“We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.” ~ Dr. Seuss

I wrote on Facebook yesterday:  “Say a prayer for me, please. A friend is going through a hard time and I’m trying to help as much as I can. ”  I got great responses, without question as to what was going on.   It’s one of those things where I’m not sure I’m supposed to jump in and try to fix it, but so many synchronicities happened that I feel I was put in place specifically to help.   I always consider if it’s just my savior complex. John S. Shore reminded me that “Support can make or break a person.”  I recall the times in my life that was so true.  Just a word or touch or knowing someone was there for me, even if not physically there, made all the difference in the world.  That’s what I want to be for whoever’s life I am called into.   And if it costs few dollars but I’d unexpectedly come into just the right number of dollars immediately beforehand, I can only think that is what it was meant to be used for.

I’ll scream if I hear from one more galpal who’s upset that she hooked up with some random guy she just met and they had a wild 24 hours before he blew her off.  Give the guy a little time to get to know who you are to see if you even like who he is.   These are not 20 year olds I’m talking about; these are chicks who know this is how it often goes.  Save something for later, just in case there IS a later.   Either that or change your perception so you’re not a basket case strung out for  months about it.  Because remember: when you’re the basket case, that’s the next kind of guy you’ll attract.  You’re always a vibrational match to whoever or whatever you attract.  And also remember that, even if it’s true, if you keep telling that story, you’ll keep having that experience.

A galpal just discovered her hubby’s stash of porn and house rule is no porn.  I’m not a fan and believe to each their own but, mostly, rules is rules.  What do you think?

If someone asks for an exit interview or closure talk, show up for it and let them take the lead.  At the end, ask if they’ve addressed all concerns and are they complete.   Because I thought I did that once and apparently I did not.  I can be very oblivious and self centered. I don’t do it on purpose.  I never mean to hurt the ones I love. However, I recognize it’s their issue and not mine if they let me leave without being complete.

“Shamanism and sacred living is not about blissing out on nature, romping with your power animals and hugging trees – it’s about empowering yourself and opening your eyes to the world and the illusions the consumer society has spun you.  It’s about de-culturing yourself – shamans and medicine people are not social animals.  For by de-culturing yourself you get to know what is truly real in life; the Buddha didn’t become the Buddha by deeply believing he really had to have a nice holiday or a new car.” –Nicholas Breeze Wood, Editor of Sacred Hoop Magazine“

God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection.   Don’t run after them.  Rick Warren

“I don’t care if you’re black, white, straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, short, tall, fat, skinny, rich or poor.  If you’re nice to me, I’ll be nice to you.  Simple as that.”  Eminem
“Now to go one further and be nice to those whom are not so nice to me…”  Tod McNeal

Do you ever notice that when a tragedy strikes, there’s always a big outcry and blame against those who don’t appear to be grieving as someone else thinks they should grieve?  Having worked 22 years as a criminal defense paralegal and having seen tens, maybe hundreds of thousands of gruesome evidence photos and dealt with thousands of grieving victims and family members,  I know what I’m talking about.   In the face of the unexpected death of a loved one, or anyone, everyone reacts differently.  Someone can be in or out of shock and not seem affected by it.  Someone can be in or out of shock and ranting and screaming and crying and wailing.  A group can be sitting on a park bench across the river from the smoldering Twin Towers in  9/11’s most controversial photo having a pleasant conversation, appearing oblivious to the horror of the background.   Only the most ignorant of critics would presume to know what is going on in anyone’s mind in any given moment guided only by the expressions on their faces and by their actions. Continue reading →

I had a late night reading with Domino this week.  She’s been with Dennis for 5 years.  When they met, they’d both just gotten divorced and he’d just moved to Florida.  She was thrilled to find a man who didn’t drink himself into a stupor every night and who had a good job.  So good a job, in fact, that when he moved in, he suggested Domino quit her job and go back to school to get her degree.  It was perfect.  Domino couldn’t quite believe her luck.  Then one day she came home to find a process server looking for Denny.  Apparently he owed about $41,000 in back child support.  She didn’t even know he had kids.  The legal system had caught up with him and were garnishing his bank account and his wages.  He did what any self respecting, responsible man would do.  Wait, no he didn’t; instead, he quit his job. Continue reading →