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It doesn’t matter whether we think we’re drawn by love or destiny. We attract the ones we need for as long as we need to work out the issues we have. Woe be the partner ready to work on theirs when your mate isn’t.  Some partners can’t feel alive unless they continually poke at each other’s wounds.  Jeff Brown says, It’s often difficult to distinguish a soul-mate from a wound-mate because powerful connections excavate the unresolved emotional material that each of us holds. The stronger the connection, the stronger the light shining on those dark places. Some wound-mates truly do contain the seeds of our soulular expansion. But not all wound-mates are soul-mates. Sometimes they are toxic connections masquerading as something more heightened. Sometimes they are destructive battle-grounds with very little possibility for expansion.  It’s an important distinction. We want to go where we grow.

Wound-mates: Those relationships that are sourced in unresolved emotional patterns, issues and holdings. Not to be confused with soul-mates, which will also trigger shadowy material to the surface, but which hold a greater deal of promise. At the heart of soul-mate connections is an opportunity to work with the shadow in a growthful manner while wound-mates just flounder in the mud, trigger after trigger, downward spiral after downward spiral, attached at the waste. If they don’t help you glow, then let them go.

(Excerpt from the ‘Sacred Feminine Rising’ Healing Course)