In today’s reading, one topic was the ever popular: the G spot and how to get her boyfriend to find it.  “Does he NEED to find it?” I asked, “Are you unsatisfied without it?” No, she admitted, but she wanted to experience it, so they went online and did everything they were supposed to and still – no G spot. Knowing where it is because I know my own body, I went online to research what was being said. I wondered who writes the articles about which positions to engage in.  I wonder how many men are spinning their wheels trying to do everything some site tells them will work, instead of asking their partner, who may not even care about finding it. Based on the women who’ve discussed the topic with me through the years, finding the G spot is the least of their worries. They are still waiting for their partner to find the other pertinent parts. The clitoris is the analogue organ to the penis in a man. It is the seat of the nerve sensations known as orgasm. Asking a woman to have an orgasm without direct stimulation or contact to the clitoris is exactly, precisely the same as asking a man to have an orgasm without stimulation or contact to the penis.  But few will have the conversation with their partner. Their loss. Speak up. Give your partner all the tools they need to please you, or forever hold your peace. The best gift you can give your partner is knowing  your own body.