Monthly Archives: June 2012

You gotta tell me the rules if you want me to follow them

ignoring youApparently I committed a major faux pas today. I saw a lesbian acquaintance at a friend’s place of business.  I recognized her from the back and said, “Sandy, hi.”  That’s the name I know her by, although she also goes by a nickname which did not immediately come to mind since her giant tattoo was on the side away from me.  I haven’t seen her in 15+ years.  She ignored me and wouldn’t even turn around when I touched her on the shoulder and said, “hi, it’s Andrea.”  She got up and left, saying goodbye to the store owner and not even turning in my direction.  I was told she no longer goes by “Sandy” at all.  She now only answers to the nickname.  She considers herself a man, not a lesbian. Dude,  WTF? For the record, I don’t care about your genitalia, nor whether you’re straight or gay, nor what color nor religion nor size and shape nor political party you are.  If you reached the age of 30 being known as one name, don’t be shocked when some unknowing someone from the past calls you that name.  So what if they don’t know your new name or your new rules.  It’s simple courtesy to say, “Hi, please call me “Barry.” ‘Nuff said.  Communication is the key.

When do you help others and when do you help yourself?

diamond in coalHow often do you think that the ones who give advice would be better off taking it themselves?  That’s the dilemma, isn’t it?   When we are going through our own personal growth process, our own transformation, ascension, dark night of the soul, illumination, that’s when we begin to seriously seek answers.  While we’re still the unformed chunk of coal, we don’t yet understand that the insights that come to us are meant for US — not for anyone around us.  Most often, the human mind/ego that likes to think itself separate and apart from others is in charge.  To those newly upon the Path, the mind makes you think that you and you alone are going through this, that you and you alone are receiving information and guidance from a higher source, and that you and you alone are the messenger sent to save everyone around you, maybe the world.   Continue reading

I rearranged my office again today

I love to rearrange my furniture often.  I like to keep the energy flowing.  When the energy flows, so so my best ideas.  I moved everything in my office today to face southeast. The view now is overlooking the birdbath in the courtyard, and I no longer have my face to the corner and have to swivel to look out the window.  Now I have a clear view of everything in the office.  I’m at Command Central.  All cords are untangled, nothing is on top of anything, n0thing is crowded, there is more space between the molecules. I feel more in control of everything, now that I am facing it.  Isn’t that always the way? Continue reading

The first step to living the life you want, is leaving the life you don’t want

“The first step to living the life you want, is leaving the life you don’t want. Taking that first step forward is always the hardest. But then each step forward, gets easier and easier. And each step forward, get you closer and closer. Until eventually, what had once been invisible, starts to be visible. And what had once felt impossible, starts to feel possible.”

Cherokee Proverb: A woman’s highest calling is to lead a man to his soul

“A woman’s highest calling is to lead a man to his soul, so as to unite him with Source. Her lowest calling is to seduce, separating man from his soul and leave him aimlessly wandering. A man’s highest calling is to protect woman, so she is free to walk the earth unharmed. Man’s lowest calling is to ambush and force his way into the life of a woman.”  – Cherokee Proverb

Domino’s build up of ash in keyboard sticks the shift key, reflects his life

Recently I was at Domino‘s home and his keyboard had the sticky keys activated which mean he left his shift button down for more than 8 seconds before touching another key.  What happened was it was stuck and he was afraid to try to unstick it himself.  I told him I pop my keys off all the time to clean under them, so I did that to his and immediately found the problem.  He had such a buildup of sludge from cigarette ashes dropping, spilled coffee, loose tobacco and dog hair — ugh — that his keys were sticking.  Typing on his keyboard was kind of like running in quicksand and he didn’t notice it until one of the keys stuck and gave him the error message.  The sticking itself should have been an error message but he had to wait until one flashed on the screen for him – a relatively minor 2 x 4.  And what’s of course relevant is that the sticking keys and sludgy keyboard simply reflected a lot of things going on in his life right now, stuff he needs to take the time to get to the root of and clean up once and for all.

My menopause journey from insomnia to restful sleep

I’m used to sleeping twice a day.  I love the feeling of falling sleep and this way I get to do it twice a day.  I like the fresh burst of energy I have upon waking up, so sleeping twice gives me two bursts of energy.  It gives me the illusion of getting two days worth of work in one 24 hour period.  I’ll have insomnia for years at a time and then it will stop for a few years.  I’ve been prescribed all kinds of sleep stuff and find it lets me sleep for only 3 hours at a time, whether it’s Ambien, Remeron, Trazodone.  Here are links to the natural supplements I found work for me.  The short version: First try Hyland’s Calms Forte, Valerian Root and Melatonin.  Here are the links.


I don’t replace the ink cartridges in my printer right away

I got a message to replace my CYAN cartridge on my printer last month, then printed 45 more pages with blue on them until it got so light I really needed to replace it.  Usually I just use it until the printer refuses to print until I change it.  To me, it’s not about being cheap.  It’s about making the most of my resources and not being wasteful.  Like I used to glob toothpaste up on my brush because that is how I grew up seeing them do it in the commercials.  One day a friend mentioned I sure wasted a lot of toothpaste and from that day forward, I use just a pea size, not a brazil nut size portion to brush my teeth.  So don’t let society – or commercials on tv – tell you how much product you need to buy and use.  You can get more brushes out of a tube of toothpaste.  You can get lots more pages out of your printer by not replacing the ink cartridge at the first error message telling you to do so. I think of them as suggestions well in advance.