Julie Norris:  “I can’t even begin to describe the difference having a romantic partner who is in it, on it and with it most of the time, as opposed to occasionally. If you are tolerated or someone has to “put in time” with you to satisfy basic needs, this should not be the norm, although I see it all around me. Also, if you are put on a pedestal sometimes and dragged through emotional dirt the rest of the time, this is also not normal. I’m having a person revolution in relating because I finally have someone who totally gets it and it is liberating for both of us! We are both, finally, in a wholesome, clear communicating, equality oriented relationship. We enjoy being called out in efforts to keep us growing into the best versions of ourselves, but we do it with respect and compassion. It’s liberating and refreshing.” Julie Norris wrote on Facebook.   I completely agree about meeting basic needs and being dragged thru emotional dirt. I only had one relationship like that. It was an eye opener. Definitely call each other out in loving ways. Keeping open lines of communication is crucial. A loving, conscious partner can’t find you if you’re vibing with an unconscious one you are afraid to leave thinking they are the only one left in the world. I guarantee you they are not.

I’m loving the 15 degree temperature drop.  It’s 61 degrees as I sit out at the firepit with a cup of hot kava, sweat pants on and hair down.  I love 60 degrees! I’m a 50-72 degree gal, anything in that range and I’m digging it.  Watching the waxing moon overhead through the oak canopy, I can see the little dipper to the east over the treeline. I turned the fans off about midnight and took a walk around the hood as a walking meditation.  It felt good to wander around the ‘hood in the midnight hours again.  When the weather is warm and humid, it’s like walking underwater but with misquitoes added.  As soon as temps drop, though, I’m ready to be outside.    Continue reading →

Universal energy lesson: Don’t schedule classes and workshops if you’re going to cancel if a minimum of ___  don’t sign up in advance.  The signal that sends to the Universe is that it’s about the money, not the love of the work.  Back in the day, I did many a workshop that was attended by very few. Sometimes no one I invited came, but new people did.  I never pre-register for anything. I’m a commitment phobe, even buying ripe bananas brings up my commitment issues.  If I am available at the time of an event, I go.  But if I schedule an event, I will give the presentation if only one is there.  It’s not for me to ask why or who, it’s just for me to show up and do.  If you schedule a class or workshop and only one person shows up, accept that’s all you were able to attract and give them the entire teaching as if it were a room full. They are your multitude. The signal that sends to the Universe is you’re committed to the work, and they’ll send you more next time. I promise.

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Spiritual brother Christopher Tims writes: “So last evening there was a sponsored ad on my personal Facebook news feed from the Shift Network.  I am taking the time to write because the Shift Network (as is their right) chose to remove my comments from their comments section on the posting. I will now exercise my rights to point out pseudo spiritual bull.  Here is the ad (in part) –> “Attend a free teleseminar on Becoming a Divine Human: How to Access 4 Initiatory Streams, Experience the Next Stage of Evolution with renowned mystic and scholar Andrew Harvey. Have you hungered for a complete approach to spiritual awakening that fuses heaven and Earth, masculine and feminine, stillness and action into one alchemical path? Then, you are ready for Andrew Harvey, who is offering a synthesis of the spiritual gold from the highest teachings of the East and West, North and South that will teach you how to the birth yourself as the “divine human”, which is the next stage of our evolution. Come learn the secrets to walking the 4 initiatory streams that are required for becoming a divine human: shamanic, tantric, transcendent and sacred activism. Simply click on the link below to learn more about this free transformative event and reserve your spot.”

My comments were: “Becoming a divine human?!  We can not become anymore divine than we already are. Come on! This is so wrong on so many levels! “ Continue reading →

When you leave a partner, leave them with better relationship skills than they had before meeting you.  Leave them a better lover than they were.  Leave them with better life coping skills, and ideas for making the rest of their life happier, more fulfilling and self sufficient.  Leave them knowing that one person in their life can be trusted and counted on to do what they say they’ll do.  Leave them knowing that genuine and honorable people can be found in the world. Leave them knowing there are people who care about people and take them into consideration when things might impact their lives.  When you leave a partner, leave them better than you found them.  You’ll be better for it, too.

