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Grief is work but it doesn’t have to be grim

Stephen Gaskin 1972 Summertown TN

Ina May Gaskin doesn’t describe her husband’s death as a loss. “Sometimes when you check out of your physical body, your work takes on a new dimension.”

Family celebrates life of commune founder, counterculture icon
L.A. Times Stephen Gaskin dies at 79; founder of The Farm commune
NY Times Stephen Gaskin, Hippie Who Founded Enduring Commune, Dies
ABC News Stephen Gaskin Dies

The end of death as we know it

Why would Source allow you to be treated unfairly?

Just had a conversation with a friend over a misunderstanding. We have two different recollections and she’s concerned she was perceived unfairly. My experience was that I told her something in confidence and within minutes someone else was talking about it. She was the only one I told. She accused me of calling her a liar. I responded I was just telling her what I experienced. She got a little condescending “I thought you were psychic, you should know when someone is telling you the truth.” Anytime something triggers us, it shows where we have emotional work to do. If I had a thought like “why would Source allow me to be treated unfairly or seen as a liar when I’m not?” I’d ask to be shown what I need to know, what I need to do, what my part is in attracting it and how to move beyond it.

You feel negative emotion when you’re looking in the wrong place

“The money isn’t in the bank yet, and when I look at the money that isn’t in the bank yet – that I want and need – I feel negative emotion, and the negative emotion is because I’m looking in the wrong place. I’m looking in the bank, instead of into the vibrational reality.” If you’ll look in the vibrational reality where it is, now you’ll resonate with the Source within you. You’ll feel wonderful and, when you feel wonderful, that’s the condition that is necessary for the thoughts to turn to things. But if you are conditionally-based, running around sorting the things, acknowledging the things, measuring the things, comparing the things, noticing the things that you’ve got and the things that you don’t have, then you can’t move beyond the existing conditions. You can’t move beyond what-is, if what-is is all you got going on in your vibration. Continue reading →

Relationship Saving Tip: Do not expect your partner to be everything

Just had an interesting reading on a universal topic. Your partner can love you even if they have stopped participating and responding as they used to. Do not expect them to be your best friend and your lover and your advisor and your cheerleader and your rescuer and your income and your entertainment. Do not think you have to text them with every move you make and every thought you have. Put that energy into cultivating your own interests. Rather than pouting that your partner doesn’t go to the gym, find a workout partner. If you’re the night owl and they go to bed at sunset, find someone to hoot and howl the night away. Let them love you in their own way. If you find that is not enough for you, there’s always time to make a new decision. Most importantly, don’t risk losing your best friend just because they’ve stopped being your lover.

Would you marry your married lover?

With past partners, she ended up having to row the boat on her own. She knows it will be different this time.

A friend is marrying the latest love of her life. They’re having a commitment ceremony without the legal confines – the best of both worlds – since her latest is still married. The heart connection is what matters, though, not the legal status. She doesn’t care to legally share in his marital debt anyway. A piece of paper doesn’t keep someone with you; love does, and trust. She doesn’t know his past history in honoring commitments, but knows it must be a vibrational match to her own. The questions she is starting to wonder about now are: How did his past relationships end? What is his relationship with his family, with his wife, his children, his parents, his brothers and sisters? What is his relationship with his employer? His past employers? With his friends? If it’s a commitment ceremony, she’d like to know he has a history of doing what he says he’ll do. Continue reading →

Answer a simple yes or no question with yes, no or I don’t know

To everyone who thinks I seem abrupt when I ask a yes or no question and you pussyfoot around instead of answering it; When I talk to a dozen people a day gathering info in order to get goals accomplished and you’re not answering me so I may do that, nothing personal but I’m moving on to someone who can give me an answer and get it done. A personal pet peeve of mine: When it comes to business and it can be accomplished with a simple yes or no, it is a waste of everyone’s time to have 3, 4, 5 conversations about it. Maybe you’re enjoying the journey of the topic but I talk to so many people a day that — for me — it’s about getting things done.

Your astral body gets addicted to the emotional charge of telling a painful story. Only you can take yourself out of that trance.

It’s not easy to turn your attention away from what is bringing you down, but you have to do it if you want peace. No matter what it is, it is only a thought you are dealing with, and you are the one in charge of those. Sure, troublesome thoughts arise, but we can train ourselves to change our focus to a better feeling thought and bring ourselves out of a funk. A friend wrote he can’t get out of his mind that he somehow caused a loved one to die tragically. It’s not easy when the troublesome thought is about someone you love, especially if you feel responsible. I lovingly reminded him: “One way to stop triggering the pain is to stop repeating the story on a weekly basis. I know it’s not easy to break the habit, since talking about it keeps her alive in your consciousness. But telling the story keeps you in the pain. By repeating the story, you put yourself into a trance and the pain body is addicted to the emotional charge of telling the story. There are new stories to be told, new things every day to appreciate. It’s crucial for mental health to seek out and focus on good things in the now. They are there waiting for you to notice them.“

The End of Death As We Know It: What The Crossing Over Experience Was Like As Reported By Those Who Made The Transition

A friend doesn’t understand her folks’ objection over her new man: like it’s any of their business he has money for cigarettes and beer and new tattooes and won’t get a divorce because he doesn’t want to pay child support. It’s easy to judge and shame someone who makes choices you wouldn’t choose, isn’t it? But does it uplift and improve your life when you do it?

A writing gig out of the blue — but it’s never out of the blue

Happy dance, I just got a gig with a favorite writer! I work with several author friends the past twenty years, and the jobs are often unexpected. I’ve never queried for a writing contract, it’s always been word of mouth or someone coming across something I’ve written and wanting to include it in their own project. Friends ask how to get into free lance writing and I honestly tell them I have no idea. It’s the same with publishing: I had zero experience when I began. All I did was focus on doing something I enjoyed doing, and I woke up every day and did it. And I may think I’m writing on one topic, for one purpose, and it may end up being morphed into something completely different years down the road. I never cared to be an author. Authors under contract become booksellers. I want to write, not sell books. So I write for me and it doesn’t matter if anyone else reads it or wants to buy it. But if they do, who am I to say no? Once again, it’s true: built it and they will come. Do it for YOU and then watch the offers pour in.

Casper asks about ghostwriting
My ghostwriting – build it and they will come
I envisioned it and they built it around me

No astral entity can survive without your attention to it

Important to remember that no astral being can survive and hold place in your consciousness without your attention to it. If you have no emotional attachment to it, it will leave your experience. That is because the astral plane is where our emotions live. If we let unwelcome astral thoughtforms hold center stage in our awareness, it puts us on a hamster wheel of nonproductive discontent. Being unfulfilled and dissatisfied is one of the hardest nightmares to awaken from. Nothing has taken over your mind and your thoughts. It’s simply that you’ve chosen to allow yourself to keep thinking every thought that comes in your head. Steer your thoughts in another direction. Make the choice to change your focus to a better feeling thought and do it every time the unpleasant thoughts come up. Soon enough they will stop coming up and you’ll be living a different life.