I hear people talking about everything causing the prolonged distress on the planet lately.  What prolongs the distress on the planet is everyone who thinks they are at the mercy of the government, the court system, or any fill-in-the-blanks.  I believe I’m at the mercy of God/the Universe, who wants for me what I want for me.  And S/He/It/They unfailingly send me more crap to worry about if I start looking at everything that’s wrong with the world.  So I just stop looking at it.  You can, too.

A friend said it feels like his old life is trying to box him in to prevent him from moving into the new life.  I told him “It’s good news when you begin to feel boxed in, that just means you’re beginning to occupy more space than you did before.  Like being nervous to leave junior high for high school, or high school for college.  The change makes you nervous and excited at the same time.  This anxiety is just the greater part of you getting you in position for expansion.”  And you want to be more expanded, to have a more expanded experience available to you, to perceive a wider range of choices.  That’s when the fun begins.

Andrea

If you’re in a lawsuit with someone over dollars, ask yourself honestly, “Might it be better to just walk away now with what I have?” If you’re fighting over dollars with someone, all that’s doing is keeping you from attracting real dollars to yourself from any source.  Anytime I think someone owes me something, I remind myself I can attract more of it on my own and if we’re all One, what does it matter if I cut them some slack and clean up my own karma at the same time?

Hapless Joe Bfstplk

Don’t you love it when you have a momentary, minor misunderstanding with someone important and, although you immediately forget it, they keep bringing it up to remind you how ticked off you should be until all you can think about is what a f*ckup they are?  Yeah, me neither.  If you’ve got your ears on, boo, kindly STFU.  Trust me.  You’d rather me see you through my eyes than yours. Continue reading →

For the most part, I’m real healthy eater.  I eat lots of salads, fresh greens and veggies and  I make my own soups with fresh and organic vegs.  I cook Asian style stirfrys and use a lot of freshly ground spices.  I’ve got a website at Goddess Grub, Luscious Lowfat Meals for the Goddess on the Go with many of my recipes and my story of eating myself back after a health scare in 2004.  I also eat chicken and turkey on a regular basis now, as well as potatoes. When I eat the wrong things now, my body lets me know and reboots itself, giving me a reminder to get back on track.   That’s what happened Monday morning, after a month of slowly adding a bag of chips here, a three Musketeers bar there, increasingly more pasta and, oh yes, take out Chinese food.   I should know better. Continue reading →

Hi Daddy!

Guys, when you have unprotected sex, you’re agreeing to pay child support, medical care, insurance and schooling for at least 18 years.   If you can’t pay, the Court can make you get a job and can put you in jail if you do not.  You’re agreeing to have an emotional relationship and legal tie to the mother of the child for 18 years, despite any other relationships you get into.   You’re agreeing to give sexually transmitted cooties – you may not know you have – to everyone else you’re having sex with.

Women, what you’re agreeing to when you have unprotected sex is having a child whose father may want nothing to do with you, and whom you may have to chase for any financial support.  You’re agreeing to give sexually transmitted cooties – you may not know you have – to everyone else you’re having sex with, and to jeopardize your chances of bearing a healthy child.

Just saying.

I have a few dozen domain names I’ve acquired through the years and they are spread among 3 different registrars.  I want to eventually move them all to GoDaddy and yesterday I initiated the process to transfer two of them.   At first I drove myself crazy trying to figure out how it was done before I began doing it.  I wanted to read a list of the steps I would be taking so I’d know where I was in the process and that I was doing it correctly.  No such luck.  When I actually began, though, I was prompted each step of the way with just what I’d have to do next.  I thought that so often that’s how it is in life, too. I’d like to see ahead of time what all is going to come up and be given a list of exactly how to deal with it step by step, but I rarely get that.  Usually I have to jump in and begin and only then will I be guided to the next right step.  I don’t have to see the entire trail laid out before me, I just need to get on it and put one foot in front of the other and begin walking.  Then stay alert for clues as to what next step to take. Continue reading →

It’s Florida — the hot weather is here, and so are my hot flashes.  I keep the a/c on about 77, turn it to 75 at night and keep a fan blowing on me wherever I sit.  Despite that, last weekend I hot flashed so consistently that I soaked through several changes of clothes, my bed sheets and pillow cases.    Three loads of laundry later, I decided it was time to make up my bed summer style.   Off with the comforter altogether, I put fresh fitted and top sheets on my king size bed, and soft absorbent towels on top of the pillowcases.  Then I folded another sheet in half lengthwise  and that would act as the sheet I actually lie on.  I placed it diagonally across the bed, since that’s how I sleep.  I placed another  doubled king sheet next to it, to pull over me for a cover.  I can use one layer if I’m warm, or both layers if I’m chilly.  Then, if I sweat through the double folded top and bottom sheets, I simply pull those and the towel off to wash and don’t have to remake the entire bed.  I wish I’d thought of this 17 years ago!

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