I believe people can stay friends after breakups.  Just because you love each other doesn’t mean you have to be together.  Just because you’ve lost the lust for a mate, doesn’t mean you can’t stay happily together.  Just because you argue doesn’t mean you have to split up.  Just because you split up and separate doesn’t mean you have to divorce.  Just because you divorce doesn’t mean you can’t still hang out together for mutual interests.  If each one follows their heart, they may indeed part ways but still everyone wins and you can have the best of all worlds when you understand that.  The person I care the most about in the world is an ex boyfriend who’s married to a friend of mine.  She’s is the perfect mate for him and he adores her and goes out of his way to do for her.  He’s a do-er, constantly coming up with something to delight her.  He and I talk on the phone every few weeks and that fulfills something deep within me that no one else fills.  Do we want to be together now?  I believe his response to that jokingly posed query years ago was “There’s not enough therapy in the world for that to happen.” Which proves my point.

With people I have love for, the farther I can stay away from labels and boxing in what “we have together” the freerer I feel and the better we get along.  Each time I’ve gotten married, always to men I loved, suddenly how I felt about them changed and thus began the downfall of the relationship.  I believe our relationships should be fluid, allowing for change and growth, and that vows and promises can be amended as life situations evolve.  I do not believe in until death do us part.  I believe in I choose to be in this union as long as it’s meaningful, reciprocal and uplifting to be in.  As soon as someone is sincerely unhappy and unsatisfied, they should implement plans to be elsewhere.  This is how friendships can remain after breakups.  We don’t yell and scream, we don’t say hateful things.  We realize for it to work, both parties must be nurtured by it.  Whether that is familial, platonic, romantic, sexual, business, contract, it’s all the same.  Love it as it is, through all the changes.