“Much as we would like, we cannot bring everyone with us on this journey called recovery. We are not being disloyal by allowing ourselves to move forward. We don’t have to wait for those we love to decide to change as well. Sometimes we need to give ourselves permission to grow, even though the people we love are not ready to change. We may even need to leave people behind in their dysfunction or suffering because we cannot recover for them. We don’t need to suffer with them. It doesn’t help. It doesn’t help for us to stay stuck just because someone we love is stuck. The potential for helping others is far greater when we detach, work on ourselves, and stop trying to force others to change with us. Changing ourselves, allowing ourselves to grow while others seek their own path, is how we have the most beneficial impact on people we love. We’re accountable for ourselves. They’re accountable for themselves. We let them go, and let ourselves grow. Today, I will affirm that it is my right to grow and change, even though someone I love may not be growing and changing alongside me.” From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
Yearly Archives: 2013
Feeling on the verge and wanting to travel: Here’s why
A friend wrote that she’d been feeling stuck in a rut and asked what to do to overcome it. I sent her a link to my 13 Steps Back To Balance (also below.) She also feels she’s come to a wall and has the urge to travel, so I wrote: “You are getting the urge to travel because once you are in motion is when the ideas can come more clearly to you. Staying where you are, you only have access to the same ideas you’ve had up to now. You can’t go beyond them until you do something different. Movement anywhere, even grocery shopping in a new store in a different part of town, will cause movement within your consciousness as well. What appears to be a wall is really a billboard. It usually says, you can choose to paint anything you want here and then you can choose to move toward it. I find it’s important to write down things you want to do and be, write down things you appreciate. When you begin those 2 simple lists — the writing is crucial — ideas will come into your head which lead you forward into the next stage of unfoldment. Do anything different and do it long enough to let new ideas begin to flow, then contemplate them as they pertain to your personal life. Begin to see everything in front of you as a metaphor for what is happening in the unfolding of your own consciousness. What plays out in your physical life is a reflection of your soul’s evolution. If there’s any ick at all, do forgiveness work and make peace with the past. That in itself will lighten a load considerably. You are on the verge of awakening to a very good life. Continue reading
Tarot Card of the Day: Ace of Coins
Your Card for today. Meditate upon the meaning this card might have for you since it showed up at this exact moment. Not everyone saw this. Not everyone attracted this message onto their monitor. YOU DID. There are no mistakes.
MEANING: The Ace of Coins is likely to find you enjoying a new beginning on several levels, and this is a very positive new beginning. Your health and vitality is likely to be at a high point. The appearance of this card is usually the sign of a turn for the better in terms of fortune and wealth, and sometimes it can even indicate gifts of money, or inheritance from unexpected sources. It does not mean that someone has to pass over for you to receive this inheritance. You are likely to be feeling optimistic, upbeat, and hopeful about your future. Things should be going well. You could well be starting something new very soon, this could be in the realm of work or personally, but either way, it’s a good thing. Continue reading
13 Steps Back To Balance
I’ve found the best way to get anyone to want to change to a better life is to let my own life be my example. To let my life be my message. To let others feel hopeful that good things can come their way if they redo some self talk on what the future may hold. Got some stinking thinking? Write a script and read it to yourself everytime that other thought comes up. Sound silly? I don’t care, it works for me. It’s mostly just reminding myself what I already know. Repeating phrases that I know to be true and repeating them long enough that they overtake the other thoughts and replace them. Phrases like these: Continue reading
If you think it’s about you, it’s probably about them. If you think it’s about them, it’s probably about you.
Today I got my wings as I freed myself from an unnecessary tether. It feels AWEsome! Thank you, Universe.
Ignore the chaos of others and it will soon leave your life
A friend is all up in arms over what so and so said. When people kinda stalk you and kinda talk about you unkindly, don’t let it bother you. Ignore it. Don’t even react. You don’t even know it’s happening. Your life is your message. It will pass soon enough. Add no fuel to the flame. Just get on with your own good life and pay no mind to anyone who doesn’t want to be part of it. My 88 year old aunt gets panic attacks watching hurricane updates. We’ve not had one since 2004 but she makes herself a basket case glued to the tv, running the ugly “what ifs” through her head. It gets exhausting when it becomes the main daily topic. You stop it by simply turning off the tv. Stop watching the movie that is driving you crazy, whatever it is. Take your attention off the chaos and it will drop out of your life. And if a hurricane is really coming, you’ll know in plenty of time to prepare yourself. Until then, get on with your happy life.
Two people, two experiences: not always on the same page
A friend was confused that someone was openly giving her a hateful stare-down in church. I told her that anyone who can muster that much anger first thing Sunday morning and feels the need to openly display it needs to be left alone. I reminded her, as Rev. Beth said at Unity of Melbourne yesterday from The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz: don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions. The funny thing, my friend said, was that their argument was months ago and she didn’t even know he was still irked. They’d had no contact, so she figured it was over and done. No one can weave with you a bond of discord if you contribute no strands to the weaving. Here one party had been feeding off their own anger for months yet the other was unaware of it and unaffected by it. My brother was banished by our dad at age 18 and stayed away for 37 years thinking the entire family was mad at him. He didn’t know our dad told the family he’d died in 1966. Our dad was troubled, bipolar and alcoholic. Continue reading
Tarot Card of the Day: 8 of Swords
Your Card for today. Meditate upon the meaning this card might have for you since it showed up at this exact moment. Not everyone saw this. Not everyone attracted this message onto their monitor. YOU DID. There are no mistakes.
Introduction: The 8 of Swords may be a sign you need to acknowledge your own role in a bad situation. When the 8 of Swords appears, you may be unaware you are holding your own self back. Do you fear moving into the future? Are you wary of getting hurt by a new situation? Think through what it is that you’re afraid of. A little reflection can yield big insights and understanding will ease your fears and bring forth opportunities. Continue reading
How do you choose to feel today?
Since we are in charge of how we choose to feel, I choose to feel DELIGHTED that I get to live this life I have, right here, right now. I choose to feel blessed that I get paid to do work I find fulfilling with people and a world I love.