When you leave a partner, leave them with better relationship skills than they had before meeting you.  Leave them a better lover than they were.  Leave them with better life coping skills, and ideas for making the rest of their life happier, more fulfilling and self sufficient.  Leave them knowing that one person in their life can be trusted and counted on to do what they say they’ll do.  Leave them knowing that genuine and honorable people can be found in the world. Leave them knowing there are people who care about people and take them into consideration when things might impact their lives.  When you leave a partner, leave them better than you found them.  You’ll be better for it, too.

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Ah, Fall!  When the weather turns cool, we Floridians like to grill out on the deck, sit on the screened porch and create outdoor sitting areas. A word of advice to do it yourselfers: Get a permit!  Code Enforcement are ninja and miss nothing.  A friend put up a fence and deck last year and figured since he was in the woods, it couldn’t be seen from the road.   After our  tree cutters left the neighborhood, that area was exposed.  Code Enforcement visited soon after and he’s going through the whole application permit inspection fine process.  He doubts it will pass inspection and he’s ticked because he poured money into it and knows it’s his own fault for cutting corners. If you insist on doing it yourself off the record, make sure it is built to code so it will pass inspection if they ever find you.  My woods look so inviting from the street, I made it easy on them and gave my Code Enforcement officer permission to walk onto my property at any time.   BOLO. They will find you.  Code Enforcement are like ninja!

Today was the perfect follow up to attracting yesterday’s scattered energy where I spent an hour being miffed at a pal’s change of plans.  I got over it when I realized that while I waited for her to call, I got my billing done a week early.  Good always outweighs the “bad” when I look for it.  Last evening I lost my WiFi connection and fooled with it an hour before getting it back.  I knew something was up, with me attracting scattered stuff.  So today begins well, I drive into Melbourne to deliver the October Horizons Magazine and call a friend as I leave downtown Melbourne. We speak on the phone until I am almost home, where I realize I had two more stops I didn’t make.  I drive back to Melbourne, but not really bummed since it’s a nice day and it’s still early.  I come back to relax with the rest of the day off when a friend calls and the wordpress blog I set up for her at www.kathryn-flanagan.com is down.  We both get error messages when we try to sign on.  When I try to get into the control panel, it tells me my password is invalid.  What???  Like yesterday, I am once again attracting scattered energy. Continue reading →

Hello and welcome to the October 2014 edition of Horizons Magazine. Halloween! Samhain! Time to don a mask, dress up and celebrate!. Halloween is a socially acceptable time to wear a mask, and the crazier the better. But we all know people who wear masks all the time. Some wear a mask to avoid letting on that anything is triggering their emotional pain. We accuse another of wearing a mask to project the reality away from ourselves and our own mask. And it comes at the cost of knowing who we actually are. Like Dorothy and her friends in the Wizard of Oz, we’re all trying to find a Wizard to make everything ok. Blinded by the yellow brick road, we embark upon the perilous trek to the Emerald City. We get there to have the Wizard put us through exhaustive tests with the promise of receiving our heart’s desire. Like Dorothy and friends, we withstood the trials only to find out in the end that the Wizard was all smoke and mirrors. And in real life, when you see behind their mask, if they are not ready to face who they are and what they do, they will disconnect from you until they grow into their soul. We all wear masks every day: the happy one, the helpful one, the one who cares. Like the day after Halloween, we all have to know when to wear the mask and when to put it down.   Continue reading →

I am doing it again! I’m pouty because I gave my power away to my ego once again, and by ego I mean the personality based, lower s self of me, not the large S Soul of me. Yesterday I told a friend I would give them a ride this afternoon then I rearranged about 4 hours worth of appointments up in Melbourne since I would be up there anyway. I called to ask when they thought they would be ready and they said, “Oh, I changed my mind. I do not need a ride today.” Grrr… I know better than to plan a day ahead of time to be awake and driveable after 2pm. My ego gets so stuck on “oh, I’ll be their hero since they have no one else,” so I have only myself to blame.  Continue reading →

A friend remarked that I couldn’t understand her situation because life was easy for me. I told her life is easy now for me because I’ve been where she is and years ago began making a series of different choices to get in this better place. I didn’t get happy overnight. I spent a long time contemplating my life, having realizations and making amends. I got happy day by day by dumping old baggage and looking for stuff to be happy about.

Today you can make it easy or you can make it hard
Come clean and see what the Universe rewards you with

Money is as abundant as air, no one limits it but yourself. If there is not enough, go where there is more. You would not stay in a room with no air, what keeps you from going to find more, it’s out there, go find it and keep on task until you do. Works for everything, not just money.
Terri Mermis

What does an Aries x5 do while waiting for the faces of previous in-progress paintings to come to me? Begin another! Here’s the under painting for the Watcher at the Window. I’m not sure what colors I’ll use yet but know I wanted these as a base.  I’ve Photoshopped in this pic the moon and a few stars to remind me where I want them to go. The window on the left was initially going to be a painting of Yogananda. We’ll see…  On the left is the picture I am painting from.  I liked the image of sitting alone, gazing out the window but wanted a more open and cozy feel to the scene.  I’ll add pillows and maybe a table with a cup of tea, maybe add a cat and hang a few windchimes.  The man likes the stark look of the source photo with the focus on one window.  So do I, but he and I have a different experience when we look at that image.  It reminds me of looking out my living room window on full moon night at a home I had in Murphy, NC. A chilly night, I had the heater on and set big pillows on the futon next to the big window. The room glowed from the moonlight shining in  I followed the moon across the sky on full moon nights, and watched as it illuminated the woods and mountains.  I had three level wooded acres, 2 acres up on a bluff and the home on an acre at the base. I loved watching the moon come over the treeline of the bluff.  I did some of my best thinking at that window.

A friend attracted an amount of money she’d been wanting for a new project.  She considered it a windfall and was excited beyond words she could now make her dream a reality.  She began making plans and went to sleep a happy camper. She called me the next day in a quandry.  As she was making a list of what to buy, she began to call the friends and family who’d supported her vision to tell them the good news.  During their conversations she was reminded that a friend paid her cell phone bill the past year, her mom let her live rent free and her dad loaned her his car. While no one was asking for her to pay them back, she began a tally in her head, deducting those amounts so she could surprise them by repayment.  By the time she added it up, she was left  a far cry from what she needed for her project.  Her question to me was, should she pay everyone back first or do her dream first?   Continue reading →

It’s been raining a few days.  It’s 3:00am and I’m sitting in the office with the windows open, listening to a gentle rain drip off the leaves outside.  It’s 71 degrees, the windows are open to the night air and I can smell the jasmine in the courtyard.  I love being awake in the middle of the night time when everyone around me is sound asleep.  It’s a time I sit and contemplate how good my life is.  It’s a time I bring to mind my friends, advertisers and clients as I pray for them as part of my spiritual practice –> here are my altar and healing bench techniques. It’s also a time I daydream about my partner while he sleeps soundly nearby. It’s one way I stay connected to him when we don’t spend waking time together.  Continue reading →