you’ll enjoy this.    Here’s a scientificy explanation of the solar alignment on 12-21-12. Ah, good to know, we may get 3 nights of no sunrise, maybe it means 3 days and nights of no electrical power, maybe no power for anything, even batteries… knowing ahead of time means don’t freak, just relax into it and let it pass. Oh, and the sun may thereafter rise in the west…Then the cycle begins again… What do you think? Continue reading →

Don’t tell me cats aren’t thinking, plotting beings

I have to hand it to Izzy, I’ve tried to lock him out of half the house as he recovers from his allergic bout of a few weeks ago.  The still prevailing symptom is him going into a trance-like state as he gets a particular kicking action going, then suddenly he’s involuntarily urinating, wherever he is.  Like last week on top of my car, this week on my windowsill next to the computer.  I’ve been taking him outside but he doesn’t want to be out right now.  I place two puppy training pads in the center of the hallway and he’ll powder his nose there.   So today I barricade him out of the kitchen – twice.  He’s taken to lying on the counter next to the stove.  Too risky for accidents, so he gets barricaded out.  Twice.  Each time, he found a way to move the bar stool and the box fan to knock down the giant sheets of cardboard and leap onto the counter again.  “I’ll fix your little red wagon,” I thought as I brought out the vacuum cleaner.  His nemesis.  He didn’t flinch.  He looked me right in the eye from the counter as I turned it on.  He kept his eyes locked to mine, looking very unconcerned.  I brought the vacuum up to the counter and began to vacuum closer and he didn’t flinch.  I vacuumed his tail.  Nothing.  Well played, Izzy, well played.  Stay there, you’ve earned it.