I was recently speaking with someone about their (self perceived) habit of making poor decisions. They may be being too hard on themselves. The poor decisions I’ve made in the past usually had to do with taking responsibility for someone who took no responsiblity for themselves, then I feel I can’t cut the cord because I’ve allowed them to become too dependent on me. When I catch myself doing that, I distance myself emotionally while remaining cordial, especially if we have to share space on a regular basis. I usually also pray they have the perfect person come into their life to enliven them, wake them up to realize they have many years of life left and to not fritter them away in front of tv eating bonbons.  There is someone out there in this big world who wants to be with someone just like them.  They can find meaningful pass times if they take the time to make themselves get out amongst people and see what’s out there to do. The only thing stopping that from happening is when no one makes a move, when you keep the status quo. No one wanting to upset the other’s apple cart.  Sometimes you have to upset the apple cart to get the best apples.