A toddler’s prefrontal cortex isn’t fully formed = no self control

“My favorite reply to a parent scolding their child in public for “something they’ve been told not to do” is to remind them that their prefrontal cortex isn’t fully formed yet which means they don’t have the executive functioning for self control. Instead what they are doing is encoding a traumatic response pattern in their child’s limbic system and in their actual body. Which will not help them later in life at all.”  David Jacques

When “thinking positive” doesn’t help — you were just taught another set of wrong thoughts is all

I did a reading last night for a friend with a lot of health problems.  ”I try to think positively” he said, “but it’s hard to think positively when I can hear my bones pop and crunch with every step. I am depressed because I’m in pain all the time.  All I can think about is how much it hurts and that I will have to deal with this the rest of my life. So don’t tell me to think positive.”  The problem  is that he’s not yet learned how to phrase a positive thought.  It’s like people who say that affirmations don’t work.  If your self talk isn’t working for you, you just need to know how to phrase  it the right way.  Repeating the wrong thing to yourself all the time won’t help.  Reminding yourself of the right things can help you begin to move out of your current situation.  And to remember the right things, you need to say the right words and they need to be true and they need to have meaning for you.   Continue reading

Don’t worry about WHERE the money will come from

In a session with a friend last nite I was asked a typical question: “Where will the money for a new house come from?” This question is always asked from the standpoint of a certain level of understanding. The good news is our understanding is always upgraded with every new bit of knowledge. FIRST, discard the idea of what you can and cannot make money doing and discard the idea that you need to know WHERE the money is going to come from. It’ll come from wherever it is right now. Don’t wrack your brain tryna figure out how or from where. 

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Insist that people pay and they will

Many spam calls lately have been offering to collect my debts from clients who haven’t paid. I don’t do business like that. If they pay, they get service. If not, they don’t.  That way I don’t contribute to them going into debt.


If you make people pay, they will pay. Those who don’t will go elsewhere and make room for those who do pay. They really will.

Andrea’s September 2021 Editorial

Andrea de Michaelis

Hello and welcome to the SEPT 2021 issue of Horizons Magazine. This time last year I was pouring over seed catalogs and deciding what to plant in October when it cools off. Tomatoes, collards, kale and peppers for vegetables; Thai, lemon and holy basils, rosemary and parsley for herbs and I began dozens of sunflowers. My entire back porch turned into a greenhouse for seedlings and garden supplies and I was out there all hours.

By July this year, 8 months later, the tomatoes and peppers were almost done, the herbs and collards still going strong. It was a rewarding project but a lot of work. In retrospect, I shouldn’t have begun a vegetable garden at the same time I was transplanting dozens of tree saplings to my west yard for privacy from the new home built next door. But it paid off because now, just one year later, there’s a line of trees and bushes giving us privacy between our properties, and my west yard is lush and green again. 

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Sept Horizons is now online, here are the horoscopes

September 2021

The September Horizons Magazine is now online at September 2021 Horizons and here are the horoscopes.

Aries – (March 19 – April 18)

You are in great shape, perhaps a little agitated. All month long, successive influences push you to reach out to others, collaborate, exchange, and love… Your moods are changeable but somewhat balanced, and you can nurture interesting, enriching, or profitable communication with your loved ones. You consolidate your achievements, settle down in a particular material or moral ease, leave room for others, and enrich your relationships by stronger or more numerous bonds. This is an excellent month to meet new people and charm some of them.

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You can be a Vision Keeper for loved ones in the path of the storm

There’s a storm out there.  During times like this, it’s important to remember that if you’re in the path of it, prepare as well as you can, then know that it can pass right over you and NOT leave you devastated.  Your home can be left standing when all around it may not. Remember that is a possibility and it’s tied to your belief and expectation.  It’s possible for every one of us to experience the storm fully, yet be unharmed and un-inconvenienced by it. Knowing that and believing that helps.


If we’re NOT in the path of the storm but have loved ones who are, we can help them right where we are, sitting in bed in our pajamas. When The Weather Channel  shows the storm front moving closer and closer, we can watch the storm image on the screen with the sound muted, take it into our meditation and do some Vision Keeper work.   Continue reading

A shift in attention allows me to read between lines

Image by Alex Knight

When I got to my desk this morning, I saw Tuxedo Sam had walked across my keyboard overnight and typed a bunch of gobbledy gook. But it seemed like a whole lotta typing for a walk across and seemed to have a rhythm to the number keys. As I’m looking at the letters on the screen and looking at the keys, I almost think I see a word but then it’s gone.  When I’m lazy I sometimes typo a 3 instead of an e. When I shifted my attention from the 3 on the keyboard to the line below where the e is, suddenly I began to see words. Kinda. Then I saw them clearly.

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Mercury Retrograde through the Signs

retrograde-meansI think Mercury Retrograde  gets a bad rap.  Since Mercury rules communication, people love to say “oh everything’s going wrong, that’s Mercury retrograde for you,” and that’s not the case at all.  Mercury Retrograde just means review, reconsider, return for more info. Pay extra attention to detail.  Check everything twice.  Slow down during this time, to be as effective as you can be. The way to make the most of Mercury retrograde is to not let it have any power over you. Stop keeping track of when it is.  If you can’t do that, then make Mercury retrograde a time for you to be extra careful paying attention to details.

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Discover what people are asking about at www.answerthepublic.com. You enter 1-2 keywords and it creates a wheel for you with clickable links to search result answers that were given when people typed those words into search engines.  AnswerThePublic listens into autocomplete data from search engines like Google then quickly cranks out every useful phrase and question people are asking around your keyword. Google searches are the most important dataset ever collected on the human psyche. Discover an untapped goldmine of ideas and insights.

Here I did one with the words “life mission.
Here I did one with the words “make money.