I just had a phone session with a long time friend. She’s once again broken up with her mate over lies and empty promises.  “I’ll get a divorce and we’ll get married” he tells her, yet he never does. “How much longer is this going to go on?” she asked. An elder friend said it best — when the f*cking you’re getting is no longer worth the f*cking you’re getting, you’ll stop. I never understood the dramatic, emotional back and forth.  At the first blow up, you can count me out.  I used to not understand why you’d stay with someone who lied, wasn’t responsible and couldn’t make peace with the past. We stay with those who feel familiar to us. They may not “be good” for us, it may not be in our best interest, but they are familiar.