Recently I was at Domino‘s home and his keyboard had the sticky keys activated which mean he left his shift button down for more than 8 seconds before touching another key. What happened was it was stuck and he was afraid to try to unstick it himself. I told him I pop my keys off all the time to clean under them, so I did that to his and immediately found the problem. He had such a buildup of sludge from cigarette ashes dropping, spilled coffee, loose tobacco and dog hair — ugh — that his keys were sticking. Typing on his keyboard was kind of like running in quicksand and he didn’t notice it until one of the keys stuck and gave him the error message. The sticking itself should have been an error message but he had to wait until one flashed on the screen for him – a relatively minor 2 x 4. And what’s of course relevant is that the sticking keys and sludgy keyboard simply reflected a lot of things going on in his life right now, stuff he needs to take the time to get to the root of and clean up once and for all.
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My menopause journey from insomnia to restful sleep
I’m used to sleeping twice a day. I love the feeling of falling sleep and this way I get to do it twice a day. I like the fresh burst of energy I have upon waking up, so sleeping twice gives me two bursts of energy. It gives me the illusion of getting two days worth of work in one 24 hour period. I’ll have insomnia for years at a time and then it will stop for a few years. I’ve been prescribed all kinds of sleep stuff and find it lets me sleep for only 3 hours at a time, whether it’s Ambien, Remeron, Trazodone. Here are links to the natural supplements I found work for me. The short version: First try Hyland’s Calms Forte, Valerian Root and Melatonin. Here are the links.
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Healing Isn’t About Returning to Status Quo
Healing does not mean going back to the way things were before, but rather allowing what is now to move us closer to God. Ram Dass
I don’t replace the ink cartridges in my printer right away
I got a message to replace my CYAN cartridge on my printer last month, then printed 45 more pages with blue on them until it got so light I really needed to replace it. Usually I just use it until the printer refuses to print until I change it. To me, it’s not about being cheap. It’s about making the most of my resources and not being wasteful. Like I used to glob toothpaste up on my brush because that is how I grew up seeing them do it in the commercials. One day a friend mentioned I sure wasted a lot of toothpaste and from that day forward, I use just a pea size, not a brazil nut size portion to brush my teeth. So don’t let society – or commercials on tv – tell you how much product you need to buy and use. You can get more brushes out of a tube of toothpaste. You can get lots more pages out of your printer by not replacing the ink cartridge at the first error message telling you to do so. I think of them as suggestions well in advance.
Paying attention to what comes in and out of my body is a part of my spiritual practice. It’s about mind, spirit AND body.
I just threw out 4 cans of Maesri curries. Taking a look in my food pantry, I recognize my habit to over buy. In the case of canned goods, often by the time I think about using them, they are years past the expiration date. In this case, 3 years past. Today I realize that the state of my pantry reflects the state of my digestive system last week: a steady accumulation of too much food, so much there’s no room for it all. Last week I got a good reminder of what happens when I do that. Continue reading
Domino asks how to train her lover to meet her needs. Stop Faking Orgasm; Know What Turns You On; Tell Him That
In a recent reading with Domino, we talked about her relationship with her new man. “Like most men, he thinks my body is ready the moment he gets an erection.” They’ve known each other 2 years and just recently became lovers. Now she’s wondering if she made a mistake and if they’re on the way to ruining their friendship. She and I have talked about this before with her previous lovers. The simple answer is (1) know what you like, then (2) tell him and show him. If you’re intimate enough with this man to have sex with him, you’re intimate enough to discuss it with him. If you know what your body responds to, honor him by telling him the sequence of touch and caress that gets you there. If he forgets and acts hastily, slow him down and remind him. At first, if he’s not trained to be real conscious about sex, be prepared for him to get his feelings hurt and stop altogether. Believe me, that’s preferable to faking an orgasm and becoming more and more unsatisfied without him knowing it. If he has to be continually reminded, she has to decide if it’s worth the hassle. Continue reading
Inverted Body Scanners in Airports Show Entire Naked Body; you gotta hand it to the guys who decided to make people feel shame about their bodies. Just another control technique.
At Inverted Body Scanner Image Shows Naked Body In Full Living Color, it is reported, “The full body scanners to be rolled out in airports across the country not only produce detailed pictures of your genitals, but once inverted some of those images also display your naked body in full living color. And you don’t need to be a graphics wizard to pull off the trick – inverting a photo is a simple process that takes one click and is an option available even in the most basic image editing software.
Why did I get through the busy line when she couldn’t?
Domino had been trying to reach a government organization through an automated phone system and she had exactly 3 days to get through. She began calling on Day 1. The line was busy. She called more often on Day 2. The line continued to be busy. On Day 3, she began calling as soon as they opened and called continuously for 90 minutes. She kept calling while she dropped 2 of her 3 kids at daycare, got gas and shopped for groceries, continually doing the automatic redial. Line was still busy. When I arrived at her house for our appointment, she told me she had to continue calling and she had one child sick. She was exasperated, she had things to do. One of them was get her little one happy and settled so we could have our time together. I suggested I continue to call for her while she did that. Why did I get through when she couldn’t for 2 days? Continue reading
I love paying my bills
I’m writing checks to the IRS for my quarterly estimated tax payment and the checks to pay the property taxes. Thank you to everyone whose dollars allow everything to be paid on time, thank you to me for never doubting it and thank you to You-Know-Who for, well, making everything in the universe possible.
You know that dream where you can’t find your car and you’re trying to get home and no one has a phone that works? Yeah, just had that one.