I’ve watched the Real Housewives shows off and on the past couple of years and have had a couple of the housewives as clients. I like reality shows because I like to see how people act, react and relate during all kinds of conditions. Under stress is when we learn who someone really is, and under stress we learn who we are, too. RHOA cast member Kenya Moore is an easy villain to target. She knows she’s hot, she’s narcissistic, she openly flirts with friends’ husbands, she’s an instigator, she’s unapologetically arrogant and has a history of fabrication and exaggeration. She’s like a female version of Phaedra’s husband Apollo, and they both love the attention. A vibrational match. In last night’s show, Apollo admits he lied to his wife and everyone else about Kenya coming on to him. He literally dragged Kenya thru the mud all season and, well, we all believed it because, after all, look at her past actions. When he told his cast mates that it was all a lie he made up, they lit into him for letting them side with him for two years while they talked sh*t about Kenya in Apollo’s defense.   But who’s the real villain here? Kenya for baiting the hook, then being taken aback when she attracts a bigger fish than she bargained for? Or Apollo for getting caught in Kenya’s web and reacting as he did? Clearly neither of them were thinking about the consequences of their actions.  Continue reading →

These darned bangs.
Grow them out or cut them?
I’m going to just cut a hole out for my right eye and let the other side grow out.  And i just found this image proving that it’s doable!

The day began with a surprise doubling in price of an essential item, a $159 increase, but I didn’t fret because it was worth it and that’s life. Then I was looking through all my jacket pockets gathering gloves for washing and found two $100 dollar bills I didn’t know were there. At the end of the day, it’s all about balance.

Nutritional yeast flakes yum

Would you like some nutritional yeast on your kale?
“I’m not eating anything that sounds like that.”
How about some Magic Cheesey Sprinkles?
<making new label>
“That sounds yum, yes!”

I love it when friends give me big realizations about myself. Yesterday I took an early drive to the beach. Temps were dropping and the daybreak sky looked stormy. On the beach, it was windy and the surf was rough. My hair was in a million strings within minutes. On the boardwalk, I saw a friend I hadn’t seen in a couple of years and it was fun to reconnect. Some people are invigorating to be around, they seem to make everyone come alive around them. It’s not so much that they’re the life of the party, more that they have such intense passion for life that it’s engaging to hear them talk about it. I especially enjoy conversations with friends who talk about their spiritual journey and what tools they use to help them work through issues as they arise. We’ve both studied EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and A Course in Miracles, so we discussed what we did to practice in our daily lives what we’ve learned in our studies.   Continue reading →

You cannot continue to beat the drum of things that don’t feel good when you beat them—without filling your future experience full of things that don’t feel good.  At some point, there’s going to be a tipping point that’s going to become a manifestation.   If you knew everything was really all right, and that it always has a happy ending, then you would not feel trepidation about your future. Everything is really so very all right! If you could believe and trust that, then, immediately everything would automatically and instantly become all right. – Abraham-Hicks

“Before you say yes, get him angry. See him scared, see him wanting, see him sick. Stress changes a person. Find out if he drinks and if he does, get him drunk – you’ll learn more about his sober thoughts. Discover his addictions. See if he puts you in front of them. You can’t change people, baby girl. If they are made one way, it doesn’t just wear off. If you hate how he acts when he’s out of it now, you’re going to hate it much worse eight years down the road. You might love him to bits but it doesn’t change that some people just don’t fit.”  From My Father’s Recipe For The Man I Should Marry.   I had a habit of marrying mine during the infatuation stage and 12-36 months later I’d be like, “who are you?” Experience has taught me to enjoy the unfolding without carving plans in stone or mingling assets. A pal met her mate a week after he got on 3 years probation for a drunken incident. Probation ends in January and she’s nervous that he talks a lot about he can’t wait for the first beer with his bros. She kinda thought he’d be like “I can’t wait to get a good job so we can get on with our life together.”   She’s the one moving mountains to help him get his life back but she’s going in circles because she’s the only one rowing that canoe.  Live and learn.

Instead of saying, “I told you so” when karma comes around and a friend gets their come-uppance. say instead a heartfelt thanks because:
1. There but for the grace of God go I; and
2. Another soul is awakening from the illusion

“All your conflicts, dualities, and unfinished karma show up in the mirror of your intimate relationships.” Amrit Desai

A friend has a medical condition that, among other things, fogs her brain when she doesn’t eat in time.  I suggested she put it on the calendar and also a note on her monitor and bathroom mirror the times to eat. I’m the queen of forgetting whatever I’ve not made a note for.  I also have several timers I set for things like stove on, clothes out of dryer. Whenever I hear a timer, I go into the room to find it atop whatever is needing attention.  Sometimes it’s a fun surprise! As soon as I realized I could leave reminder notes and not have to rely upon my memory, I became less stressed.  When I became less stressed, my memory improved on its own.  Now let me set a timer to remember that for next time.

RELATED: I don’t always notice when I’m getting stressed

If you find yourself halted midstream and being met with resistance at every turn, consider changing what you do or who you do it with.  Resistance always has meaning.  That doesn’t mean never do that thing and never hang with that person.  It just means now is not a productive time to do that thing or hang with that person.  A false start loses momentum for a reason.  Maybe you are meant to accomplish that task free from the karma of the other involved. Maybe you’re meant to bring that person back into the project after you’ve laid the foundation firmly yourself.  When Life begins throwing up roadblocks and waving red flags, pause. Take a break from the situation.  Take a break from those people. You know who they are. Take a break from those you feel responsible for. A break will allow you to realize how powerful and resourceful they are without you. When you see their power and they begin to react to your seeing them as a person with power, the dynamics between you will change. You will be able to accomplish many things, alone and together. The essential thing is to PAUSE and step back from your situation. Take a BREAK from it and from everyone involved. Don’t talk to anyone about it during the break, just be busily involved elsewhere.  Resistance always has meaning.  When you’re getting red flags and roadblocks, when your mobility is being halted, step out of someone else’s karma and see what doors open to you that would not have opened otherwise.