I wrote earlier this week in Clash of the Egos: Battleground for the Spiritual Seeker about a little drama with a friend who got miffed at something I said.  In a simple misunderstanding, she’d taken something the wrong way and did a public blowup on my Facebook wall.  She posted some private Instant Message conversations between us to outline her evidence, but after some comments came in, she quickly made the link inaccessible.  It was clear by our IMs that she had simply misunderstood and became abusive for no reason.  By now she’d stirred up a dozen Facebook friends with her story and they were contacting me wanting to know how to access the link, so I put it up.  I talked to several of them, then did the blog post Clash of the Egos to let everyone know everything was ok.  People misunderstand and get ticked all the time.  It’s no big deal.  It’s just life.  We get over it and we get on with it. Continue reading →

I often have flying and dancing dreams.  I love those.  I dreamed this morning that I’d been walking carrying a big wooden basket around me (imagine wearing a barrel and holding it up around you). It was very heavy to drag and I had forgotten what it was and why I was carrying it.  Then a wind came up and the big balloon that I had unknowingly been dragging behind me filled with air and I rose high, high over the rooftops.  It was an exhilarating ride and from up there, everything was so clear.  It was one of those dreams you want to last forever and wake up wanting to go back into. Continue reading →

What do you do when friends misunderstand you and don’t want to play anymore? YOU LET IT GO. You don’t hang on to it or try to sort it out or rehash it.

When friends misconstrue what you say and take something personal and cut you off? YOU LET IT GO.  It’s not about you.

When friends feel you are criticizing and coming down on them when you’re simply reminding them what works consistently for you to achieve what they wish to achieve? YOU LET IT GO. You focus your attention forward on something hopeful and pleasant.

What do you do when friends perceive you as being judgmental, feeling superior and being a know it all? YOU LET IT GO. You remember it is not your job to try to fix or educate anyone.

YOU LET IT GO. You get yourself back in the vortex and move on.

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In James Ray’s escalating patterns of abuse leading to sweat lodge deaths: interview with Lorena Bathey, Cassandra Yorgey does more than give an update on the James Ray sweat lodge matter.  She does more than give an interview with Lorena Bathey, who in a 2007 Spiritual Warrior Retreat in Sedona broke her arm as well as learned much behind the scenes information about James Ray and staff.  Yorgey brings to light the psychological undercurrent in the targeted subgroups who are being unknowingly led through an indoctrination process for the seller’s purpose.  Her article is not just to do with James Ray and not just to do with calling self proclaimed teachers and experts on their coercize tactics.  What Yorgey writes focuses on personal responsibility.  It focuses on being conscious, being fully aware of what you say and what affect it has on those who hear it.

And being aware when others are doing it to you, whether outwardly or covertly.

I say just be aware.

Cassandra Yorgey’s entire article here:  James Ray’s escalating patterns of abuse leading to sweat lodge deaths: interview with Lorena Bathey

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In 10 Great Jobs for Midlife Women, Aaron Crowe wrote, “More.com ran a list of 10 great jobs for midlife women. It’s a short list of jobs meant to feed your passion, and I think they could work just as well for a man as a woman.  They’re jobs in growing sectors that don’t rely on youth but on experience, and offer flexible hours and the ability to work remotely. And they pay well.  These jobs may make you want to change your life, according to More.com. And if they don’t, they should at least give you some ideas on how to find your passion and turn it into a job.”  Continue reading →

A friend posted on Facebook last week, along with a movie poster of the movie 2012: “If people were better educated about the power of individual and mass thoughts, words, and images, they would not make movies like this.” I completely agree. I flat out don’t watch violence or horror flicks, or even the daily news of man’s inhumanity against man.  I don’t care to, even for 90 minutes of fantasy, vibrate in harmony with disaster movies, with being afraid, feeling insecure, watching everyone lose everything around them and wail in pain and fear and misery.  I don’t need that stuff in my consciousness.  That is nothing that adds to my enjoyment of life, so I don’t let it in.   Why? I don’t want to have to wade through the emotional filters that spring up after watching something like that, when my job depends on me being tuned in to my intuition and tuned in to the subtleties of the nonphysical world around me. Continue reading →

Did you ever have an argument with someone and walk away feeling like you weren’t sure what just happened?  Maybe felt as though the two of you were not having the same conversation?  I do readings for a lot of the people I know and so I often hear both sides of a story.  I know I don’t always experience what the other person experiences.  As far as arguing over something that happened, I can tell someone: This is what happened to me.  This is how it looks to me and this is what I am reacting to.  Please tell me what you experienced. Until I do that, I can’t really know. Continue reading →

I wrote on Facebook that I have two friends – 20 year business partners. I’ll call them Chris and Rainbow.  Chris helped Rainbow build the business, doing the appointment scheduling, the venue bookings, all the publicity and promotion, promoting Rainbow on her own time as well.  Without Chris, Rainbow would not have made it big.  Oh yes, Rainbow finally signed a lucrative contract a few months ago.  She hired an attorney, a new manager, fired Chris and sent her a letter to move out of the home Rainbow has been renting her for last 11 years. Not only does Chris get no piece of the pie she helped bake, she now has no job, no home, no who-she-thought-was-her-best-friend. Get it in writing folks, whether you’re best buddies or not. Get it in writing, even if it’s your best bud, your mom, your mate or your sister.  Oh, did I leave out the part that she is a metaphysical teacher and coach?  And Chris just reminded me her car is in Rainbow’s name also, as is the car insurance. Continue reading →

Charla Nash lost most of her face after being mauled by a friend’s chimpanzee. She appeared on Oprah and the media criticizes letting her face be shown.  SO WHAT.  We look like we look.  She’s in the midst of multiple surgeries!  WHO CARES.  She’s brave and doing a real service being seen at all.  BRAVO.
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A friend posted on Facebook the other day a photo of a tree in his yard with the caption “The saga of the Lone Lemon continues.”  He said it’s been the lone lemon for 6 or 7 months.  I took a look at the pic and told him “I’d widen the circle around this tree if you want that trunk to thicken up and grow straight, or at least center it so the one side is not so near to the trunk. I learned that with mine.  That trunk will thicken up even in the next month, ” I wrote, “if you set the hose to trickle on it after the circle is removed. The same with being tied to a stake, it can feel something closeby and doesn’t want to intrude and grow into it so it stunts its own growth and stays slim and weak. Weird huh?”

I thought how like this tree we all are. Continue reading →