The ones who step away from you when you are in pain don’t know what to do with it any more than you do.  It’s not that they don’t care, it may just be that they have enough on their plate and aren’t equipped to take anything else on. They may feel it’s too much drama. Whatever it is, don’t punish them. It’s just not their way. Enjoy your other areas of shared interest. When you do, without resenting them for not being compassionate to your pain, you’ll attract someone else to do that, then everyone wins.