This is a small planet, even if you did not live across the street.  We’re going to see each other.  I understand you’re angry I outed your deception.  That will only sting until you see the blessing, which is that you do not have to lie to have people love you.   When you drop the facade and drop the anger, your baggage will begin to resolve itself. You’ll no longer have to hide and make hateful faces at those who set your soul free. I’m going to pretend the sun was in your eyes. We can all use a little blinding by the Light.

The purpose of this post is to show that once our eyes are opened, we can make better informed decisions about how to get the most joy out of our life.  That doesn’t mean look for trouble.  It means if you’re less than satisfied, looks for signs to improve.  I wrote at I Thought This Was Over that I’d been deceived by an ex living a secret life, and I got many responses from women with the universal story of living with men who had other lives on the side they knew nothing about.  Here are two of them that pretty much represent 80% of the stories I got. Continue reading →

I just cut another few kittens’ worth of fluffy hair off Izzy the Big giant Kitty as we continue to free his dreads from the pine tar debacle.  Now if I can just do the ones on his tummy without him turning all Edward Scissorhands on me. So far, his tail and neck ruff remain intact. I have to leave him with some dignity.

On a Facebook thread, someone wrote that she hoped someone got what they deserved.  I replied, “I believe we all get what we deserve, by our choice of where we focus our attention. If I focus on someone being a lazy bum, that’s what I’ll see. If I focus on someone taking time out to incubate a dream and get a life plan together, that’s what I’ll see and how I’ll react to them.  How I act with them determines how they react to me and how they see themselves.  We can activate either side of their personality by our attention to one aspect or another.”  What are you activating?

When you become aware of any kind of negative reaction to anyone, present or not, tell him silently: “God is the Love in which I forgive you.”  ACIM W-pI.46.7:3-5

Love should be like breathing. It should be just a quality in you, wherever you are, with whomsoever you are, or even if you are alone. Love goes on overflowing from you. It is not a question of being in Love with someone, it is a question of being Love. ~ Osho