Domino wonders why she has no friends, I give her Harry Palmer’s Compassion Exercise

In a reading last night, Domino is having problems with her new man, complaining to her last man (whom she left for the new one) and surprised he’s full of “I told you so.”  Domino doesn’t take criticism well. I’ve known her about 10 years.  She’ll cut friends off when they call her on her stuff, she’ll refuse to discuss to resolve it.  She’ll move from person to person with the same behavior, ignoring the carnage she leaves behind her. She said “You’re the only friend I’ve got.”  I told her, “I’m not your friend.  I would not be friends with someone who would rather cut me off than have a simple, honest conversation about what any concern or conflict might be.”  I told her she lives in a small town and she’s running out of untested candidates.  Her best bet was to go deep inside herself and bring to mind, one at a time, each one she has alienated herself from.  Do the Hawaiian Forgivness Ho’oponopono Process  on them, apologize to them in your mind, tell them you are sorry for your part in the conflict, ask them to forgive you, thank them and tell them you love them.  And mean it.  Only ever wish for anyone else what you wish for yourself.  If she had a problem with any particular person, I told her to do Harry Palmer’s Compassion Exercise until she felt the change wthin her.  She said she’d try it.  Here’s the exercise:  

The Compassion Exercise by Harry Palmer.
Honesty with one’s self leads to compassion for others.
OBJECTIVE: To increase the amount of compassion in the world.
EXPECTED RESULT: A personal sense of peace.

INSTRUCTIONS: This exercise can be done anywhere that people congregate (airports, malls, parks, beaches, etc). It should be done on strangers, unobtrusively, from some distance. Try to do all five steps on the same person.

Step 1 With attention on the person, repeat to yourself:
“Just like me, this person is seeking some happiness for his/her life”

Step 2 With attention on the person, repeat to yourself:
“Just like me, this person is trying to avoid suffering in his/her life.”

Step 3 With attention on the person, repeat to yourself:
“Just like me, this person has known sadness, loneliness and despair.”

Step 4 With attention on the person, repeat to yourself:
“Just like me, this person is seeking to fulfill his/her needs.”

Step 5 With attention on the person, repeat to yourself:
“Just like me, this person is learning about life.”

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