If you were in school or worked with Facebook friends, encountering them face to face every day, half the drama wouldn’t go on. Physical distance makes for loose tongues. Some take FB as a forum to taunt and shame whoever has slighted them. Some feign niceties and have a dark side offline, or vice versa. Some speak their mind and have never developed tact nor social skills. Many like to give unsolicited advice. In last night’s session, a friend mentioned an old frienemie has joined Facebook, befriended many mutual friends and is now wooing everyone with sweet words. The caller felt like she wanted to contact all the mutual friends and let them know what a sneaky snake the newcomer was. I let her know that would simply create a karmic backlash. I reminded her it’s not her job to school anyone else.   

Everyone has their own experience. Different people bring out different aspects of ourself. Maybe the party girl in you really resonates with Suzi the bartender, while your maternal aspect is brought out by Sara the soccer mom. Sara’s never seen you topless at Mardi Gras and Suzi can’t imagine you sober. Two different perceptions, two different aspects/facets of personality, and both you. But here’s the kicker: The last time they spoke was 10 years ago. I suggested she may be a very different person now. “Stripes never change,” the caller told me, “I told her how I felt and she’s never apologized or even acknowledged what she did wrong.”

The problem isn’t with the other person over the event we thought happened. Where the issue lives is in our consciousness, and we are the ones who control our perceptions there.  If you’re irked by someone you feel unresolved with, know that you can find closure even if the other person is unwilling, absent or dead.  More importantly, if you’re noticing that some frienemie is back in your life, that means you’re vibrating in resonance with them.  So did they come UP vibrationally, or did you go DOWN since the last time you saw them? If they trigger you emotionally, that means you’ve got some inner work to do that has to do with why you feel about them as you do. Uncover that, come to an understanding of that and your soul will feel resolved and new doorways will open.  Here’s the most effective way I know to do the work:  Eliminate Negative Beliefs Without Taking An Expensive Workshop ~ Byron Katie’s Four Questions

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