It will involve working on yourself—however, this investment will pay off greatly in the long run. Here are three methods, tested throughout three millenniums:

1.    Start monitoring your thoughts. Spend five minutes every evening writing down how you felt that day. Remember the situations you encountered and emotions you felt. What negative character traits does that uncover? What do you plan to do tomorrow to start improving yourself and to change those particular character traits? It is very important to write everything down.   Continue reading →

It’s possible to be healthy and active well into your 90’s, so stop thinking that getting older means going downhill. If that is your view of aging, that could well be your experience. Know that you can have a different experience. Look forward to eating healthy and being active and mentally clear into your 90’s. Pre-pave THAT instead.

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A friend is in a legal battle with an unfair business partner, but her hands aren’t altogether clean. “I want justice,” she cries, when what she really wants is revenge. I reminded her of some details she’s forgotten, telling her, “Remember the behind the scenes history. You don’t want justice, what you want is mercy.”

I’m blessed to have my life, that’s for sure. Meaning: I’m blessed to know that how I think affects what comes to me, and that I can chose to exercise my free will to discipline myself to stay focused on things I like so that more things I like may come to me.

I am the only one who can bring harmony to all my relationships. Yes, just me and my decision to broaden my perception to see things another way, that’s all it takes.

Summer is upon us! With temps soaring into the 90’s, I’ve begun turning my a/c on. I’m lucky that my entire property is under a high oak canopy. The shade keeps me much cooler than my neighbors who are all in the sunshine, with little or no overhead shade.  Often I’m unaware of how hot it is until I walk out to the mailbox.  Friday I got blasted!  About 6:00pm I talked my mate away from the computer and went to the pool for an hour.  It’s been a couple of years since I swam, but Friday I was ready to jump in.  The water was the perfect temperature, it felt just a few degrees below my body temp. Continue reading →

I stopped eating bread on Mother’s Day.  I’d begun eating it in July 2013.  In ten months, it put an extra 10 pounds on me. My face likes the ten pounds.  My waist doesn’t.  I’ve learned that bread is my drug. When I avoid it, all is well.  When I think I can have just a slice or two of toasted Ezekial every week or so, that quickly turns into having a toasted english muffin every day. I catch myself doing it and I still do it.  “Let me just finish this package and I won’t buy it again.” It becomes a race to finish them. More than once I’ve carried food over to the boyfriend’s place to get it out of my house.  He has my box of wheat saltines right now. But, as soon as I made the decision to JUST STOP eating bread, it became easy.  I had to get to that point first. I had to get to that state of mind.  Once I reached that level of consciousness, my other food choices came into focus again. I didn’t care about bread as I changed my focus. Continue reading →

That chaos crap storm you keep being plagued with? Stop and ask yourself why you’re attracting it.  You already know HOW you’re attracting it.  The question is WHY you keep attracting it.  What is your soul trying to get across to you? What does inner guidance say when you ask? You are the only one who can answer that.

Yowza, Real Housewives of NYC, Ramona would rather blow up in a rage and turn into a screaming banshee rather than admit to a lie.  She’d rather distract from the real question at hand and make it all about something else.  That seems to be her storyline. It must be as exhausting for her as it is to watch. It takes exactly one time someone acting like that with me for me to be done. As an adult, you learn to have respectful discussion. But I get it. By acting that way, she gets more air time. And for some people, it’s all about air time.