Only you can break the chain

Domino is a friend and comedic motivational writer that I’ve worked with for years.  She said, “I have been down in the dumps for weeks and can’t shake it.  People come to my blog to get inspired, they don’t want to hear my problems, they want to walk away lifted up, not dragged down.”  This is a Universal dilemma we all face at some point.  Age 29, age 39 and age 58, age 80 and 87 are years that, astrologically, the Saturn Return and Uranus Opposition occur.  These transits involve life review and personality integration.  It is ongoing and cyclic.  Some people find it hard.  It can be challenging, but it does not have to be hard.  One key is having developed your will to be strong enough to allow you discipline of mental focus. But she already knows that.    Her situation is that she feels she cannot write about her life when it is NOT going well.  That she can’t write about the thoughts that trouble her and the problems she faces.  I told her that would allow more people to relate to her, since she IS a positive and uplifting person and it’s of value to read  how she navigates her life; what processes she uses to keep herself sane when madness reigns on the homefront. Continue reading →

Coffee is SO a drug

I’ve been experimenting with coffee this week.  That is, I’ve been drinking it and noting how it feels in my body.  It’s definitely a drug.  I remember for 20 years working in law offices having up to 7 cups of coffee throughout the day.  When I began working on my own, with no one to buy and make coffee, I got out of the habit.   A few times a year at a conference or gathering,  I’ll drink some decaf with half and half and I’d feel a buzz from it.  The caffeinated coffee I’ve been drinking this week has been like rocket fuel.  I’ve been cleaning floors and weeding to stay in motion and burn off the energy.  I’ve neglected my regular visits to the gym because there’s so much to do here as far as yard clean up, deadfall pickup, I should be mowing every week now.  Amped up on the coffee, I was up to the tasks and got much done.  It did keep me awake but I expected that.  By the third day, I felt a twinge of heartburn and took that as a sign to lay off the stuff except medicinally.   The first day without it, my body wanted it and I had to remind myself what the consequences were: amped up, no sleep, heartburn = no fun.

“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”

It’s when we’re in the slumps and don’t feel motivated that we find out how in control of our mind we really are, how in control of our will.  We can either choose to begin using self  talk that motivates us, or choose to do nothing and let the old, unproductive thoughts rule our mind, letting us brood and isolate.  We can either choose to jump up and stay in motion and do something that needs to be done, or we can choose to do nothing.  As I wrote in  How to stay functional as you sit out the bleak and depressing times, “Maybe we can’t always control the sudden onset of a mood, but we can control how we react to it.  We can control our thought that if we trust in the process, we will have successful results.”  As soon as we become in charge of what thoughts we choose to think and begin to exercise the power of our will to do so, we become very powerful creators.

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Kathy Lee

I enjoyed this article so much I wanted to share it.  I love the insight: “We relinquish our loved ones back into the arms of Source.  It can love them in a way, that with our human limitations, we never can. Our loved ones, whether human or animal, return to a place of perfect peace and bliss.  How could we fight their departure if we know this?”   Here is the story that led to Kathy’s insight and revelation: Continue reading →

I just stepped outside and began weeding miles of wedelia out from under the loquat trees in the front yard.  In just 10 minutes I cleared an entire pathway.  I’ve learned to stay in motion while I’m waiting for things to happen.  Once I’m in motion, I am receptive to being guided this way and that.  If I don’t get up and get moving, I can stand dead in the water and nothing happens.  It’s a balancing act for sure.

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Wow, I am in the flow today.  19 calls!  I’ve learned I DO HAVE super powers.  My mantra today is: goal and focus and check it off the list and go on to the next.  Hand to the plow, but it’s fun since I’m plowing through work I love with friends I haven’t spoken to in awhile. I love my life.

I’m happily working away on ads while the doves and blue jays vie for space at the birdbath outside my office window. The jays are loud and bossy, the doves wait their turn and relish the time they get. I’ll bet you’re a dove and know plenty of jays, huh.