In a recent reading, a friend began noticing a pattern in her new partner.  During the initial infatuation period, they had sex every day and couldn’t keep their hands off each other.  Then they settled into familiarity. He’d still initiate sex, but no romance, no foreplay, just straight forward, aggressive git ‘er done.  She asked him about it and he laughed it off.  She noticed that he’d always initiate sex when he was angry or bored, sad or frustrated. She felt he was using her as a mood altering drug. She felt no personal connection to him when he was like that.  He wasn’t interested in talking about it.  He didn’t think they had a problem.  The problem was less about sex than it was about willingness and ability to communicate. Continue reading →

Yesterday I had the back door open to the cool air, and again the brown dog walked right in. I learned that his name is Bulldozer. Dozer lives on the street behind me, the little house around the bend with the oak tree 2nd house from the corner where the biker chick lives. A neighbor told me he belonged to someone else, who didn’t answer their door when I knocked. I intuited that the kids at the biker house would know and I was right. Here is the video of his first visit in August 2013. I think he comes in to take darshan at the meditation altar.   https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=10152273142554418&set=vb.652289417&type=2&theater

Our children reap the karma of all relationships left unmended. Mend everything, forgive it all. Then that karma will not carry into your new relationships either.  I have a pair of jeans I embroidered when I was 13, with the words “Exodus 20:5  I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children.” I did it to tick my dad off. I don’t think God does any such thing. My experience is when the parents are able to clear up their past baggage, everything in their life improves. This includes the children, the grandchildren, the pets (not kidding.)  To the extent I clear up my past, to that extent do I improve the lives of those around me as well. Our children reap the karma of all relationships left unmended. You’re the one who determines how long that is.  Mend everything, forgive it all. Then there’s no karma carried into your new relationships.

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I get a lot of email feedback. That’s how I know I’m in vibrational resonance with the ones who read what I write. I like the fact that in just the daily telling of my simple story, there is someone reading it who can relate. “I appreciate what you wrote at ___. Hearing how you handled the same situation I was in helped me become clear and make good decisions.” I get emails like that often enough to know that me talking about the little details of my life makes a difference in someone else’s life.  It’s not that I’m a good writer, it’s that I know we all go through the same things.  If we know each other, no matter how briefly or casually, we are somehow vibrating on the same level or we wouldn’t be aware of each other at all.   Continue reading →

I love it when I read someone writing what I told them for years and they didn’t grok at the time. I think of the many ideas I was introduced to years before I ever understood or accepted them; lifestyle changes I could have made to improve my life decades earlier. But I didn’t want to listen to anyone telling me what they thought I should do. Pride and ego allowed me to learn the hard way. Now, I never push anything on anyone, any idea, any information they are not asking for.  But when you ask, the floodgates will open.

Tonight’s dinner was a tater tot sandwich on a white bread onion roll with mixed greens. And yesterday I ate half a Zero bar. See? I don’t always eat healthy stuff.  “Half a Zero bar?” a pal asked.  Yes, I took a few bites of the Zero bar, then had a friend hide it in their freezer. Then I nabbed it when they weren’t looking and had more bites. Then I gave them custody of it overnight and that was the last I saw of it… Now that’s a true friend.

What goes around, comes around

A friend snuck into his mate’s email and is upset that she’s been sneaking around and lying to him. He did the same with his last five partners and never made amends with any of them. When I explained it’s a vibrational match, he hung up on me.  He called the wrong person to complain to, he knows how this stuff works.