On Facebook tonight, my roommate wrote:  “If your assistant doesn’t assist you, hire me: I will make you laugh and feel light-hearted all day, I can answer your phone with a smile and treat your customers and your business with the upmost respect and care, I’m completely computer literate and genuinely a really nice guy, I can make your life so much easier, but you don’t know how wonderful I am, because you accept applications online only, so we have never had this discussion, or the one about what I cannot do. What I cannot do is pass your background check or the judgements you make as a result of it. ”  I responded, “What might help is if you had not checked you had a felony conviction on the application when you do not have a felony conviction, you ditzoid.”  Just sayin…

Domino writes: “Impasse: my husband & I have slowly drifted far apart as I’ve embraced world views beyond fundamentalist Christianity. I’ve walled off part of myself from him as a result, because even things like non Christian music and yoga are sinful and not even open for discussion, so my exploration of other religions and views I do entirely hidden from him.  About 10 years ago after much thought and prayer, I thought my life’s purpose was to become a Unity minister.  I wanted to leave advertising and go to seminary. This totally freaked my husband out, and he very bluntly stated that he would never be married to a minister. That destroyed my world, I struggled with depression and coming out of it forced me to reexamine all my views about God and the Bible.   He has no idea who I am anymore, and I know he would never accept it.  That leaves me basically without a life partner on a soul level, for the rest of my life unless I would leave him. But leaving him would be devastating for him– emotionally, financially (I’ve been the breadwinner the last 22 years), and since divorce and remarriage is a sin to him,  he would live the rest of his life without a partner. So I see my choice as either to remain in a dead relationship or cause much suffering to someone I vowed to love. Neither choice feels good to me.  I’m not looking for “the answer”– just curious about your perspective.”  I posed the question on Facebook and got interesting responses:

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Domino complains that his mate no longer shares his interests.  She actually never did, she  just used to be so in love with him that she’d sit and smile stupidly at him for hours on end.  When he stopped giving her attention, she stopped giving him attention.  We always think it’s about anything other than that, don’t we?  We settle into a routine with each other and disconnect as the magic fades into mundanity.  She turns into the Maxwell housewife as he stops being the knight in shining armor.  Both have dashed dreams because they were in love with the idea of each other more so than who each of them really turned out to be.  But it’s comfortable enough and they like each other enough so they’ll figure something out.  In the meantime, leave each to their own interests, give plenty of privacy and don’t be a space invader.  This, too, shall pass.

The 9 feng shui areas, to learn your rooms and areas, place your home’s floor plan over this template, with your front door or entranceway in line with the bottom of the map.

Read through the descriptions and decide which area to focus on first.  The nine Feng Shui ba gua areas explained: Let’s take a look at the nine Feng Shui ba gua areas to see how they relate to your life. First, position the grid over a room or the layout of a whole space.

1. Career… The career area of the Feng Shui ba gua not only relates to how you earn a living it also indicates your life path or soul purpose. The idea is that if you are truly on the correct path things will seem easy or just click into place. You’ll feel enthusiastic and confident about what you do and where you are going. Focus on this Feng Shui ba gua area if you are having problems at work or can’t decide what your next career move is. Continue reading →

This is sooooo sexy, isn’t it?

My roommate has been down with a respiratory bug for a week and sleeping most of the time.  He alternates between sleeping and hacking.  He moves from the bed to the couch and back.  As he slept on the couch, I went into his room and put on some Native American music so he could get a healing as he dozed.  I went into the office to work but could only think of the mound of laundry he had in the corner.  “How much of the clothes all around your room need to be washed?”  I asked last week.  “All of them,” was the reply.  I’m a firm believer in whoever is bugged by a mess should resolve the mess.   Since I found his laundry bothered me, I decided I could either complain to him about it and coax him to jump through that hoop, or I could just do the laundry and only do it if I could be happy about doing it.  Not if I felt like he should be doing it. And if in the spirit of seva we are doing all actions for the Beloved, then I’d actually be doing God’s laundry and how cool an honor is it to get to do that?  And if we are all truly One, why does it matter who does what and who gets the credit for anything? Continue reading →

The last several days I’ve been working with a friend doing mobile home repairs.  My dad was a builder, so I grew up around construction sites and I enjoy the work.  Mostly I kept the area clear of debris as he was working and also set up the staging areas for sawing and battery recharging.  We were working with 3 sets of tools (his, mine and theirs) so I also got to keep an eye on what belonged to whom.  It was cool to see what was underneath the floor when he was checking for the source of a leak.  There’s insulation and like an underliner.  The night before, I’d watched several Youtube videos of repairs and replacing a mobile home floors and plumbing, so I knew what to expect.    I like to see the inner workings of things.  I like to see what’s inside and underneath and invisible to the eye.  It connects me to a deeper relationship with what’s under all that we see on the surface.

A friend asks:  “I live in Michigan. On the way home the other day, I looked up in the sky and to my surprise I saw hundreds of sparrows flying “North”. Even more so surprising, the dead silence all around for over the past two days. Yet the other morning as I looked out the sliding glass door of our third floor apt, there on our bird feeder was a dove. unlike any dove I had seen before.  It was a most velvet soft dove I had ever seen. It was the most beautiful gold bronze color I had ever seen before as well. It sat there for for a time, then it looked right at me, and eventually flew away. After this happened, there are no birds on the telephone lines, nesting in the trees. No abundance of birds fly from tree to tree. much less in the sky.  Any Ideas?” Continue reading →