Do you ever notice that when a tragedy strikes, there’s always a big outcry and blame against those who don’t appear to be grieving as someone else thinks they should grieve? Having worked 22 years as a criminal defense paralegal and having seen tens, maybe hundreds of thousands of gruesome evidence photos and dealt with thousands of grieving victims and family members, I know what I’m talking about. In the face of the unexpected death of a loved one, or anyone, everyone reacts differently. Someone can be in or out of shock and not seem affected by it. Someone can be in or out of shock and ranting and screaming and crying and wailing. A group can be sitting on a park bench across the river from the smoldering Twin Towers in 9/11’s most controversial photo having a pleasant conversation, appearing oblivious to the horror of the background. Only the most ignorant of critics would presume to know what is going on in anyone’s mind in any given moment guided only by the expressions on their faces and by their actions. Continue reading
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Domino has had it with her freeloader boyfriend
I had a late night reading with Domino this week. She’s been with Dennis for 5 years. When they met, they’d both just gotten divorced and he’d just moved to Florida. She was thrilled to find a man who didn’t drink himself into a stupor every night and who had a good job. So good a job, in fact, that when he moved in, he suggested Domino quit her job and go back to school to get her degree. It was perfect. Domino couldn’t quite believe her luck. Then one day she came home to find a process server looking for Denny. Apparently he owed about $41,000 in back child support. She didn’t even know he had kids. The legal system had caught up with him and were garnishing his bank account and his wages. He did what any self respecting, responsible man would do. Wait, no he didn’t; instead, he quit his job. Continue reading
Why pretend loved ones aren’t going to die? Let’s get over the fear
Someone wrote it’s been a year of losing friends, a half dozen friends having passed in the prior 5 months. Among the condolences, one comment said, “this has got to stop.” I laughed so hard the water I was drinking squirted out of my nose. No disrespect to anyone who’s lost a loved one, but isn’t it time we began to embrace that death is part of the process? That’s like saying I’ll throw noodles and sauce and cheese in the oven at 350 for an hour but OMG, I don’t want to see lasagna at the end of it.
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I just referred out all our psychics for Halloween parties
Yesterday I awoke to 5 emails from groups having upcoming Halloween parties and asking for referrals to psychic readers and palm readers for the party. I gave them every name listed in Horizons Magazine. Now don’t you wish yours was included?
Foods to Avoid With Diverticulitis
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Some people suffer with what is called diverticulitis. This is when the small pockets called diverticula, located on the wall of the intestine, become inflamed. When this happens, the pockets can become infected and the person will most likely suffer from pain and discomfort. Research shows that this condition may be hereditary and that the foods you eat can really bring on this condition. Your diet is very important as it helps you to stay healthy and fuel your body. Without the proper nutrition, you can become sick and possibly develop diverticulitis. If you suffer with this condition then you will want to watch what you eat so that you can allow your intestines time to heal properly. There is a good list of foods to avoid with diverticulitis. If you want your health to improve then you will take the steps to avoid these harmful foods. It is recommended that you eat a low residue diet, as it will help to reduce the amount of bowel that passes through the intestines. This will allow your body time to heal properly.
A low residue diet is one that is low in fiber. You want to try to stay with a low fiber diet for at least 10 days for the best results. There are certain foods such as chili peppers, sesame seeds, nuts, pumpkin and corn, which will make the condition worse and these foods should be avoided. You also want to stay away from foods that are high in fiber such as bean and lentils.
Many people that suffer with this condition make the mistake of trying to eat at places such as pizza parlors and fast food joints. Places such as these serve nothing but greasy and fried foods that will only irritate your condition and make it much worse. You should stay away from fried foods, spicy foods, and pizza as they all can cause intestinal discomfort. If you like these types of foods then it is better to make them yourself so you can control what ingredients are put in and go for baking the foods rather than frying them.
Refined foods can also wreak havoc this condition, especially refined foods such as white rice and white flour. You need to learn to read the labels on the foods that you buy so you can see if they contain the foods that you need to avoid. Many times, there are products that contain things as corn but it won’t be listed on the front of the package.
Anyway here is a list of foods to avoid with diverticulitis in general.
1) All the junk food such as burgers, pizzas, fried food and spicy food should be avoided.
2) Refined foods like white flour, white rice etc.
3) All the processed foods. (Processed means anything with a label.)
4) Corn and corn products.
5) Nuts
6) Sesame seeds
7) Pumpkin
While there are certain foods that are known to cause more problems with this condition, many times it is a matter of trial and error to find which foods bother you and your particular situation. When you find foods that irritate the condition, you should put them on your list of foods to stay away from. It is also a good idea to have a list of foods that you know are safe to eat and ones that you can tolerate with little issues.
http://www.dietfordiverticulosis.org/foods-to-avoid-with-diverticulitis/
Today’s moon-Saturn square gives the opportunity to convert old wounds
Today’s moon-Saturn square gives to you the opportunity to convert your old wounds, as well as the old wounds of others, into brilliant opportunities. “We are not creatures of circumstance,” Disraeli wrote . “We are creators of circumstance.” Liberate yourself from conventions that drag you down. Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go, says astrologer Dennis Fairchild.