Author Archives: Andrea

Would you marry your married lover?

With past partners, she ended up having to row the boat on her own. She knows it will be different this time.

With past partners, she ended up having to row the boat on her own. She knows it will be different this time.

A friend is marrying the latest love of her life.  They’re having a commitment ceremony without the legal confines – the best of both worlds – since her latest is still married.  The heart connection is what matters, though, not the legal status.  She doesn’t care to legally share in his marital debt anyway. A piece of paper doesn’t keep someone with you; love does, and trust.  She doesn’t know his past history in honoring commitments, but knows it must be a vibrational match to her own.  The questions she is starting to wonder about now are: How did his past relationships end?  What is his relationship with his family, with his wife, his children, his parents, his brothers and sisters? What is his relationship with his employer? His past employers? With his friends?  If it’s a commitment ceremony, she’d like to know he has a history of doing what he says he’ll do.  Continue reading →

Answer a simple yes or no question with yes, no or I don’t know

To everyone who thinks I seem abrupt when I ask a yes or no question and you pussyfoot around instead of answering it; When I talk to a dozen people a day gathering info in order to get goals accomplished and you’re not answering me so I may do that, nothing personal but I’m moving on to someone who can give me an answer and get it done. A personal pet peeve of mine: When it comes to business and it can be accomplished with a simple yes or no, it is a waste of everyone’s time to have 3, 4, 5 conversations about it. Maybe you’re enjoying the journey of the topic but I talk to so many people a day that — for me  — it’s about getting things done.

Your astral body gets addicted to the emotional charge of telling a painful story. Only you can take yourself out of that trance.

It’s not easy to turn your attention away from what is bringing you down, but you have to do it if you want peace. No matter what it is, it is only a thought you are dealing with, and you are the one in charge of those. Sure, troublesome thoughts arise, but we can train ourselves to change our focus to a better feeling thought and bring ourselves out of a funk.   A friend wrote he can’t get out of his mind that he somehow caused a loved one to die tragically.  It’s not easy when the troublesome thought is about someone you love, especially if you feel responsible. I lovingly reminded him: “One way to stop triggering the pain is to stop repeating the story on a weekly basis. I know it’s not easy to break the habit, since talking about it keeps her alive in your consciousness. But telling the story keeps you in the pain. By repeating the story, you put yourself into a trance and the pain body is addicted to the emotional charge of telling the story. There are new stories to be told, new things every day to appreciate. It’s crucial for mental health to seek out and focus on good things in the now. They are there waiting for you to notice them.“

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A friend doesn’t understand her folks’ objection over her new man: like it’s any of their business he has money for cigarettes and beer and new tattooes and won’t get a divorce because he doesn’t want to pay child support. It’s easy to judge and shame someone who makes choices you wouldn’t choose, isn’t it? But does it uplift and improve your life when you do it?

A writing gig out of the blue — but it’s never out of the blue

smiley girl-72Happy dance, I just got a gig with a favorite writer! I work with several author friends the past twenty years, and the jobs are often unexpected. I’ve never queried for a writing contract, it’s always been word of mouth or someone coming across something I’ve written and wanting to include it in their own project.  Friends ask how to get into free lance writing and I honestly tell them I have no idea. It’s the same with publishing: I had zero experience when I began. All I did was focus on doing something I enjoyed doing, and I woke up every day and did it.  And I may think I’m writing on one topic, for one purpose, and it may end up being morphed into something completely different years down the road.  I never cared to be an author.  Authors under contract become booksellers.  I want to write, not sell books. So I write for me and it doesn’t matter if anyone else reads it or wants to buy it. But if they do, who am I to say no? Once again, it’s true: built it and they will come.  Do it for YOU and then watch the offers pour in.

Casper asks about ghostwriting
My ghostwriting – build it and they will come
I envisioned it and they built it around me

No astral entity can survive without your attention to it

Important to remember that no astral being can survive and hold place in your consciousness without your attention to it. If you have no emotional attachment to it, it will leave your experience. That is because the astral plane is where our emotions live. If we let unwelcome astral thoughtforms hold center stage in our awareness, it puts us on a hamster wheel of nonproductive discontent. Being unfulfilled and dissatisfied is one of the hardest nightmares to awaken from. Nothing has taken over your mind and your thoughts. It’s simply that you’ve chosen to allow yourself to keep thinking every thought that comes in your head. Steer your thoughts in another direction. Make the choice to change your focus to a better feeling thought and do it every time the unpleasant thoughts come up. Soon enough they will stop coming up and you’ll be living a different life.

RELATED:  The Tipping Table Knows
We clear Domino’s house of a playful spirit
What is the value of contacting ghosts or loved ones in spirit?
The haunted chair, journeys out of the body
What Andrea believes

The End of Death As We Know It: What The Crossing Over Experience Was Like As Reported By Those Who Made The Transition

I took the weekend off!

road tripI actually took the weekend off.  Saturday we took a spontaneous day long road trip.  We drove along the Indian River heading north and then down AIA along the Atlantic Ocean on the way back home.  It felt good to get out of town and act like tourists.  This morning, my first job was to sleep late, then go to the gym. Afterward, I ran by the man’s house and put several bags of mulch down around the transplanted turk’s cap and arbicola bushes out front.  His yard has great sunshine all day long and with the rain, everything is growing like crazy.    Continue reading →

Today my only goal is to take a stroll down Feel Good Lane

Today my only goal is to take a stroll down Feel Good Lane. Nothing feels as good as having my thoughts focused intently on something enjoyable. Nothing. It’s empowering to know I am in control of where to focus my thoughts. And I can change the direction of my focus in this very moment if I choose to.

Getting in the right state of mind is like foreplay; it begins way in advance. I envisioned it and they built it around me.

sunrise 72 indian riverI sleep in stages. I’ll go months with erratic sleep and then spend many hours a day for weeks sleeping at odd hours, catching up on my REM.  It’s heaven when that happens, but it plays havoc with my social life.  My  personal life revolves around my sleep/work schedule.  Sleep comes first, since when it comes, I surrender to it.  Work comes second and I do more work than any two people I know. I have many irons in the fire, and each is maintained by a little attention on a regular basis. My work is not hard, it just requires sustained focus while in the right state of consciousness.  Getting in the right state of mind is like foreplay.  It begins waaaaay in advance.  To entrain myself into that state of consciousness, there are several things I do.    Continue reading →

I trade the giant couch for a perfect winged back chair

couchMercury helped me stay goal oriented and productive today. I moved out a giant couch I’d bought a couple of years ago, as it was taking up way too much space in the living room. I like to rearrange my furniture too much to have any one piece be too large.  Plus I like a lot of space between my molecules, and the more sparsely furnished my rooms are lately, the better I like it.  With the couch gone, I cleaned the living room floor, then did some editing and design work, sold 2 ads and 3 subscriptions, and did some billing. After a nap, I ended the day hanging out at the pool with the man, floating on my noodle. I had crispy, crunchy oven fried eggplant for dinner. Later, sitting on the new floral wing chair galpal Pam traded me for the couch, I was hand stitching a kirtan pillow when I heard a big crash from the back office and Benny the Cat came flying out, looking guilty.  He’d jumped up on a shelf that held altar items and knocked them and a lamp over. Nothing was broken. I turned in early, my goal to deliver mags to Melbourne and Cassadaga in the morning.  I love an early start!