If I’ve explained and apologized for my part and they don’t and still want to hold a grudge, I will honor their decision | Andrea de Michaelis – Creating my own reality, one thought at a time

A friend announced publicly they want to heal a situation, yet privately it’s another story. They keep avoiding the point of the simple questions asked, they change the topic, they get angry, they come up with new things to blame me for and continue to deny responsibility. We’re not vibing in the same place, so we’re not in the same conversation. They can’t sit with the consequences of what they’ve done. I get punished with anger for pointing out the truth in areas they are not ready to self reflect and do inner work. I can’t make anyone dig deep or own anything they are not ready to own. When this happens, until someone can be real with me, I grant them the honor of privacy and bless them upon their path. People who can’t handle themselves emotionally raise kids who can’t handle themselves emotionally. It’s a viscious cycle, but it’s breakable with a little conscious effort. Either way, it’s not my job to monitor anyone but my own self, and I’ve got my hands full with that. If I’m doing the work, I’m not worried about who isn’t doing the work.