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Ah, Fall!  When the weather turns cool, we Floridians like to grill out on the deck, sit on the screened porch and create outdoor sitting areas. A word of advice to do it yourselfers: Get a permit!  Code Enforcement are ninja and miss nothing.  A friend put up a fence and deck last year and figured since he was in the woods, it couldn’t be seen from the road.   After our  tree cutters left the neighborhood, that area was exposed.  Code Enforcement visited soon after and he’s going through the whole application permit inspection fine process.  He doubts it will pass inspection and he’s ticked because he poured money into it and knows it’s his own fault for cutting corners. If you insist on doing it yourself off the record, make sure it is built to code so it will pass inspection if they ever find you.  My woods look so inviting from the street, I made it easy on them and gave my Code Enforcement officer permission to walk onto my property at any time.   BOLO. They will find you.  Code Enforcement are like ninja!

Today was the perfect follow up to attracting yesterday’s scattered energy where I spent an hour being miffed at a pal’s change of plans.  I got over it when I realized that while I waited for her to call, I got my billing done a week early.  Good always outweighs the “bad” when I look for it.  Last evening I lost my WiFi connection and fooled with it an hour before getting it back.  I knew something was up, with me attracting scattered stuff.  So today begins well, I drive into Melbourne to deliver the October Horizons Magazine and call a friend as I leave downtown Melbourne. We speak on the phone until I am almost home, where I realize I had two more stops I didn’t make.  I drive back to Melbourne, but not really bummed since it’s a nice day and it’s still early.  I come back to relax with the rest of the day off when a friend calls and the wordpress blog I set up for her at www.kathryn-flanagan.com is down.  We both get error messages when we try to sign on.  When I try to get into the control panel, it tells me my password is invalid.  What???  Like yesterday, I am once again attracting scattered energy. Continue reading →

Take the next 3 weeks to reflect rather than initiate something new. Mercury goes retrograde October 4 through October 24.   On November 11, Mercury will be back to where it was when it went retrograde, meaning whatever you leave unfinished this week, you will have the chance to properly complete it after November 11.  I think Mercury Retrograde  gets a bad rap.  Since Mercury rules communication, people say “oh everything’s going wrong, that’s Mercury retrograde for you,” and that’s not the case at all.  Mercury Retrograde just means review, reconsider, return for more info. Pay extra attention to detail.  Check everything twice.  Slow down during this time, to be as effective as you can be. The way to make the most of Mercury retrograde is to not let it have any power over you. Stop keeping track of when it is.  If you can’t do that, then make Mercury retrograde a time for you to be extra careful paying attention to details.  During the retrograde, your time is best spent looking back in review – not looking forward.   Continue reading →

Hello and welcome to the October 2014 edition of Horizons Magazine. Halloween! Samhain! Time to don a mask, dress up and celebrate!. Halloween is a socially acceptable time to wear a mask, and the crazier the better. But we all know people who wear masks all the time. Some wear a mask to avoid letting on that anything is triggering their emotional pain. We accuse another of wearing a mask to project the reality away from ourselves and our own mask. And it comes at the cost of knowing who we actually are. Like Dorothy and her friends in the Wizard of Oz, we’re all trying to find a Wizard to make everything ok. Blinded by the yellow brick road, we embark upon the perilous trek to the Emerald City. We get there to have the Wizard put us through exhaustive tests with the promise of receiving our heart’s desire. Like Dorothy and friends, we withstood the trials only to find out in the end that the Wizard was all smoke and mirrors. And in real life, when you see behind their mask, if they are not ready to face who they are and what they do, they will disconnect from you until they grow into their soul. We all wear masks every day: the happy one, the helpful one, the one who cares. Like the day after Halloween, we all have to know when to wear the mask and when to put it down.   Continue reading →