I’ve found the best way to get anyone to want to change to a better life is to let my own life be my example. To let my life be my message. To let others feel hopeful that good things can come their way if they redo some self talk on what the future may hold. Got some stinking thinking? Write a script and read it to yourself everytime that other thought comes up. Sound silly? I don’t care, it works for me. It’s mostly just reminding myself what I already know. Repeating phrases that I know to be true and repeating them long enough that they overtake the other thoughts and replace them. Phrases like these: Continue reading
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If you think it’s about you, it’s probably about them. If you think it’s about them, it’s probably about you.
Today I got my wings as I freed myself from an unnecessary tether. It feels AWEsome! Thank you, Universe.
Ignore the chaos of others and it will soon leave your life
A friend is all up in arms over what so and so said. When people kinda stalk you and kinda talk about you unkindly, don’t let it bother you. Ignore it. Don’t even react. You don’t even know it’s happening. Your life is your message. It will pass soon enough. Add no fuel to the flame. Just get on with your own good life and pay no mind to anyone who doesn’t want to be part of it. My 88 year old aunt gets panic attacks watching hurricane updates. We’ve not had one since 2004 but she makes herself a basket case glued to the tv, running the ugly “what ifs” through her head. It gets exhausting when it becomes the main daily topic. You stop it by simply turning off the tv. Stop watching the movie that is driving you crazy, whatever it is. Take your attention off the chaos and it will drop out of your life. And if a hurricane is really coming, you’ll know in plenty of time to prepare yourself. Until then, get on with your happy life.
Two people, two experiences: not always on the same page
A friend was confused that someone was openly giving her a hateful stare-down in church. I told her that anyone who can muster that much anger first thing Sunday morning and feels the need to openly display it needs to be left alone. I reminded her, as Rev. Beth said at Unity of Melbourne yesterday from The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz: don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions. The funny thing, my friend said, was that their argument was months ago and she didn’t even know he was still irked. They’d had no contact, so she figured it was over and done. No one can weave with you a bond of discord if you contribute no strands to the weaving. Here one party had been feeding off their own anger for months yet the other was unaware of it and unaffected by it. My brother was banished by our dad at age 18 and stayed away for 37 years thinking the entire family was mad at him. He didn’t know our dad told the family he’d died in 1966. Our dad was troubled, bipolar and alcoholic. Continue reading
Tarot Card of the Day: 8 of Swords
Your Card for today. Meditate upon the meaning this card might have for you since it showed up at this exact moment. Not everyone saw this. Not everyone attracted this message onto their monitor. YOU DID. There are no mistakes.
Introduction: The 8 of Swords may be a sign you need to acknowledge your own role in a bad situation. When the 8 of Swords appears, you may be unaware you are holding your own self back. Do you fear moving into the future? Are you wary of getting hurt by a new situation? Think through what it is that you’re afraid of. A little reflection can yield big insights and understanding will ease your fears and bring forth opportunities. Continue reading
How do you choose to feel today?
Since we are in charge of how we choose to feel, I choose to feel DELIGHTED that I get to live this life I have, right here, right now. I choose to feel blessed that I get paid to do work I find fulfilling with people and a world I love.
Tarot Card of the Day: Knight of Wands
Your Card for today. Meditate upon the meaning this card might have for you since it showed up at this exact moment. Not everyone saw this. Not everyone attracted this message onto their monitor. YOU DID. There are no mistakes.
MEANING: This is a great time for travel if you can get away. You should be feeling charged up, full of energy, and ready to get things done. Your self-confidence is likely to be increasing and this should help you toward your goals. Knights are messengers, and in the Wands suit, the messages are likely to be positive and related to work or career. Your projects are likely to be/have been more successful than you would have expected or predicted. You have a lot of reasons to feel pride. Savor it. Continue reading
Rest in Peace Hardee S. Henderson, III
Hardee S. Henderson, III
Rest in peace, old friend. In 1992, Hardee was the last attorney I worked for before doing what I do now. Hardee could be a very kind and generous man, and his personality was bigger than life. He was beloved by many. He gave me courage to morph from a 22 year career as a criminal defense paralegal into doing my own thing. We’ll meet again, my friend. Thank you for everything you added to my life. July 15, 1952 – May 30, 2013. Florida Today obituary here. MS Obituary here. A celebration of his life will be held Friday, June 14 at 12pm, at the chapel at Holy Trinity Episcopal Academy’s Upper School (5625 Holy Trinity Drive, Melbourne). In lieu of flowers, please send donations to To Write Love On Her Arms (twloha.com).
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We must always be prepared to clean up the messes we make, as it is not reasonable to expect others to act as our parents. Charlie Scheidecker