We train people how to treat us by how we act and react with them, and by what we allow them to get away with.  Family, friends, coworkers, everyone. How do yours treat you and when will enough be enough?

When it’s really dark, do something that brings in light. Even if it feels like it’s not working, do it anyway. Do it long and hard, if necessary.  Call in God’s Light. Chant “Love, Peace and Harmony”.  Chant, “I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.” Thank the Divine for the darkness and the opportunity to transform it.  Thank all souls involved.  Bless them.  Ask for forgiveness.  Give forgiveness.  Love them.  Love yourself.  Love the Divine. The light will break through. And the heart cracks open. The mind releases its grip. Peace comes. Truth comes. Gratitude abounds. This is transformation.   Marsha Valutis

It’s been a whirlwind week and I may take today off just to relax alone in the silence.  I love being around friends and activity – for awhile. Then I’m ready to get back to my sanctuary and let the energy field smoothe itself out.  Nature is where I revive myself, where I find myself and come alive, whether working in my veggie garden, walking the enchanted trails through my oak and pine woods, or sitting out at the firepit at sundown.  I can be fanatical when something brings me pleasure, I want to share it. I smile to think of how I tried the past year to drag a pal out into the magic of nature but that wasn’t their healing mode, it was mine. What works for me doesn’t work for everyone. I can only be inside “the box” (a building full of electicity) for just so long.  Then I have to be outside long enough to let my nervous system synapses go back to a harmonious firing routine. Continue reading →

“Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She didn’t want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave her the instructions for the battle. The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. They both had their weapons. The young warrior roused herself and went toward fear, prostrated three times, and asked, “May I have permission to go into battle with you?” Fear said, “Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission.” Then the young warrior said, “How can I defeat you?“  Fear replied, “My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don’t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don’t do what I say, I have no power.” In that way, the student warrior learned how to defeat fear. ”  Pema Chödrön

You’re creating constantly, especially when you’re complaining!  Jinn writes: “Often you complain that no one is listening to you. Nothing could be farther from the truth. The Universe is, in fact, taking in every word and responding to your every wish. So, why have all your dreams not come true? You are most likely not being clear. The Universe would like to bring you all that you ask, so you must be mindful of what you ask for. Imagine a waitress standing beside you preparing to take your order. English is not her primary language, so she catches most of what you say, but there are gaps in her understanding. You say, “I want coffee”, then start to converse with your friends. “I don’t think I’ll get the eggs, last time they were runny and the toast was burnt.” You look over at your friend and say quietly, “I’ll get the pancakes today”. You close your menus and hand them to the waitress, saying sarcastically, “No rush, we like our food cold”. So then, one hour later, the waitress brings you coffee, cold, runny eggs, and burnt toast. She smiles sweetly, knowing that she will get a big tip having followed your wishes exactly. Continue reading →

If you saw a turtle on a fence post, would you take him down?  Or would you take a few pictures and ask everyone how they thought he got there and what do they think should be done about it and how unfair it was for him to be put there and point fingers at who should be blamed and punished?  In the meantime, the turtle is on the fence post and would appreciate being taken down and left alone, out of the limelight. Just take him down and stop discussing him.

“Just because you miss someone doesn’t mean you need them back in your life. Missing is just the part of moving on.” A friend posted that on Facebook.  My experience is what we think of as a longing for our lost love is often a longing for the relationship we imagined in our head, rather than the one we actually had.  Physically, it’s mostly muscle memory and being caught in what I call the limbic loop. The limbic system is responsible for emotions, memories, motivation, which means our memories feed our emotions which feed our feelings which feed our thoughts which feed our memories which feed… you get it. We can get caught in this endless cycle, or we can turn our attention elsewhere on purpose. Your mind keeps going back to its biggest thoughtform and running that in a loop unless you give it new experiences to mull over.  That mean to get yourself out among people you don’t know and do some things you don’t normally do.  Interact and talk with as many new people about as many new things as you can. If you find something that interests you, then get more info about it. This gives your mind something new to reflect on until your emotions can settle down and you get out of the limbic loop.