A friend was speaking about why they wait to have sex in a new relationship. “The whole process of courtship and anticipation leading up to the moment of intimacy,” Love says, “makes the act of two people surrendering themselves body and soul to each other a magical, and spiritual experience that brings two people so close to being one.” Patrick B McGinnis, LMHC, Sex Therapist, Relationship Counselor says, “Go slowly, take the time to really know the other person. Once you become sexual it can seem like love but it often isn’t.” I agree. I think some things are meant only for those we’ve known awhile. I’m never ready to jump into anything simply because the chemistry is there. Unless I think someone is going to be a significant part of my life, I just don’t go there.
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I took score too soon, I thought it was for one but it’s for another
In 2012, I began reconnecting with many musician friends from back in the day, as well as current popular musicians playing the Unity churches nationally. Synchronicity always has meaning. I thought they were meant to be a connection for a particular friend, who had no interest in that genre of music, nor in networking. Today I realized who the connections are for. The possibilities are endless, for those with eyes to see. I figure, just connect everyone to everyone and let them all sort out what they are to be to each other, now and later.
Promote what you love, instead of bashing what you hate
Goddess Grub – Healthy and Luscious Low Fat Meals for the Goddess on the Go
My Goddess Grub Website is back up – check it out http://www.goddessgrub.com/Goddessgrub/index.html
“When someone is upset, don’t deal with the issue, identify the emotion.” Blair Singer
I was in conversation with a friend and he asked, “what emotion are you feeling?” I was surprised I couldn’t readily identify it. I love it when friends ask me questions like that, seeking to clarify for both of us exactly what we are talking about, making sure there are no misunderstandings down the road over something not addressed in the moment. Ya gotta love a conscious male. I’m thrilled when someone communicates so there aren’t flareups months down the road, leaving you wondering WTF is so hard about having an honest conversation? Werner Erhard pointed out that all upsets involve incomplete communication. I can dig it.
Tarot Card of the Day: Six of Swords Reversed
Your Card for today. Meditate upon the meaning this card might have for you. Not everyone attracted this message onto their monitor. YOU DID. There are no mistakes. MEANING: You may be ready to speak out about things you feel strongly about. However, communication can be difficult now. Think before you speak. Back up your computer. You may well make some new discoveries and decisions; and you may have some important info to share. However, the way in which you communicate is at least as important as what it is that you have to say. Think carefully about what you need to get across.
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It’s nice when friends know me
Voice mail: “X and I are going to dinner. Not sure how to invite you… maybe I should ask if I may pick you up in 20 minutes. No, forget it, I’ll just pick you up in 20 minutes.” Me Tarzan, you Jane, that works sometimes.
If you want to get warm you move near the fire.
If you want joy, peace, eternal life, you must get close to what has them.
~C. S. Lewis
Ah, dancing… a man who knows how to lead
I may have found the holy grail…
At age 40-60 you’ll reconnect with people from 20-40 years ago
If you knew you would, in your 50’s and 60’s, run in people you knew in your 20’s and 30’s, would you treat them differently? Even if you move half way around the world, that’s how it’s set up. People come back into our lives decades down the road to give us a chance for a do-over. If I knew that at age 20, 30 or even 40, I would never have placed blame and held grudges. When you reconnect, often you find that only one held onto the pain. Don’t let it be you.