Life is fleeting moments of snippets of time. We take from each moment what we choose. What we perceive as unkindness one moment becomes loneliness the next. See with bigger hearts and minds, be kind to yourself and others, moments pass quickly to be gone forever, look for the good in all things at all times because once a moment in time passes, it is gone forever. Are things really as bad as they seem or do we seem to focus on them badly? One rarely knows until the moment passes and we look backward in time to reexamine from a different perspective. Was it really so bad you couldn’t move forward and get past it? Guess not, you’re looking backward. Terri Mermis

A friend changed her Facebook status to “in a relationship” to tick off her ex, who doesn’t care and probably didn’t see it. Months later her new relationship is fizzling, so she wants to change her Facebook status back to “single.” She hasn’t had the talk with her lover though, and knows friends will gang up on her doing the “I told you so” dance.  I hear this often in my reading sessions. One chooses to change their status to “in a relationship.” It may or may not be mutual, but they don’t know since they’ve never discussed relationship. Both tend to say nothing to keep from upsetting the apple cart. Neither knows where they stand and generally only one wants to know.  A half dozen friends wish they’d never put “in a relationship” as their Facebook status. Some are happy, many are not.  I simply don’t put relationship status.  If someone knows me, they know my status.

I got an offer for a Wells Fargo Platinum Business Visa with 0% on balance transfers until paid in full. I called and spoke to three different customer service people confirming it. I went into the bank to confirm it and apply. I got the agreement and read it. Nowhere did it say 0% on balance transfers until paid in full.  I received the card and the paperwork with it said 0% on balance transfers for six months. I went into my local branch where I’d applied and told them to confirm it before I wrote the first check. They did. It’s 0% for 6 months. I showed them the original envelope of the offer saying “0% on balance transfers until paid in full.” They were embarrassed. I asked to cancel it. They said there’s no fee to keep it if I don’t use it. What about the “inactive fee” mentioned in the agreement? No, there’s no fee if I don’t use the card.  We’ll see.
UPDATE: 2-14-14 I received another one in the mail!

Feeling drawn in to the despair and sadness of those around you? Breathe it in, breathe it out.  Troubled thoughts come to pass, they don’t come to stay. Be an energy converter. Smile and breathe.

Troubled ones need your Light
Kryon on Being a Lighthouse

“Wanted to share that the situation you saw at AJ and my place of work was on target. In the last week it has unfolded. You were right about the blonde and I never would have thought possible. You are gifted my dear.” KNR

Some kind testimonials
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A friend asked me for a referral to a few of science and research-based books in the field of spirituality and metaphysics.  I asked Facebook friends for their suggestions. Below is the list. I suggested Biology of Belief by Bruce Lipton, Molecules of Emotion by Candace Pert and anything written by Gregg Braden to begin with. Continue reading →

I have friends who do zero exercise and have constant and avoidable aches and pains. I even exercise on days I feel pouty because, well, it’s my body and if I want it to last and be an awesome vehicle, it needs regular maintenance. Don’t complain, DO something about it,  even just 15 minutes a day of walking. Here’s a great list of 50 reasons to exercise: Continue reading →

Some people need just a word, just a hint, to be inspired to creativity and success.  Others, even when taken by the hand and handed everything they need to succeed, cannot take that final step on their own, or cannot sustain the momentum you put into place for them.  It’s not up to any of us to judge what someone else’s next step is.  Sometimes we need to remain in the pretending and practicing part of the process for a long time.  It’s not up to any of us to judge when anyone else is ready. Making it easy for them is not making it easy on them. Making them do their own work to figure out what they want and how to go about getting it is what will bring them satisfaction and self respect. Inspire when you can, advise when asked, but don’t do it for them.

A friend gave me an excellent insight today. In response to the question “how do you deal with passive aggressive behavior?” one friend said they’d simply walk away from it.  Using myself as an example, I said I know when I was acting in passive aggressive ways, I did not know I was. I appreciated when friends pointed out my unconscious behavior. Had they simply walked away, I’d not have known what I was doing. Soul brother Frank Maiello wrote, “I think it’s a much more complicated issue sometimes, due to an individual being incapable of expressing their real feelings.  This is a tough psychological dynamic, in many ways. I find myself doing it in response to someone who is otherwise a genuinely decent person, and perhaps they can’t be open enough because they don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.” I have several friends who talk about the importance of expressing their feelings in open communication yet when it comes to themselves, they cannot do it. I never knew why. Last summer I had a glimpse when a friend agonized over suggesting I shower and use deodorant after sweating like a pig in the garden.  Imagine that. Being a natural gal, I didn’t think anything about it. Two weeks later, they told me they found it offensive but didn’t know how to tell me. They didn’t want to be rude.  Since no one ever told me I smelled funky before, I had no idea. I thought it more rude to let me offend everyone else for two weeks while we went places together until they finally hemmed and hawwed and told me.  I do not understand why grown adults can’t say what’s on their mind. A friend said he stayed with his ex after the love had gone because he didn’t want to hurt her feelings. She’d been ready to be free for a year but didn’t want to hurt his.  They not only wasted each others’ time, pent up emotions dissolved the friendship in one angry outburst. My policy is to mention something the first time I notice it. First I decide if it’s worth mentioning.  I pick my battles but if something truly bothers me, I mention it. To not do so means I’ve woefully underestimated my audience.
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