Yesterday was a day of errands.  I went to the bank, the post office, to Office Depot, to The Waterman, to the produce stand for carrots, celery, scallions and mushrooms. On the way home, I went to the new Thai Thai House on Palm Bay Road at Hammock Landing for an early lunch.  I had their volcano roll, which is a California roll with baked seafood “dynamite” on top, and a cup of miso soup. Only one other diner was in there – it was only 11:15am – and so we talked as we ate. He’s down here helping out his grandparents and is job hunting.  It was his first Thai food experience. When my dish came, I placed a portion on a separate plate and shared with him so he could taste an extra dish. He was young, maybe 30.  I was going to secretly buy his lunch on my way out. He left first and secretly bought mine! And what a cool kid. Continue reading →

I shared on Facebook yesterday that  a particular person keeps ending me a friend request and my spidey sense goes off each time. Twice I’ve accepted and saw I was her only friend and she had zero info listed, so I unfriended her again.

I don’t know why I care really.

I’m just discovering Facebook
Managing Incoming Information; What Is Facebook For?
Facebook quizzes; every little bit of insight helps
Facebook posts; I’m in charge of what I attract
Facebook friends to the rescue, helping me Excel
If a Friend Asks For $$ In Facebook, Ask A Personal Question
You Want To Be My Friend On Facebook?
How To Stop The Stupid Facebook Posts On Your Wall
The Zen of Farmville on Facebook? WTF?
Are Your Facebook Friends Really Your Friends? Don’t Assume Mine Are Either
What I post on Facebook
Finding childhood buds on Facebook, flashback to age 18
Putting personal details on Facebook and Myspace
Is it ok to break up with someone over Facebook?
Why I like Facebook

We’ve all done it. Gotten angry in the moment over some perceived wrong and then created an entire scenario about it in our head, blaming someone else.  But when we’re conscious, when we’re on the Path, we take the time to contemplate what is going on in our life.  We take responsibility for what we’ve put in motion.  We know that whoever we think is to blame is just someone we are allowing to have some power over us.  Power over our thoughts and emotions. Allowing your thoughts and emotions to go there is a choice.

Let me re-phrase that.  Your thoughts may appear out of nowhere.  You can’t stop that from happening.  What you can decide is how long you will continue to dwell on that thought.  You have the choice of staying on that thought long enough to get pissed off about it.  You have the choice of moving to a better feeling thought, before you attract something you don’t want.

If you haven’t yet trained yourself to pivot your focus to a better feeling thought, you can learn how by reading at the free Abraham-Hicks website.  If you want to gain clearer understanding of why you do what you do in particular situations and how you can see the other perspective, ask yourself Byron Katie’s Four Questions.

Jealousy and competition runs rampant in the personal growth/self help genre no less than it does in all other genres.  There is no competition and that we each attract what is ours by right of consciousness.  No one steals business from anyone else.  If a client leaves you and goes somewhere else, that’s fine; they are not your target market anyway.

You want the people who are attracted to what you have to offer, plain and simple.  You don’t have to go all car salesman on someone to talk them into buying what you’ve got.  You don’t want 200 people to attend an event if only 11 are going to buy.  Your market is the 11 who really want it.  Remember that the next time you look out into your audience of 12.  And if you don’t think you can make an honest and lucrative living with just 12 clients, then you just have short vision.  It’s not a numbers game; it’s a consciousness game.

And that’s one thing I have that sets me apart from some others: I know that. I know that I will be able to create a fine happy living for myself, no matter what anyone else is doing or not doing.  No matter what someone is saying or not saying, whether it’s true or not true.

Since I know who I am and I know what my thoughts are capable of attracting, I don’t feel the need to blame anyone else for anything I experience.  I know it’s unproductive to be emotionally attached to what anyone says about me.  I’ve never been so free as when I gave that up.  Now it’s easy for me to just let that stuff go.  It’s my favorite new habit.

I woke up ready to dive into final layout for the February Horizons, so I wasn’t going to take the time to make a blog post.  Then a friend sent me this and I thought it too cute (and relevant) not to share:  Sometimes you are encouraged about our country’s future when you see something like this.  Specifically, there was an annual contest at Ohio State University calling for the most appropriate definition of a contemporary term.  This year’s term was “Political Correctness. The winner wrote: “Political correctness is a doctrine, fostered by a delusional, illogical minority, and rabidly promoted by an unscrupulous mainstream media, which holds forth the proposition that it is entirely possible to pick up a turd by the clean end.”

A publicist called me earlier in the week, interested in “speaking about some out of the box ways we might work together in co-branding efforts.”  He’s the publicist for a popular author whose work I support.  And if you’re reading this, I mean no disrespect, it’s just a good example to share.   I emailed back that “I don’t sponsor or barter advertising, so I guess that means I don’t go out of the box or co-brand.”  He called again last night, 15 minutes after I closed the office, and was leaving for a meeting.  My mind was completely on what I was doing and where I was going, yet I answered the phone automatically when it rang.  He’d earlier asked for ad rates and we were up on deadline, so I wanted to make sure to get him in if he wanted in.  But I was on the way out the door with other matters on my mind, and frankly, I did not have time to hear a press release about why I should donate an ad to his client. Continue reading →

Even though only temps of 33 were forecast for last night, I went out at dusk and put pillowcases over all the surviving plants, kind of as a test run to see if I have enough to cover them all if I need to.  Synchonistically, I do.  There are more of them than I thought. The pillow shams work the best. The next season we get a freeze, I’ll have a plan and be prepared. The other day when I wrote Florida Record Low Temps Changing My Perception of Cold, I mentioned the devastation to my plants.  Now I see that was an over-reaction, as well as short sighted.  Because when I look for the devastation, I see it.  When I look for what all survived, I see that it’s more than 3/4 of my yard.   All the bushes under the canopy escaped the frostbite and are still fine, and it looks lush.  When I really look at it, overall I have less than 1/4 of my plants killed by the freeze.  I just have to remember to always look for the good.  Even I temporarily forget that. Continue reading →

I’m once again in final layout week with the magazine, so this will be short since I have to jump right into work.  Three days ago I posted on Facebook “I have ten 12-16 hour days at the computer ahead of me for the February mag layout and now in between my shoulders is aching. I know it’s my chair, cuz it’s an executive lean back chair. I have lots of little pillows – what area of my back needs support to relieve the ache is between my shoulder blades?”  I got lots of comments back giving me different exercises to do stretch the muscles involved, one comment saying it may be related to a weak heart, but none answering my question.  Continue reading →