Last night two 45 minute calls turned into 4 hours but the time flew. The last two had issues with, among other things, barking dogs and grouchy neighbors. With each, I talked about how they attracted the vibe and how to get out of it. Afterwards, I went for a long walk in the neighborhood under the full moon. I thought “I seldom hear dogs bark. I know half my neighbors have them.” As I walked I began thinking which houses they lived at. I passed Cricket’s house and he barks in confirmation. The trampoline people have a dog and the 2 story house new people have a dog. I heard another bark from that direction. Then another from farther up the street. By the time I pass his house, his human has turned on the spotlights and opened the front door yelling at the dog. As I turn my corner, I notice there are several dogs barking now. Wow, I thought. This is a reminder how powerful I am, my thoughts can cause things to happen around me. All I have to do is let myself sink into the vibe of it (talking about and thinking about barking dogs — or whatever) and it appears literally in front of me. Now, how to use this amazing super power for good?

This is the face of OUR golden years. We’re not your grandma’s grandma. As elders we are the visionkeepers, holding your vision until you’re able to hold it on your own. We are the wayshowers; to make your path easier and save you steps, we share the way we’ve come and what the journey has taught us. We didn’t listen either so we learned our own way. This is the face of our golden years. We’re not your grandma’s grandma.

Image from Wild Woman Sisterhood: Radiant, luminous “crone” woman. During ancient times, the crones, hags and witches were frequently sages, leaders, midwives and healers in their communities and were revered for their wisdom and knowledge. As history evolved and a patriarchal society took hold, the definitions of the crone, (the crowned one) the hag, (the holy one), and the witch (the wise one) were distorted.  May we again respect all elders and honor their wisdom.

A 30-second spot during 2015 Super Bowl cost $4.5 million because those 30 seconds of words are proven to cause consumers to run out and buy that product. Impressionable minds learn disrespect even in sitcoms, violence and hate on tv, in video games and song lyrics. If you’re asking “Where did we go wrong?” when they see you glued to a monitor during your waking hours, phone, computer, iPad, tv, they learn to do the same. It less about telling them what not to do than it is about encouraging them to more fun and creative alternatives.

I watch Couples Therapy on VH1, a tv series chronicling celebrity couples as they get relationship counseling from Dr. Jenn Mann, a very cool and savvy relationship therapist.  I enjoy reality shows like this, where they show the process of working through a psychological problem and coming to new understanding about who they are and what they are capable of. There are 5 couples, this is Season 6, and there’s “a psychological problem” for everyone to relate to. It’s a free therapy session for viewers, I’ve learned from Dr Jenn’s advice on the show. Cast member Carmen Carrera is a transwoman, meaning she was born a male and transitioned to a female. Other cast members wonder does that make her male partner gay? I’ve learned gender identity has zero to do with sexual orientation. Meaning someone can be born a male and want to transition to a female, yet still prefer a female partner. Sexual preference can go either way, just as for the rest of us. Our body parts are such a tiny miniscule ingredient in our loving relationships. What we have is not nearly as important as what we think about ourselves and who we are with.

I watched the Real Housewives of Orange County reunion show because I have a client related to the show. On good behavior as they rehash the mean girl stuff they did all season long, I smile to watch their backtracking. My client has learned and grown from previous behavior and it shows: she makes far fewer outright bitchy digs. We all go through stuff like this but they’ve chosen to let theirs be televised. What a great teachable moment for them all when they watch it and see how they appear. If only we could all be recorded every moment of our lives and play it back for our own self-realization. This season, Tamara found religion and on the reunion show, born again former cast member Alexis asked Tamara why she makes such a big show of finding Jesus yet continues her hateful gossipy ways. Tamara and Heather’s reactions were they did not get it. I got it. When I begin wising up and seeing who I really was and seeing personality traits I was prone to, I made changes and my life thereafter showed it. Your daily life and your daily words show us the depth of your understanding. Oh, if we could see ourselves as others see us.

“I get exhausted trying to keep up a happy face,” a friend said. “How do you do it?” I told her daily meditation is the key. Anytime there’s something icky going on, I go back in time and apologize or do what it takes to make it right and then bring myself back into the Now. That pretty much keeps everything unhappy at bay so it’s no effort to keep up a happy face.

Andrew Warnes

On Facebook I’m discovering Andrew Warnes from Australia who’s on pilgrimage walking the Camino De Santiago in Spain. I went to his page to read about his walk and learned he’s also got insightful writings. This is the first I read and can relate – yes, go into the cave to work on yourself, but emerge changed.  Here’s an excerpt:

Tips of the trade for the man in his cave
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Do you have a magnetic sign for your business on your car? Better ask your insurance agent if you have the right kind of insurance to do that so you’re not surprised when you find later you’re not covered. $$$ In some states, using a vehicle for business purposes requires that it be registered for commercial or business rather than personal use. Placing a magnetic sign on your car door to advertise your business can be interpreted as commercial use. If you register a vehicle for commercial or business use, its insurance coverage must match its registration. Driving an improperly registered vehicle can yield a ticket and a potentially expensive fine if a police officer pulls you over. In the event of an accident, you can have your claim denied and your policy voided. Before you spend the money on that magnetic sign, verify your local laws won’t force you to change the way you classify your car and the amount you spend to keep it on the road.

A wormhole connects two different points in space-time

Have you ever been at the right place at the right time yet encounter an unfamiliar scene and feel like you’re in a parallel universe? I’d scheduled my Saturday around a 2:00pm beach event and arrived 45 minutes into it,  but didn’t see anyone I knew or any group gathered on the beach.  A family of 4 was sunbathing to the left, several couples sunbathing to the right. No one I knew. I hung out a few minutes, leaving voice mail for several friends I knew would be there, then went across the street to get gas and return. I ended up in a different wormhole altogether. As I began pumping, a friend I worked with 20 years ago pulled into the station.  We chatted a few minutes and I asked what she’d been up to since we spoke last. She told me she was flustered because she couldn’t get hold of her brother who was supposed to be there three hours before to help her move. She’d done all she could by herself and now needed another pair of hands.  She lived around the corner so I volunteered to give her an hour.
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Find your North Node, see month and year on left column, MOON NODE SIGN on the right

Astrologer Martin Schulman’s Karmic Astrology series is insight and always relevant.  Karmic Astrology is Martin Schulman‘s method of finding the soul’s path in the horoscope. The Moon’s Nodes show the lessons being learned, while the rest of the chart shows how to do this. The South node contains within it all of the left over residue of past lives that must be refined, corrected and built-on in order to reach the North Node, the area of highest achievement in the current life. Thus, if you’re born in this life with an Aquarius North Node and a Leo South Node as I was, you must learn how to overcome the negative qualities of Leo and build from the positive ones before you can reach your Aquarius North Node. To do this, you must overcome ego problems (one of the negative qualities of Leo) and build on sincerity (one of the finer qualities of Leo). Here Schulman gives the karma of each sign.  When you know the karma of each of your planet placements, you can work on overcoming the negative qualities and building on the positive ones.
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